What should I do if I constantly shout at my child?
Your child has grown up, and sometimes behaves so badly that it starts to take you out of patience. It seems to you that he clearly knows what are your most vulnerable points of pain in the soul, and deliberately presses on them, simply because of harmfulness. And as a result, you rush to scream. Perfectly understanding that the baby is not even a year. Between themselves in the playgrounds, moms with strollers complain to each other about themselves. Only you can hear it; I scream at the child, what should I do?
What are the causes of screaming? The child freaks out, for no reason is it naughty, does not listen to you, hurls things? Or are you just tired? Or have someone offended you? Do you have nerves at the limit? Does the child bring you to tears? Are you ready not to scream, beat the child? (See why we scream at children?)
Any stressful situation, troubles in the family, the whim of the child; anger and anger are ready to pour on the baby. And meanwhile, the child is often at fault. He is frightened, sometimes offended, but more often starts hysterics even more. But you are not an insensitive robot, either. In addition, the uncharacteristic anger can accumulate, and it is bound to break through.
Excuses, say, shouting at the child, do not have the patience; sound unconvincing even for you. After all, an adult can control his emotions, and the baby is not yet available.
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When you feel anger rising from within, take a few deep breaths. Exhale as much air as possible and do not breathe for a few seconds. Count to ten, and just go out for a minute or two from the room. PATIENCE, PATIENCE, and PATIENCE!
If the cry escapes from you, scream at something inanimate, such as a sofa cushion. You can even hit her.
If the baby is already big, he is more than ten months old, you can make him a stern and angry face; this will affect him more, he will feel that you are unhappy with him. Silence is very active on some children; it is much more effective than screaming.
Noticed; The more you scream at the baby, the worse it behaves. Everyone who wants to talk to you more than once said that you do not need to raise your voice to a crumb. But that’s why you can not shout at the baby, especially; the baby? There are several reasons.
- At this age, he just does not understand you. And your cry can scare him so much that he starts screaming; already from fear. His cry will lead; you even more, you will get a chain reaction of cries. You still have to stop this. So is it worth starting?
How to cope with the minute emotions that lead to screaming at the child? How not to scream at the child? How not to yell? I will give you several ways that I came up with for myself
1. Realize that you will never again scream at the child
To begin with, I decided that my mother screaming is unworthy.
It is not worthy to shout at all, let alone children, who should understand and obey from a half-word (even if in fact children do not understand at all from the tenth time). Just to begin to realize that you are more N-E-C-O-G-D-A will not scream at your children! And whatever they do, no matter how hard they try, they will not be able to make you scream. As soon as you notice that you shout at the child, stop for a second and imagine yourself ... for example, the Queen Elizabeth II, or the first Queen, does not matter. Just imagine for a minute, as if in this situation a man behaved, which is for you a standard of restraint and restraint.
2. Find any excuses for your child
As soon as you notice that you are about to start screaming at the child, imagine that a totally alien and outsider or someone who is extremely unpleasant is beginning to curse at you with your words.
I have three children . The children began to scream when the third two older sons appeared altogether, they stopped obeying well, nothing helps
Thanks for the advice, I will be presenting myself as an English queen in a reality show. I used to be so-so and thought, but it seemed to me that I was a little; of that; if I did so. Now I will start to play really))) without any reproaches. For a good cause, because of their blood.
At me, the daughter began to squeal and so the ears in the straw roll very heavy to listen to it, it saves me that my windows are always open and everything is audible well and that's why I just tolerate or leave the room when it is unrealistic to listen and tolerate.
The youngest son is 9 months old. to the senior 8 years. In 10 days to school. I swear to my strength that there are no more two kids all day long. Grandmothers can sit for half an hour while I cook soup and then once a week. The husband comes home from work and is very tired and resting his weekend. Only I probably do not have anything to rest. Since there is no younger demand. Like all kids. But the elder simply izvodit. Does not understand the good. You can walk for half an hour after him:; well, take it away, read it, write the text. Crooked, faces make up. Do not yell yet. but I can not just scream. Apparently from the stress, I start to yell and say offensive words. Although I like him very much and I apologize for that. And sometimes I'm crying that I'm all over my head, mamma. I do not know where to run, and even you can not leave a child alone. Girlfriends too who with ljalkami who at job are occupied. So I'm digging in my juice. One joy soon my son to school. Although the energy will be where to put.