Little manipulators: how to respond to the child’s tricks? 10 most successful children’s phrases
Children’s manipulation is sometimes so perfect that parents only have to wonder and remember when and where their child mastered them so masterfully. Indeed, when children want something very much, they throw all their energy to achieve what they want. Let’s see how a child can manipulate adults, so as not to fall for the tricks of a small cunning.
Introducing the 10 most successful children’s phrases, hearing that even the most strict parents imperceptibly go for themselves against their own child.
Mom or grandmother looks in horror at the thermometer (sometimes heated on the battery), selects the seemingly assembled briefcase, puts it on the bed and feeds it with a tasty raspberry jam. Or, if the child is small, does not let go to the kindergarten, bears several kilometers on his hands, because the crumbs of the legs are tired, the tummy hurts. And here she is sitting near the wounded child and stroking the head, although half an hour ago warned him about a serious conversation and ban on watching cartoons.
Pay more attention and time so that the child does not have to deceive you. Some parents turn to a doctor. So either an insidious plan will open, or the doctor will find and cure a real illness (suddenly the kid does not lie?). If such performances are encouraged, it is likely that one day a child will actually injure himself so that the parents take care of him.
Of course, not him. This cat broke my mother’s favorite mug, this younger brother cut a tablecloth, this neighbor’s boy broke a window in the store, this classmate yanked Irishka for a pigtail, etc. Most often the child shifts the blame to others to avoid punishment. Such behavior in the future may deprive him of respect and friendship. Who wants to communicate with the deceiver?
Explain to the kid that you can be trusted and confess your misdeeds. Therefore, do not create an atmosphere of terror and parental arbitrariness at home, then the child will never have a fear of parental punishment. After a frank confession, be sure to appreciate his honesty and explain why this act was bad. We also read: To punish a child for occasional misconduct?
A very famous child trick used by a small manipulator to put pressure on impressionable parents and get what is needed here and now – a toy, phone, computer. Usually the word is accompanied by huge eyes full of tears, or even hysterics in crowded places, for example, in a toy store.
Do not take seriously the child's promises. The child has not fully understood the time frame, so for him it's never until next month, but always about a week.
Children tend to cause pain in words in the hope that parents will regret methods of education or next time will fulfill all their desires. Probably, and you heard a not very pleasant phrase I do not like you during conflicts with the child.
Remember that you need to teach children how to properly express anger and frustration. If you concede each time to avoid conflict, then you risk raising a real monster.
Ability to manipulate can manifest in your child at any age. Having learned about the most common tricks of small manipulators, you can in advance come up with the right actions and answers to such phrases or actions.
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