; Bad; words: how to wean a child to swear
Sooner or later, parents can be unpleasantly surprised to hear from their child words that are completely inappropriate for children. Places where you can hear curses, many: street, kindergarten, school, TV, the Internet, even at home. As you know, any child like a litmus paper absorbs any information, and bad words are no exception.
To the bad words, we refer insults, rudeness, obscene vocabulary. If the child began to use slang expressions, which are inherently neutral, this is already an alarming bell for parents. The vocabulary of children develops with them very quickly, so it’s important to notice negative incrustations in your child’s speech in time.
Why the child began to swear and swear, and how to disaccustom him from this, we’ll figure it out together.
Depending on the age of the child, the use of abusive words can be conscious or unintelligible at all. Up to 5 years, a child may not understand what that means, or another word, causing horror and resentment in mom and dad. Hearing somewhere swearing and seeing the reaction to him around, the kid can try to use it, but do not understand what he said, and how to use this word at all. From the beginning the kid does not even realize that this is bad.
It is not necessary to react too sharply to the first attempts of foul language of the child, he now looks at your reaction, tries on himself a new model of behavior. Your correct tactic is to calmly explain to your little one that you can not speak bad words, educated intelligent people are not expressed that way, but in your family nobody talks and no one talks.
The child after five years is characterized by the development of moral and aesthetic qualities, children of this age already well understand what behavior is the norm in society, both children and adults. Using obscene and abusive vocabulary, the child most often already pursues a goal, although it may not yet fully understand the meaning of strong expressions.
In this case, in addition to a calm conversation with the child, find out why he needs it and act on this knowledge.
The reason for the swearing of a child may be a banal lack of attention from relatives. If your child tries in every possible way to attract attention to requests to play, by demonstrating his achievements, crafts, drawings, stories about his life, friends, but you do not react, the child will choose a different path. It will begin to be abusive and you, willy-nilly, show interest. The result will be achieved despite your negative reaction.
In the life of children, the period when they want to grow up faster, everywhere imitate parents, older brothers and sisters, comes very quickly. In the kindergarten or school, the child can also have a friend, an informal leader, to whom the kid wants to be like. And if a person-idol uses bad words, swears, then the child begins to imitate him, to appear more mature, as if generating confidence and strength in himself. Children are characterized by the idealization of the person they liked. If in general the image is positive, then everything that this person does is good. In collective of contemporaries idols; guys are physically strong, leaders, rebels.
Tell the child that no matter how good a person is, this cursing does not paint anyone, whoever he is. Explain that success and leadership are in no way connected with foul language and humiliation of other people; on the contrary, a cultured and decent person necessarily attains more in life.
The subject of imitation can become a movie hero, a movie hero on the Internet. Psychologists around the world are unanimous in saying about the harm of programs and films that are not suitable for children by age, so you should listen to the competent opinion of specialists and choose the right products of the film industry for your child, as well as monitor the interests of the child on the World Wide Web. It is not necessary to make these actions maniacal so that the child does not cease to feel free, having the right to choose.
Almost all children whose parents swear and foul language also begin to express themselves abusively. Close people are the most important example for a growing child. Try never to use foul language in speech, do not humiliate or call each other even in a quarrel, especially a child. Talk to older children, let them also understand that they are; role model, and should monitor speech and behavior.