Savage: or why the child does not communicate with peers
There are open-minded, sociable, talkative children, and there are also those who shy away from contact with other children. If your child belongs to the second category and, having come to the playground, stands aside, or does not want to participate in general amusements, then it is worthwhile to understand this issue and help the child to socialize.
The child’s desire for solitude often causes troubling thoughts from parents, they begin to torment themselves with questions: What are we doing wrong? What is the psychological problem? .
Psychologists unanimously assert that for the age category 2-3 years the state of estrangement from peers can be a common thing. During this period, the closest friends of the baby are parents and close relatives. At home he has everything necessary for the development of the personality and meets the need for communication and games. Therefore, neobschenie with peers is fully justified.
The very first experience of communication with people provides the basis for further relationships in society. For a child it is important not only to be able to speak, but also express their emotions: shout, laugh, get angry, see the reaction of others. The behavior of children is difficult to predict, and this enables the child to seek solutions, approaches to communication. It is in the relationship with peers that the child learns to seek a way out of conflict, defend himself, reconcile.
By the age of 4-5 years, children begin to be actively interested in others, get involved in common games, communicate and get to know each other. If your child is left alone by the age of this, it is worthwhile to identify the reasons for this behavior.
The child can be by nature closed and shy. Such babies hide behind their mother, shyly say hello, do not even like to talk in public. It is difficult to deceive nature, but you can gradually instill openness and courage.
Not the ability to communicate and express emotions.
The child could not simply be taught to communicate. If it is not common in the family to share opinions and experiences, and parents are introverts themselves, then it is difficult to expect a different behavior from the child either. Therefore, it is so important to find time for conversations and active games with the baby.
A kid may simply not want to obey the general rules of the game, be on second place among peers, adjust to the majority. Nevertheless, even in the junior groups of the kindergarten there are already several leaders who set the rules of behavior and games.
The baby can accumulate negative experience with peers. He could be hurt, hit. Perhaps he was in the company of children very different in age, so he was either incomprehensible their games and conversations, or he missed communicating with younger children.