For a preschooler, suddenly burst into tears is a matter of a couple of minutes. But when my son was 6 years old, I thought: is he too adult for this behavior? At this age, the child no one calls baby.
This is already an “adult person” with his own interests, character and desires. But the transition from the state of the baby to the older age does not always go smoothly, and the child may not always be clear what behavior is permissible and which behavior is no longer. Pediatricians say that when a child of 5-6 years old is excited, hungry or even tired, he can easily resort to behavior that is not typical of his peers.
So what should parents expect from this age?
Answer: Yes. If he continues to hysteria for every reason – this is already a manipulation.
If your child sometimes cries when he is sad, this is normal. And if he makes a tantrum whenever he doesn’t get what he wants (say, when you refuse to buy the toy he likes)? This manipulation probably helped him more than once in the past.
It is logical that growing up, you will not want to part with this method of obtaining the desired reaction from you. Do not give in. Instead, ask the child a question: “What do you think, why don’t I buy you this?” Try to offer an alternative: for example, add a toy to the list of desired birthday gifts.
After the child realizes that his antics are no longer effective, tantrums usually disappear (or are less common).
One caveat: if your child regularly has outbursts of anger and they are so strong that the child cannot calm down and may even hit you, visit a neurologist.
The answer is no. You demand too much from him.
Toddlers and preschoolers are usually not able to listen to parents and try to understand the reasons for their actions. At the same time, five- and six-year-old children understand cause-and-effect relationships in most parental arguments.
But this concerns only concrete examples, but with abstract concepts it is already more complicated: for example, that some incomprehensible invisible microbes can cause their illness. Or, as I once tried to explain to my son, that after kindergarten, we should immediately go home, as soon as an electrician arrives.
But he could not understand this, and it was difficult for him to adapt to changing his own plans. He cried, shouting that we usually go to the playground on Tuesdays after kindergarten.
If this sometimes happens with your children, call the reason once, say that you will talk to him later and continue to go about your business. Return to the conversation when he calms down, and talk all over again. The ability of the child to reason, reason and understand someone else’s arguments will develop along with his psyche.
So do not worry: soon this nastyina will be able to listen to you even in the heat of the moment.
Answer: Yes. Refusal to share at this age can already be called greed.
Every child has bad days: because of a sleepless night, problems with studies or quarrels with a friend. But at the age of 6 he no longer has to be a greedy person and must comply with the queue (for example, in games), regardless of mood.
If guests will soon come with children, in order to avoid unpleasant moments, allow the child to hide only his favorite toys, and leave the rest for general entertainment. Encourage your child to play together: come up with fun, quizzes for them, or offer to assemble a mosaic. If a conflict does occur, ask your child what he thought his friend was experiencing when he grabbed his toy from him.
Talk to both children and offer to solve the problem together: so they are more likely to follow the plan they invented than if you had made the decision. If an agreement is not reached, act on the principle of “so don’t you get to anyone”: take the toy away. There is another way: use a timer so that each child plays with the toy for the same amount of time.
But it is equally important to note when your greedy person finally decided to share his favorite thing: “Did you see how Masha smiled when you gave her a toy? You guys had a really good time together playing the zoo. ”
Such a phrase increases the chance that the next time the child will behave in the same way and shows the value of the exchange of toys.
The answer is no. And yet is not the time to make the tragedy of the night of the incident.
Although children are accustomed to the pot in about 2 years, many of them over the next few years, they write at night. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, 20% of five-year-olds are written at night and most of them outgrow it on their own.
There is nothing terrible in this, after 7-8 years the nighttime “embarrassments” disappear from the life of children. But it is necessary to adhere to some rules, so that their number is reduced to a minimum.
See that your child doesn’t drink a lot of fluid for several hours before going to bed, and make sure he goes to the toilet just before you turn off the lights in his room. If, despite this, embarrassment occurs, wake the child in an hour or two, so that he went to the toilet again.
And to save your nerves, use a waterproof mattress cover (you can lay a film or oilcloth under the sheet). Make sure the child is sure that bedwetting at his age is normal, but he will soon grow up and will not do it again.
If, however, dry nights for your baby is the norm, but suddenly he starts writing, go to the pediatrician: health problems may be the cause.
Answer: Yes and no. It depends on various factors.
The development of fine motor skills in each child goes according to its own scenario and in its own time: someone is faster, someone is slower. It will depend on this whether the child copes with a fork and a knife, whether the food scatters around the table or lies in the plate.
Table manners are more a skill than a behavior, and these skills are better remembered one by one. So, if it is more important for you that the child say “thank you” when leaving the table, than his ability to use a knife, focus first on this.
A lot depends on you: set your own example. And also make the learning process enjoyable and fun. Rhymes, jokes and rhymes here are the best helpers: