First of all, the child:
- There was time to rest.
- There was a time for favorite activities.
- Lessons were made on time.
- The habit of appreciating the time that he will carry with him into adulthood has been forming.
- There was an opportunity to become more independent.
I want to clarify right away, my goal is not to organize the child’s time so that he always has his homework. No, the goal is to give the child such a tool with which the lessons will be done as quickly as possible, so that more time is left for play, hobbies and recreation.
Having studied a large amount of materials, I realized that time management for children is a fairly new topic. However, I made the following conclusions for myself:
- In order for a child to begin to appreciate time, parents must set an example for him in this matter. If the family does not value time and do not plan, then it’s unpromising to demand that the child properly manage his time.
- The child needs to be motivated. However, you need to try not to become hostages of motivation, when for every realized motivation you will need even greater motivation. Intangible motivation is the most favorable.
- The child must be taught discipline – daily work on themselves. Because it is the discipline that gives the most real results, but not fleeting motivation. But to accustom positively.
- Time management really should work. There should be no process for the sake of the process. The child must make sure that with the help of simple solutions one can gain time for important things.
So, before you is something that will help your child quietly fit into the educational process, and move along it throughout school life.
Rule number 1. A child should not hurry anywhere.
To do this, you need to understand how much time the child spends on the execution of an action. A simple observation during the day for the child will give you a complete picture of the time costs of the child:
- how much time it takes him to get up in the morning, wash and have breakfast;
- how much time he spends on the way to and from school;
- how much homework he takes;
- how much time he has dinner;
- how much time he has after school to the circle (may differ on different days);
- how much time does it take to complete tasks in groups (music, for example);
- how much time he plays / reads;
- how much time is spent on an evening shower and a book before bedtime.
Only after you find the answers to these questions, you can plan the time of the child. Including the number of circles. Constantly pulling out the child with the words “faster, do not have time,” leads to stress and lays the habit of running without noticing the beauty around.
Remember, the child is not late, parents are late, who failed to organize the time of the child and all the time he was in a hurry somewhere. Therefore, write down the child in the circles in October, when the answers to the questions will be ready.
Rule number 2. Give your child the right to choose their favorite circle.
And you make your life easier! The child himself will want to return home more quickly in order to have lunch and time for a circle.
Believe me, this will develop a child much more than music schools imposed by us. Your ideas about the necessary circles may differ from the ideas of the child. Advice – agree.
For example, he chooses 2 circles, 1 – you.
Rule number 3. Teach your child to clean up the room and especially on the desktop. The child is able to keep in the zone of attention no more than 5 items.
If there are more than 4-5 items on his desk, the attention is scattered, homework will be done much longer.
Rule number 4. Zone the room where the child is playing, resting and doing homework.
And create conditions where the child can retire. This is important, both for mindfulness while doing the lessons, and for the ability to escape and relax.
And now we come to the main point:
1. Teach your child to plan their day.
To do this, take the sheet A3. From edge to edge, draw a horizontal line just above the middle of the sheet.
It turned out 2 parts – top and bottom. The lower part is divided by a vertical line in half. Total – 3 parts (one large at the top and two smaller at the bottom).
From the evening together with the child, write down all his affairs of tomorrow: on the most part – school (lessons), on others – homework, and extracurricular (circles, sections, excursions). Primary school student can sketch their affairs, so it will be much more interesting. First, identify cases that have a fixed time during the day (school and circles).
Also be sure to specify the time for breakfast, lunch, dinner and bedtime. Then – things without a specific time, but in the order of their implementation. Hang the list in a prominent place for a child, on a refrigerator or cupboard.
After completing the case, the child puts a tick next to the case.
Discuss with the child those times when he needs to do homework and when he can invite a friend, go for a walk, play a tablet, etc.
2. Use the hourglass.
I will tell you a secret. Any lesson spends exactly as much time as it is devoted to. If you put the child on the clock for 20 minutes and say that after the assignment he will be able to do what he likes, then it will definitely be done in that time.
If you allow your child to do assignments “in the free mode”, he can do them for hours, putting you off balance.
3. We get rid of time sinks.
This will help you monitor the child. What distracts him – during lessons, food, etc. Do not rush to immediately blame the child for slowness or laziness.
There may be several reasons – too many items or noise that distract attention, including laziness, fatigue, lack of time and planning skills. What to do?
Limit time to complete the task, learn to do only one thing until the end, deliberately switch attention every 20-30 minutes using the alarm clock, teach the child to notice time absorbers and pass them, introduce rules in the family – lunch without a TV, etc.
4. We struggle with postponing for later.
This frequently occurring phenomenon has its reasons: fear of not being able to do, boredom, lack of confidence in the importance of the matter, laziness. Of course, with each of these reasons you need to work separately. However, in school life there is often such a phenomenon, when the student is given a three-dimensional task, but he puts it all aside and puts it off, not wanting to take it because of fear of not cope or simply from unwillingness to do it.
This will help discipline. About this in the next paragraph.
5. Tame the “elephant”.
In time management, big things are called “elephants” (and minor uninteresting things are called “frogs,” but more on that later). These names seem to have been invented specifically for children, because when children find out about them, they are very amusing and thus perfectly remembered.
How can you tame the “elephant”? The answer is step by step. To tame the “elephant”, you need to take small steps of attention to it every day.
So the child, in order to cope with a big “elephant affair”, needs to be divided into small parts and daily done piece by piece. Print out to the child a drawing of a large elephant and explain that at first the elephant will approach on the trunk, then on the head, then on half the body, then on the whole body, and then on the tail. As the elephant “approaches”, let the child paint over its body parts.
These small steps must be reflected in the list of daily affairs of the child.
6. We catch “frogs”.
Slippery “frogs” are the most unloved and boring things that we all strive to put on the back burner. In children, it is usually lessons and chores. Parents are usually knowledgeable about them.
The essence of the technique is to put these things in priority and make them as soon as possible, “catching a frog”. If you give the frog a runaway, it only makes it worse, because the problem is not going anywhere, and it will spoil our mood.
It is important to teach children to pay attention to the “frogs” and immediately try to catch them.
7. Properly relax – more time to be.
The best rest for a schoolboy is during the day in the open air and at night in his bed. Sleep should be sufficient – no less, but not much more, 9 hours.
Daily walk gives the maximum switching from the lessons, enriches the brain with oxygen, provides the distribution of the load on the body, positive emotions. Therefore, strive to ensure that these 2 components never go to the detriment of the lessons.
8. We introduce the habit of family planning.
Plan weekends, holidays, holidays with your child. Hang a sheet on the fridge and let everyone write down what they would like to do on the weekends (or on holidays) during the week.
On Friday, you sit down and decide which option to choose. Discuss your success in planning at the dinner table, tell your child how much you have had and what you didn’t have and why. What did the planning of the day give you?
It is at such moments that the child will understand why all these lists and tables are needed.
9. Children are children.
Try to make the planning process as fun and interesting as possible. Use pictures, drawings, diagrams, magnets, everything that will help involve the child.
10. To remind is good.
Do not expect that the child will immediately begin to use all your tools. Therefore, leave him reminders of a particular case that needs to be done (stickers, notes, SMS).
And finally – praise your child. Self-organization is a titanic work, even for an adult. Pay attention to those things that he managed to do, and not to those that missed.
And do not go too far, because the tools should remain tools, making the life of the student easier and more fun.