How not to spoil the child with a grandmother?
I was lucky with my grandmother. Sometimes it seems to me that such another is simply not! She’s such one for at least a million! Thanks to her I grew up an intelligent and decent person. It’s just a shame to be different when you have so much love, care and childhood spent in the best slogans of the nobility: dignity, intelligence, honor, education and creativity.
If tags were put on adults, then I should be hanged on me, Grown with love. This is my most real wealth! There is not a drop of irony in these words. As soon as something important happens in life, I immediately remember my grandmother’s science. She has never failed me!
When I gave birth to a son, my mother, like her grandmother, took a very correct position. It consists in the fact that help without hindering and timely questions regarding the upbringing and care of the child (Can this be given ?;,,; How to do it better ?, etc.). Thanks to this, we do not have any conflicts in the family connected with my son and her grandson. This makes life much easier!
It is very convenient when there is a grandmother who is actively engaged in grandchildren. Most of my familiar parents say with huge gratitude about this. It is very convenient when you can leave your child to your grandmother and devote half the day to your business or leisure. It is convenient, when you can go to a party with a calm soul to your friends and call your grandmother to look after the younger ones.
This is very convenient when in the first sleepless weeks after childbirth, you can call the grandmother-rescuer and sleep an hour or two. The grandmother at this time usually manages to not only take a child, but also something to cook. Yes, such an assistant in the house; it’s extremely convenient!
But one day comes, the hour X, when the grandmother begins to realize her need for a young family. When he realizes that it is very necessary. At this time, often her position from the assistant becomes the position of the head of the family. Grandmother believes that she is the main and do everything necessary according to her advice and recommendations, there simply can not be any other opinion; I’m the main and do it in my opinion!
Many young parents at this moment do not have enough spirit to contradict. After all these months, my grandmother was the main support, supported in any endeavors, consoled, helped, therefore, the first; for the command post, the parents lose, not even daring even a small confrontation. This behavior convinces the grandmother that she is forever in this family home, the helmsman.