In the living room, his attention is especially attracted to books, tapes and CDs. In the supermarket, he grabs off the shelves and throws everything on the floor, which he can reach from the stroller. Since the baby has learned to walk, his parents most of the time play the role of the police. “Sasha is completely tireless and always ready for new“ feats ”.
I follow him on my heels, I perfectly understand that I look like a bore, but I just don’t know what else to do, ”the mother of the 1.5-month-old son complains. And to her words could join all the parents of little taps of the same age. Meanwhile, pediatricians consider such restless behavior of children to be completely natural.
Moreover, it indicates a normal psychomotor development. If a child, from one to two years old, always behaves quietly, sits in his corner and is not interested in anything, this is more of a cause for concern, and not for joy. Irrepressible temperament and thirst for activity have their own explanation.
They help the development of thinking and the awakening of the senses. Polina, for example, likes to rummage in flower pots and delve into the cat tray not at all because she wants to annoy her mother. Thus she receives new information about the world.
From birth, the main feeling of a child is touch, it is through touch that he makes contact with the world. It is always interesting for children to touch things that are different to the touch: smooth, soft, warm, moist, wooden, glass.
They conduct tactile intelligence in order to better explore reality and adapt to it. The irresistible desire to touch everything reaches its apogee at the moment when they begin to move independently.
Some parents call this age “terrible”, but this view of things is still biased. The mother of one of the small followers of Mamai tells: “Manya has already broken in the house a lot of fragile knick-knacks that were very dear to me. As soon as she pulls up to something plump handles, I prepare for the worst.
In her fingers incredible destructive power. This, of course, annoys me, but I can understand my daughter and now I only buy unbreakable dishes in the house. ”
At the age of one and a half, children grab everything that is tucked under his arm, trying to penetrate into the deep properties of objects. Vision gives them information about the color, shape, volume of the object, and touch allows us to determine its weight, structure, material from which it is made. Of course, it is difficult to remain calm when you see that an apartment turns into a battlefield.
And yet, pushing a sandwich into the socket of a VCR, throwing books out of the closet or pulling threads out of the carpet, the child does not want to annoy you at all, he simply shows his ability to learn. The period when he wants to touch everything is a key stage in the development of thinking.
When the child pulls the tablecloth off the table in order to throw off the remote control from the TV, the meaning of the phrase “lies on. “. “At this age, all means are good to test some hypotheses and establish a causal relationship between events,” remarks Miriam Ras. “And the more opportunities a child has to apply his abilities, the better they develop.” Our cute monsters become not only smarter, but also more agile.
Playing with objects new to them, they hone motor skills.
Mom Viti recalls how her son was happy when, after repeated attempts, he managed to put the cap on the tube with lipstick on his own. “He asked for it as soon as we entered the bathroom,” she says. – Opened, tried to close, dropped the cap. Gradually, gestures became so confident that on the day when he was 13 months old, his efforts were crowned with success. And this despite the fact that the son had dozens of toys that were supposed to help him achieve the same! ”Between six and ten months, the child learns to shift things from one hand to another, to take two objects at the same time, then to throw one in order to take the third.
Between 12 and 18 months he continues to work on the development of dexterity: he is fascinated by the tasks of accuracy and games with small objects. That is why children are so interested in motes and crumbs.
For the same reason, many of them are haunted by electrical sockets. All sooner or later there is a desire to shove something into these neat holes. As soon as the parents turned away for a minute, as the two-year-old Tolya inserted into the socket a kitchen plug.
He, of course, slightly shook, but the desire to experiment did not discourage. Today, all electrical appliances in the house are protected. When curious kids comb the apartment in search of a place to conduct their experiments, they develop physical abilities that we didn’t even suspect.
Of course, it is dangerous to climb the chair, getting to the phone on the table, but at the same time the child learns better to keep balance. This stage of “pranks” and risky “experiments” is very important because it allows children to fully use their abilities and gain faith in themselves. All parents agree that the success of the children should be encouraged and self-confidence developed.
But how to react to the actions of the one-and-a-half-year-old daughter who tears up the books and contracts lying with her father on the table?
Bans on everything and everyone constrain the child’s thinking, make him withdraw into himself, or, conversely, make him want to break the will of his parents. But it is also impossible to allow them to do anything: after all, children need not only freedom – it is important that parents put certain restrictions. It helps them to know themselves better and develop faster.
Where to begin? You can limit the number of temptations by removing from the child everything that he should not touch (hazardous substances, tools, important papers.) And ensure an adequate level of security inside.
And you can arrange in the apartment a corner where the child could do everything that came into his head without putting himself at risk. If you give a child a “platform” where he can act as he pleases, he will feel that parents respect his wishes and needs.
And it is easier to put up with bans.