6 Ways to Properly Motivate a Child
You are not interested in anything, take care of at least something – you can often hear such words from your parents. What can we do to make our children interested?
It is difficult to find a child who would gladly clean himself in his room, wash dishes, get up early in the morning to go to a kindergarten or school. When children are forced to do something complex or uninteresting, at best they refuse. Often such situations lead to conflict and abuse. We have collected expert advice for you to help you learn how to manage children. You can create a motivation for the child to learn, develop and perform various tasks instead of forcing him to do it.
There is one real story, as a man accustoms his little daughter to a pot, giving her sweets. Once, when the sweets were not at hand, he tried to give the little girl an imaginary chocolate. The girl smiled, jumped up from the pot, but it was empty. Dad asked my daughter a question about what it was. She replied that she pretended to pee in the pot.
This story is a visual demonstration of how children are smart and resourceful. Despite its age, kids quickly learn in the environment and find ways to deserve encouragement, not fulfilling the requests of adults. Moreover, the results of research show that the incentive system gives only a short-term effect.
Small awards for completed tasks help to overcome a temporary crisis – for example, when a child begins to learn letters or numbers. The reward motivates the little person to do something. Only in time he begins to depend more and more on the reward: if the baby loses it, he stops trying. The same happens with older people: while a person is paid, he works conscientiously. If a person loses his salary, he will simply stop working, because he will not have any motivation.
This rule applies to the activity that brings pleasure. An interesting experiment was conducted by scientists at Stanford University. They gathered a group of children and suggested that they paint with markers. Pastime itself is interesting, only this time it was paid for. Children really liked drawing, but when they stopped paying, they refused to continue. We can conclude that the reward kills passion and interest, even to pleasant pursuits.
Each child wants to please parents, and a response in the form of gratitude and praise is the best motivation. Tell the child how much you appreciate his successes, but focus not on the result, but on the efforts and progress made.
Many will remember this situation: a child asks or asks when you are talking on the phone, and you ask him to wait and turn away. In such cases, children continue to pester their parents and eventually roll up the hysterics so that they are noticed. The problem is not even in hysteria itself, but that the child will remember this pattern of behavior. Growing up, he will do the same. So either end the conversation over the phone, or tell the child how much he will need to wait.
How to motivate a child to study and work / psychologist Roman Edvakin
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