Should the child share toys?
Not so long ago I received a letter. It says:
Hello. I have two children, my son is 4 years old, and my daughter is 2. My son often offends his sister, he is greedy. We recently bought him a car, which he loves very much. He rides it at home. When a little sister wants to just sit on it, he does not allow it. But after all, she is so interested, the age is so. I constantly teach my son to share toys with other children, I explain that it is so right. But he still does not allow, he cries: This is my toy! Do not touch! How to explain to the child that he is not greedy? My husband is hardly at home, he works a lot. With the kids all the time I am, my husband does not deal with children. Tell me how to teach our children to get along with each other?
I want to say thanks to Svetlana for this letter, for the interesting question touched upon in him. This topic is relevant for many families, so I decided to write this article.
Many parents believe that their children must necessarily share their toys, which is so right. If the son or daughter refuses to do this, they are called greedy. Think, are we, adults, ready to share with others with your mobile phone, laptop, ornaments, give them your purse or car? Really, if we do not share these things, then we are greedy? Of course, no, it’s even funny.
I hold the same opinion as the author Catherine. A favorite toy, a toy of a child, he does not have to share. There was a problem with us with common things, when the sister came with her son, they could not share the candy, they found a way out. We bought a kilogram of sweets, the most diverse, and went into the yard to share, as soon as my son realized how nice it is to make the happy children who are next to him changed it. I'm not saying that this method is for everyone, but he helped us.
We had three children in the family and never had quarrels on this topic. Simply everyone had his favorite toy bought for him. I think that when children are very small, they will all take everything from everyone (even a spoonful of a mother), but they will become a bit older and need to make a clear separation between; mine; your; and;