When the child’s fantasies become dangerous
Dreams and fantasies are characteristic of all children from an early age. Such an interesting way of thinking gradually wanes over the years, as with age, a person thinks more rationally and no longer gives the imagination the will.
In fact, so that the child’s thinking develops non-standardly, creative abilities and inclinations appear, it is simply necessary to fantasize. A child who knows how to invent and dream, grows liberated, open, kind, easy to contact. Developed thinking is an integral part of the child’s psychological development. Remember your childhood, when lying on the grass, you came up with images for floating clouds, or could arrange a real battle without a single toy. All adults, too, were once little inventors.
But, nevertheless, parents are often concerned with the question of where to see that trait of children’s inventions when they are already bordering on the danger to the psyche.
Very often there are situations when yesterday the child associated himself with a good doctor, a lifeguard swimmer, and today, with a furious cry, he flies around the room and ruins everything around him, and in the kindergarten he offends other children. Fantasies suddenly cross the line of what is permissible and become aggressive. The child is increasingly attracted to war, crushes, breaks down, destroys under the guise of monsters and villains, enduring hostile attitudes in everyday life. And now he already associates with the Evil of another person and can begin to fight against him physically.
If this happens with your child, you should immediately identify the reasons for this behavior. Often a real experience that traumatizes the psyche can be transferred to the game.
The seen violence, scandals in the family, resentment and waiting for punishment – all this can lead to aggressive fantasies. A child who is capable of violence is more often convinced that he is not loved.
In addition, an aggressive form of imagination leads to watching movies and cartoons that are not suitable for the kid in the age category. A preschool child can not yet clearly delineate the image of good. And if, for example, it seems that the positive hero of the cartoon (Batman, Superman, Man, Spider) in the fight against evil and injustice destroys physically their opponents, the unheeded psyche of the child perceives this as a reality. There is a substitution of the concepts of Evil and Good, in the child’s head they simply mix.
The actions of parents in such a problem are understandable: you need to limit the child from inappropriate cartoons, videos and films, do not involve your child in viewing adult movies that seem to be the most innocuous content, for good reason there is an age limit.