Often vegetative dystonia is called a “ghost disease” – because it can exist completely unnoticed. According to statistics, from 20 to 45% of children of preschool age have such a diagnosis.
But these are only those children whose individual manifestations were very noticeable and forced their parents to see a doctor, or those whose illness was discovered by chance.
In many cases, the symptoms of particular anxiety do not deliver, and if they do, they are regarded as manifestations of the nature or influence of the environment. The child responds to changes in temperature, is naughty and does not sleep well during rain.
Or the baby’s chin trembles, and he hardly calms down. Or he blushes and sweats during active games.
Or often suffer from colds when he starts going to kindergarten.
All these and other manifestations (regurgitation in infancy, unstable sleep, tendency to allergies, fearfulness, low adaptive capacity) find quite rational explanations: “I also didn’t sleep well in my childhood, it was transmitted to me from him”, “Yes, we all the family reacts to the weather like that. ”
Active visits to the doctor and treatment often begin at the age of 6–7 years, when increased fatigue, inability to hold attention for a long time, and intolerance to training loads become apparent. But the treatment is not always successful.
The second “nickname” of the IRR is the “stepdaughter of medicine.” It is a little isolated, lives by itself. It may occur at an early age, and then cease to bother, and may remain so for life.
May succumb to short-term treatment, and may require all new methods. And all because of the important role and psychological factors.
Living conditions, family conditions, emotional mood – all these are also “medications” when it comes to disrupting the activity of the autonomic nervous system.
If you need to give up something, it is better to do it unobtrusively. Why buy cakes, if the doctor recommended to give up sweets?
Or go to an amusement park, most of which cannot be skated? The task of adults is, in compliance with all the rules prescribed by doctors, to provide him with a normal, full-fledged children’s life.
Reduce the load. This is perhaps the most important point in the recommendations of psychologists, because the most pronounced symptoms of the IRR are in children whose life from early childhood is arranged in minutes. “What can be foreign language classes for small children?” Surely they are in the form of a game.
So, this is not a burden, but entertainment, ”parents argue and without a doubt take the child to lessons. But for three- and five-year-olds, even such play-related activities are work.
Especially if they pass after the kindergarten, where there are also hours of study and there are our own (to us, they also seem playable) loads. Even changing one team to another during the day can be difficult for a baby.
Therefore, no matter how much you would like to develop the child as soon as possible, to give him as much knowledge as possible, to prepare for school, still pull yourself together. The proposals in this area are the most tempting now, but parents, selecting schools, circles and sections, should clearly know the answers to the questions “What does this give to my child?”, “What will it take from my child?”.
Remember that the opportunities for children are different, and if the daughter of your friends successfully engaged in three sports and goes to an early education school, this does not mean that your child will be able to do the same. In any case, without effort and with the same joy.
Sport for children with VSD is useful. But it is better if it is in the game, and not in competitive mode.
Competition situations are often greatly experienced by children; they may even reduce the interest in the activity itself. Later, when the child grows up, he will be able to relate to it more calmly and even find interest in competitions, but for young children just physical education, recreational activities in nature, in the pool, are more suitable. It is also worth avoiding the traumatic, “aggressive” sports – boxing, wrestling, hockey.
But swimming, skiing, jogging is ideal and even recommended for children with such a diagnosis.
Limit the load of any kind should be in early September – if the child goes to kindergarten or already in school. It was at this time that the child, due to the changed regime and increased responsibility, causes failures in the work of the nervous system.
Nausea in the morning, headaches, periodic fever, pallor, bags under the eyes – manifestations of the so-called “September 7 crisis”.
Organize a high-quality child’s rest so that the beginning of a new school year in kindergarten or school will be successful. But quality does not mean saturated.
Recreational activities, socializing with friends, going to cafes and cinema – such activities should also be dosed. The younger the child, the “more modest” should be his leisure time.
In his schedule there must be a line “do nothing”.
Doctors and psychologists of the old school with all disorders of the nervous system recommended therapy with family walks. This advice can be used now.
In the evening, before going to bed, the parents go for a walk with the child. For 20–30 minutes they walk the streets without going anywhere. Parents talk among themselves, and the child walks between them, holding both hands (at the end of the walk literally hangs on them).
After that – wash and sleep. Well, you can read a couple of pages of a fairy tale. TV and computer – no, no!
By the way, such conditions will allow adults to improve their mental health.
And make sure that everything in the family is calm. So that adults love each other and the child himself, so that everyone feels good and comfortable. No, this recommendation is very difficult to give.
She’s impracticable. If there are no truly harmonious relations in the family, then they are unlikely to arise consciously, because “the doctor ordered.”
But family conditions are an important factor for successful treatment.
Moreover, in families that are well off from a psychological point of view, even the probability of occurrence of the disease will be much lower. Indeed, besides hereditary constitutional factors, injuries and pathologies in early childhood and before birth (the fetus lacks oxygen during pregnancy) there are psycho-emotional. Adverse events that change family life for the worse, education in conditions of constant tension, conflicts – all this also affects the work of the vegetative system.
Moreover, hidden conflicts are no less dangerous – because children are very sensitive and still worry if there is something wrong in the family.
For example, the situation in the family on the verge of divorce. Parents, worrying about the health of the child, decide for the time being to wait – all the more so because the quarrels preceding the decision to part are not for everyone without a trace. “We will live while together, the child will calm down, will return to normal.” But the child in such conditions is unlikely to be better.
After all, a good, warm and sincere relationship will not appear anyway, and this will be recorded unconsciously by them.
Or another situation. Parents have already parted, but dad wants to participate in education.
He arrives every week, takes the child to him and returns for another day. It would seem that everything is perfect.
However, often in such relationships there is an element of rivalry, the desire to win the dispute “who is the best parent”, and this also leaves its mark. Mom, after returning, is torturing a child, demanding a minute-by-minute report on the time spent (so that he could later reproach her ex-husband), the father finds out with addiction who the mother spends the evening with.
And sometimes grandmothers are connected from both sides. In general, sometimes such a “peaceful resolution of the situation” can be so stressful for a child that it in itself provokes the occurrence of a variety of disorders.
“Every Friday morning, Eurek has a temperature. And so for several months. We went to doctors and psychologists. “This is a reaction to negative events, anxious expectation,” they told us after the survey.
Of course, anxious. After all, on Fridays, Dad takes it. His new wife is persistently establishing contact between her children and ours, and Yurik is the youngest in this company.
I can not say that they hurt him there, but he feels himself not very comfortable there. Returns with nausea, then with a headache.
I wouldn’t give it to him at all, but what would they think there? Decide that I’m just out of jealousy … “
Of course, it’s impossible to create perfect conditions. Yes, in principle, they should not be so – a small level of stress even strengthens mental and physical health.
However, to exclude especially traumatic situations is still worth it. Keep in mind: children get used to any state of affairs (divorce of parents, living with grandmother, moving) if there is at least one person nearby who provides a feeling of confidence and love.
Even an incomplete and financially incompletely prosperous family can be harmonious, if this single parent adequately relates to the needs of the child, can give a sense of security and surround with warmth.
What did you say to the child when you left the doctor? What do you say about his disease now?
This is also important. This is how the internal picture of the disease is formed – that is, how the person himself presents his illness.
And in turn, the success of recovery also depends on it.
“All my childhood I was sure that I was seriously ill. I could not run fast, eat ice cream and be in a draft.
It was impossible to watch TV for a long time, tumble over my head and even cry. “Stop, now it will get worse for you,” said grandmother, wiping my tears. When I played on the street, the grandmother always warned the children not to throw sand at me and not to push: “Olga is ill with us, be careful with it”.
It’s even strange that children played with me at all. ”
Such an over-caring attitude can lead to psychological disability. A child in such a situation can permanently learn that he is not the same as everything, that his life should be full of restrictions and that everyone should treat him as carefully and reverently.
In the future, this may complicate not only professional but also personal life. Threats, dark warnings are not the best way to behave.
It will frighten, alarm for their condition.
Often, this is where the direct path to neurosis begins. Blaming the disease, instilling a sense of duty (“How much time I spend on you, constantly running over the doctors”) is a completely unacceptable reception. In addition, the feeling of guilt in early childhood, then often replaced by aggression, and not gratitude.
In general, the less you talk about the disease, the less you discuss it with a child, the better. This, of course, does not mean that he should not be aware of the problems at all.
But, discussing them, you should not focus on restrictions, on the need to take medicines and so on. You shouldn’t say: “How terrible it is,” “Wow, how it happened” and “What now to do?”. Attitude to the disease should be calm and rational.
Yes, it happens. All people ever get something sick, and they need to go to the doctor, but this does not mean that they are deprived of something in life.
There are many activities that are available and as interesting as those that are not recommended yet. This idea will help you to look at your state more optimistically and now will serve you well if necessary later in adulthood.