The reasons why a small patient stays in the hospital without a mom or dad is enough. In addition to the inflexibility of doctors and the imperfections of our laws, which allow different interpretations (and, as a rule, there is no time to prove one’s case), there are also purely family circumstances. For example, there is another child growing up in the family, and there is no one to leave him with, or the younger one – the baby that the mother is breastfeeding.
Daddy under the threat of dismissal can not let go of work, grandparents often live in another city, or simply do not burn with the desire to help. One way or another, but if a situation has arisen in your family when a child should remain in hospital alone, keep in mind that this experience never passes without a trace for him.
Even for the strongest of children, this is a test.
No matter how much time the child spent in the hospital – a few days or a couple of weeks, he still experienced stress. And returning home, most likely “surprise” parents unusual behavior.
Metamorphosis can be different, too obvious or barely noticeable, but none of them can be left without attention.
The child who was admitted to the hospital, even the most wonderful, is in emergency conditions, namely:
- It is deprived of the usual living conditions, which is very traumatic for the little conservatives, who are almost all the children who do not sleep well in their beds or refuse to eat with someone else’s spoon;
- He masters the new day regimen – early rise and hang up, compulsory medical procedures (examinations, injections, dressings, etc.), no walks, and other restrictions and requirements;
- He establishes contacts with unfamiliar adults on his own: small, dependent and sick, he needs help in any life situation (changing clothes, toilet, eating, washing hands), and he should turn to other people and follow their orders;
- Without the support of loved ones experiencing the consequences of medical procedures – pain and fear;
- Positioning itself in the children’s society, communicating with neighbors in the ward or children in the game room.
As soon as the mom or dad closed the door, all these factors become relevant. But the crumbs have no experience – it is still too small, no strength – because of the disease.
And everyone around is busy with their own affairs, patients with diseases, medical staff – with work.
As long as the child lives under stress, he does not comprehend what is happening and does not draw conclusions, he just lives one day and gradually gets used to the new conditions. But once at home, he subconsciously “plays out” the experience and builds a new system of coordinates, where relatives and all other people can receive a new status, and the previous circumstances – a different assessment. If parents are not connected to the process, the kid is able to make wrong conclusions, for example:
- affirms that parents do not love him and therefore left;
- will be afraid of doctors, they are angry and hurt;
- start revenge on his younger brother or sister, because of which mother could not be there;
- get used to manipulating loved ones who feel guilty;
- will be secretive and unfriendly;
- refuses to obey, deciding that parents do not deserve it, etc.
To protect the child from incorrect conclusions, mom and dad must understand what exactly is happening to him. The consequences may be most unexpected and depend on many details, but primarily on the diagnosis, the nature of medical procedures and the degree of recovery.
… is always naughty
Changes in the child’s behavior are caused not only by the stress itself – mental experiences, but also the residual manifestations of the disease, as well as the consequences of the treatment.
Suppose the crumb was in the hospital with food poisoning and seemed to be fully recovered. But surely the diet, which put the baby because of the disease, and the lack of walks led to beriberi.
For a long time, the child did not have enough vitamins and oxygen, his body was weakened, hence heightened fatigue, lethargy, and as a result – whims.
What to do? Show patience and gentleness, to establish the previous regime and restore the diet.
If in two weeks the situation does not change, consult a specialist, in particular, a gastroenterologist. It is possible that the administration has led to a malfunction of the digestive system, due to which nutrients are absorbed worse and their deficit is not replenished.
Perhaps the mother herself is to blame for over feeding the toddler, trying as soon as possible to eliminate the “consequences” of the disease and return the lost kilograms. Overeating is not conducive to maintaining activity and vigorous mood.
… cries a lot
This may be fear and fatigue from the hospital, for example, the disease involved a large amount of research and intensive treatment. And besides, the child could be offended – peers or someone from adults.
What to do? Find out what happened, will help the game in the hospital.
Collect as many toys as possible – dolls and animals. The child is a doctor, the bear is sick, the fox or the goat is the nurse, and the doll makes the injections.
Let the crumb himself decide what each of the characters will do. Maybe not immediately, but after some time the baby will surely “show” you exactly what happened to him: some of the actors will surely scold the sick bear or even punish, make him eat tasteless porridge, make a painful injection, or even wipe. mop, etc. After that, take the initiative and offer such a continuation of the game, for example, a nurse came and scolded a formidable nurse, made her ask forgiveness from the baby and promise that this would not happen again.
Or the doctor allowed not to eat porridge, allowed to leave the table and play.
… sleeping restlessly
This happens for two reasons: because of the stress experienced by the child, nightmares torment him, let’s say he stayed alone in a dark room for the night, and he dreams about it. Another reason – the increased excitability of the nervous system, which can not return to normal. Nightmares are also to blame for shouts at night.
And you need to know why they appear. Or maybe at night the child has pain, from adhesions after surgery, or cramps in the leg muscles after a fracture.
What to do? It is possible that after complete recovery, sleep will recover. But it is better to wait for this and go to a neurologist who will prescribe procedures that strengthen the nervous system, for example, massage, herbal medicine, a vitamin complex, or everything in the complex.
Be sure to look for the cause of stress – independently or with the help of a psychologist, in the second – to contact a neurologist who will prescribe a procedure. Pay attention to the homely atmosphere, it should be calm and friendly.
Pay maximum attention to the child, do not leave him alone for a long time and do not insist on trifles: the baby wants to sleep with a teddy bear, let it be so, asking not to turn off the light or instead of a drinking bowl it requires a bottle with a nipple – follow his request.
… sleeping too much
If this happens in the first days after discharge from the hospital, there is nothing to worry about. Scarce recovers, sleeps, gaining strength.
It is also important to trace how he behaves during wakefulness: he plays, walks, communicates with his peers as usual – no need to worry. Even after a concussion, the child returns to the previous mode in a week.
What to do? But when in 2-3 days the situation does not change, immediately go to the doctor. What if the baby develops an infection.
The specialist will understand where the norm, and where – a symptom of deterioration or complication.
… bad eating
Much depends on the diagnosis with which the child was hospitalized. If there was salmonella, it is obvious that the appetite will not return quickly. After removal of the appendix – the same thing.
Or excision of the adenoids: any operation in the oral cavity is fraught with unpleasant sensations while eating. The second clue is that the child requires increased attention from the parents, wants to be brought to him as if he was small.
Fed from a spoon, poguhovali. He could see in the hospital as a stranger mother feeding her baby.
And his mom was not around, that is, the peanut demanded compensation from parents for their absence in the hospital.
What to do? Speak, feed with a spoon – and how could it be otherwise. Surely this trick will work quickly, not a single healthy tot will suffer for a long time, which is treated like a baby.
And besides, make changes to the children’s meal, add an element of the game. Well, if the whole family sits at the table, will communicate, joke and enjoy meeting with each other.
… does not eat anything
Mentally and physically healthy, will never refuse food. He can reject a particular dish or product, eat quite a bit, just try, but will not starve. Mom can also suppress her appetite by constantly offering sweets to the child.
But if the crumb really does not eat anything, you need to take action.
What to do? It is enough to wait one day.
If in the end of the first day the baby does not take anything in his mouth, there is some kind of problem and you have to go to the doctor or even call the ambulance.
… afraid of doctors
Seeing a white coat, the baby starts to cry, or runs away, or … There are many options, but the essence is the same: visiting the clinic turns into a real nightmare. It is useless to persuade and convince the crumb that communication with people in white coats is beneficial.
If the child is afraid of doctors, then most likely he experienced something unpleasant from contact with one of them, for example, in gastroscopy. If we act correctly, then due to the flexibility of the child’s mind, the problem can be solved.
But, alas, not always, so, experienced up to 3-4 years is likely to be erased from memory, but if the adenoids are cut out for 5 years old, the fear will remain forever.
What to do? Play the good doctors, watch cartoons about Aibolit and Dr. Plushev.
Buy a little doctor’s kit and a white robe, and let the baby treat family members, friends, and toys. Often go to the clinic, but not just like that, but with a specific and necessarily very small task, for example, to get a certificate, inquire about something at the reception, or even count the rooms on the first floor. When the child no longer afraid to cross the threshold of the medical institution, complicate the reception.
Agree with your doctor that you simply go to his office to say hello or show some minor scratch. Tell the baby that the doctor will look quickly and you will leave.
Baby get used to believe and relax. So, the next time you need a visit for a serious reason, he will not be afraid.
… started to stutter or stop talking
It all depends on the age at which it happened: if the child is very small and barely learned to say the first words, when he got to the hospital and fell silent, the situation is not the most common, but still normal. It happens that a kid is actively developing some kind of skill, in this case speech, but stress causes the skill to be lost for a while. There is a rollback, and then everything is restored again.
There is a more alarming explanation: the hospital became the trigger mechanism, which revealed a hidden defect – logoneurosis, improper development of the speech apparatus, and others. This could happen after home scandal, fright, overwork and other incidents requiring increased mobilization of the body.
The problem was just waiting in the wings.
What to do? Refer to the experts.
They will determine the cause and extent of the affliction. If it is insignificant, the baby will become a speech therapist, if essential, the neurologist should join.
… has ceased to obey, does not want to play, does not give himself a kiss and hug
All these are things of the same order, namely, the baby has moved away from his mother or father, whom he has always strived for. The decision depends on the age at which this occurred. It is possible that a hospital stay coincided with a crisis of three years, which does not necessarily fall on exactly three years.
In some, it happens earlier, in others it happens later, but somehow, the baby decides that he has already become old enough and it is not necessary to obey his mother. Perhaps he saw that other children, neighbors in the ward or ward, also behave and copied their manner. Another answer: the mother, whom the baby did not let go of the hospital, promised to return in half an hour, but left for the whole day and even the night, left one.
Can you believe her now!
What to do? For starters, remember how the baby behaved to the hospital. But it is possible that he was not very friendly even before, periodically rejected her mother’s caresses, shunned, avoided.
We are talking about hidden autism, which after hospital stress can manifest itself in full. In order not to miss a serious diagnosis, go to a neurologist. If the toddler before the hospital was affectionate, then you have to restore his confidence.
There is only one way – to promise and fulfill the promise, whatever it takes. But first learn to negotiate, do not tell the child that you will return in half an hour, report that you are leaving for chocolate juice or a toy and appear when you buy them. Another move – do not have time, call, explain that you are late.
But you can do this once or twice; on the third one, the baby will no longer believe you. Patience, caress and attention will surely bear fruit.
In order to permanently lose the trust of a small child, it is necessary to try very hard.