Is it related to genes? Maybe.
In any case, one thing is for sure: to become a father is much more difficult than to become a mother. During pregnancy, we, women, are the object of universal attention, we are surrounded by care, and the future father often remains as if away from everything that happens.
But after all, for him the birth of a baby is also one of the most important events in life. He must recognize his position not only in the future trio, but also in relation to his own father.
Psychoanalysts explain that for a man to become a father symbolically means “eliminate” his own father and take his place. There is something to raspereivatsya!
On the other hand, unlike the female, the male body does not undergo any changes, and therefore the future pope is much more difficult to prepare for the birth of a child. Consequently, there is nothing unusual in the fact that our pregnancy sometimes causes him some strange, in our opinion, reaction, which will be different depending on his psychological makeup and the characteristics of his upbringing, which was adopted in his own family.
As soon as you know that soon you will have a baby, he immediately runs to the bookstore and buys up all the literature for pregnant women. He watches your every step with concern. When he convinces you that you can’t peel potatoes and carry bags, say, of course, the language will not turn.
But when he openly hints that it is time to give your beloved cat to someone of your friends, this is too much!
Option “quivering” daddy – father- “know-it-all.” He doesn’t need to be persuaded to go to the doctor’s office with you, during the reception he is actively falling asleep to the medical staff with questions, and in the ultrasound room he comments with fervor on the screen like an experienced professor.
And what’s wrong with that, because he read a hundred articles on this topic in advance.
He is generally unusual for the rapid manifestation of emotions. And, of course, he did not jump with delight when you told him the good news.
Now he behaves as if nothing had happened. He pays no attention to the growing belly.
At night, no longer dare to touch you. Almost does not speak about the future child.
Instead of reading a smart book about raising children, he is interested in planning a summer vacation with interest, although he knows perfectly well that you must give birth in early August!
Who is he: future father or eternal teenager? A few weeks after the announcement of a joyful event, he seemed to rediscover the charms of a bachelor life: he is increasingly meeting old friends, returns in the morning, sometimes drunk, looks confused, like a guilty boy. Sometimes he calls you “mommy” for no reason at all.
You feel rather his mother, and not his wife at all. And then he begins to flirt with your unmarried girlfriends, and on the street to stare at the young girls.
“What? Epidural anesthesia?
What for?! Here is my mom. “Yes, yes, you already know that his own mother literally without batting an eye gave birth to three children, of course, boys, and even some healthy people!
You’ve heard it about a hundred and fifty. And it is just as natural that he hardly understands what is happening to you: where does nausea, mood swings, unreasonable tears and anxiety over trifles come from.
After all, he was absolutely sure that it would certainly be a girl! But the ultrasound showed that you have a wonderful little boy. He is annoyed, because it is believed that the girl is “father’s joy”, and the boy is “mother’s helper and protector”.
Does he seem angry at something? From that moment on, he begins to sneak a glance at you: now he does not like your stomach, too big in his opinion.
He will experience all the main events of pregnancy on a par with you: from toxicosis to shopping trips for expectant mothers. Friends will even joke that your husband’s belly is growing too. He takes care of you, showered with flowers, pampers in every way.
He accompanies you to all appointments to the doctor, is present with all the necessary procedures and goes with you to the courses for preparation for childbirth. It is perfectly possible to say that he will be present at childbirth, faithfully holding your hand from beginning to end. Upon returning home, you can safely rely on him: he will readily get up at night to feed the baby or change his diaper.
And, being an ardent supporter of equality between parents, he will surely want to take time off to take care of the child.