The importance of rituals in the life of the child and family
Children; great conservatives. They easily let in life the traditions and rituals. The assurance that the morning will begin with the kiss of the mother, and the dad will read the evening fairy tale, helps the child to navigate in this, incomprehensible; life. Everything new at first is wary. It is important for parents to remember this in order to grow a healthy person who knows how to appreciate traditions. The baby carefully keeps small, secretions: mother’s kisses in front of the kindergarten doors, the candy on duty in the pocket, unknown from where every morning comes. The day will be familiar. Rituals can be loved, uninteresting, compulsory. With this, the child is ready to put up. Lack of order in life doom the baby to nervous breakdowns, whims, riots. This is his defensive reaction to the unknown.
Sometimes traditions and rituals are themselves established in the family, then the child naturally integrates into the general rules. It can be Sunday meals at the grandmother’s or a trip by the whole family on Saturdays to the park. The kid waits all week long for the weekend, tries to behave well in the kindergarten, learns new: it’s nice to get praise from your beloved grandmother.
Some system of child behavior is formed by parents intentionally. This is compliance with the regime of the day, nutrition, cleaning teeth, washing hands before eating. Even changing into pajamas before going to sleep helps to fall asleep more easily, if it became a ritual.
Adults know that the child must rest, so they send him to sleep no later than ten in the evening. Well, if this ritual is observed invariably, then already a mention of the time of sleep creates a calm, calming mood. You can not let a child for good behavior violate the regime. In this case, going to sleep will be perceived by him as punishment. The child who sleeps the next morning will be easily excited, capricious, can not concentrate on classes.
In addition to health benefits and sensitivity to knowledge, there are rituals that are no less important for the upbringing of children.
The child loves to live in a predictable world. Waking up, know that for breakfast will be your favorite pancakes. Upon leaving the school, he will be met by a smile from his mother. At six o’clock in the evening the father will return from work. At eight in the evening on TV will show cartoons.
When the family does not have strict rules, and life is built on surprises, the child tries to get support, introducing his own rituals. They eventually become obtrusive habits. Example? To drink only from the mug, to arrange scandal because of that favorite shirt in washing, and in new he for what will not go.