Features of the psychology of raising children up to one year
The first year of a child’s life is a stage that has a colossal influence on his entire future life. Never again will he grow and develop so quickly, and never again will he be so helpless and addicted. His physical and mental health is completely in the hands of his parents, and if it is more or less clear with physiology – the baby is not sick, his height and weight are normal, he is cheerful, then everything is in order – then the psychology of a child of up to a year is a mystery behind seven seals.
Why is he crying? Maybe he’s just being naughty? Maybe manipulating? And what if we dilute it? ; These questions do not give rest to moms and dads.
Relatives vied with each other to advise – you were raised! .
But are we always happy with how they raised us?
How many can boast of a complete lack of psychological problems?
In search of answers, modern parents turn to popular articles and scientific research, but here they will be disappointed. Experts sift through theories and hypotheses, but they have no true answers. In the end, the methods of upbringing have to be chosen, relying on intuition, and still the relevant information can come in handy. Perhaps in order to justify their views or, if they do not agree with the new tendencies, to informly refuse to follow them.
One of the most controversial issues in the upbringing of an infant is the reaction to crying.
Should parents immediately respond and eliminate possible causes of discontent? Or a crying child can be left in the crib if he is dry and recently ate. There are two diametrically opposite answers to this question:
- Traditional approach: cry and cease, let him develop lungs or gross sometimes you need to give a rush. Fans of this method believe that the child from an early age should be actively weaned from the desire to be on his hands, too frequent attachments to the chest, awakening in the middle of the night. For this it is worth to suffer a cry; sooner or later the child will learn that screaming does not bring results, and will stop demanding unnecessary or harmful, according to the parents.
- A detocentric approach. This view of the psychology of a child under the age of one denies the need and the use of crying. Children think that a child should not cry alone. If parents can not find the physical causes of his discomfort, then they must eliminate psychological. Typically, infants require physical contact with their mother, because they lived in her body for 9 months and about the same amount of time they need to get used to an isolated existence. According to the theories natural parenting , it is necessary to satisfy the need of the child in wearing on his hands, a joint sleep with the parents, prolonged breastfeeding as long as necessary.