A child who sleeps quietly at night immediately after arriving from the maternity hospital is a dream that is almost impossible. Of course, there is always a son / daughter of a girlfriend / relative / colleague who slept from 11 pm to 6 am from the first days. But it is a rarity.
But what about the rest? In most infants, the ability to sleep soundly for several hours is formed between 3 and 6 months. Their internal clock is rebuilt, and they, like us adults, can sleep a long sleep at night.
They adapted to life on earth! But for some babies, the adaptation process is slower, and you will need more effort and patience to help the baby.
Let’s look at a few basic rules that will help your child sleep peacefully through the night.
Up to three months, the day of the baby is subject to the rhythm of feeding. During this period, you have to adjust to this rhythm, temporarily sacrificing your own. By following your baby, you create for him the background of calm and stability that he needs.
Feeding, bathing, sleeping, feeding, walking is a routine of the infant life, which may seem burdensome to you, but is necessary for it. Do not carry small everywhere!
Only in exceptional cases, you can take the baby to the supermarket when you go shopping, or for dinner at a restaurant with friends. After 3 months, the child’s internal clock will gradually be adjusted for 24 hours, as in adults, and then you will be able to plan joint “exits” without affecting the baby’s regime.
If the child does not sleep well during the night after 6 months, then something is wrong in organizing his sleep. When a baby falls asleep badly and often wakes up, the reason may be a lack of emotional contact with the mother. The baby falls asleep well, but often wakes up at night?
There may be problems at the physiological level: colic or excessive excitability. Consult a pediatrician.
As soon as you eliminate health problems, you can contact a child psychologist, a specialist in early age.
In the womb, the child was constantly in the dark, did not feel hunger or cold, and slept as much as he wanted. After birth, he needs to adapt to a new environment. To learn how to stay awake during the day and sleep at night, it will take him from a few weeks to a few months!
Help your child adapt, emphasizing the contrast between day and night from the first days of his life. Speak to the child during the day, encourage him to communicate, and when he sleeps, do not close the doors of his room. During daytime sleep, the baby does not need absolute silence, a small noise in the house will not disturb him.
At night, on the contrary, curtain tightly curtains, turn off the light in his room. During the night feeding do not turn on the light, do not talk to the baby.
And do not leave the nightlight on – up to two years old children are not afraid of the dark.
From the first days your baby often falls asleep in your arms immediately after feeding. It is important for him – falling asleep, to feel the closeness to the mother. But after a few weeks, gradually begin to teach the child to fall asleep in the crib to avoid the formation of a conditioned reflex.
After all, the baby gets used to fall asleep next to you, lulled by your voice and the beat of your heart. As a result, when he wakes up in the middle of the night, he needs the same conditions to fall asleep again.
The foregoing is not a rule, but an advice; rely primarily on your feelings. Sometimes the baby needs you more and needs to be held on his hands until he falls asleep, sometimes you can put him in a bed with a calm heart and enjoy a peaceful sleep. If the baby has begun to cry, do not take him in your arms at the same second, try to talk to him quietly and tenderly, sing a lullaby, put your hand on his tummy.
Perhaps this will be enough. If you haven’t been able to get him back to sleep within a few minutes, pick up and try to figure out what is bothering him.
In the first weeks you can put a crib near your bed. So it will be calmer, and the child, and you, as well as very convenient for breastfeeding.
But after 6 months it is preferable to stack the child in his own room. If you leave it in your bedroom, then very soon make sure that the light, your conversations, and the steps will interfere with the growing baby.
And you, willy-nilly, will continue to adapt to the regime of the baby, and you have to go back to your own. And, importantly, the presence of the baby can interfere with your intimacy. Also, do not put the child during the daytime sleep in your bed, it will be more useful for him to sleep in his own bed both day and night.
Habitual environment soothes the baby. So he would rather learn how to fall asleep on his own.
Tired, easily excitable, ready to worry over trifles. Of course, this is about you.
A typical portrait of a young mother, who watches every breath of a baby and is ready to cry, if he just did not finish drinking milk from a bottle. Learn to relax, do breathing exercises, take time to take a bath, go to sleep during the daytime sleep of your baby. The calmer you are, the more confidence will instill in the baby.
The child absorbs your emotions like a sponge, it feels the anxiety of the parents, especially the mother, and this naturally interferes with the normal sleep of the newborn.
Up to three months, the baby’s sleep is restless and shallow: he moves his arms and legs, opens his eyes, frowns, makes sounds … If you run to him at every sound and pick him up, then break the rhythm of his sleep. Moreover, some children need to cry to fall asleep.
Do not rush to the bed of the child in the event of the slightest noise, wait at least a couple of minutes. In this situation, it is more convenient when the child sleeps at a certain distance from the parents, for example in another room, then the sounds that he makes will not be superfluous once more to awaken the parents.
Sleep consists of several phases, which, depending on age, last from 50 to 120 minutes.
- The slow sleep phase includes periods of shallow and deep sleep, which follow each other during the night. Slow sleep is accompanied by complete tranquility: there is no facial expression, eyeballs under the eyelids do not move.
- The paradoxical phase of sleep is called so because the brain at this time works almost the same as in wakefulness. It is at this stage that a person dreams. Muscle tone is weak, but the eyes undergo rapid rotational movements under the eyelids. Our brain seems to be active, but we are unconscious. In newborns whose sleepy cycle is significantly shorter than in adults, this phase corresponds to a period of restless sleep.
From 0 to 6 months, the sleep cycle lasts 50 minutes and consists of two phases: restless and restful sleep. The baby can sleep in a row for 3 or 4 cycles.
Sleeping precedes the phase of restless sleep. A newborn sleeps 16-17 hours a day.
From 6 months to 2 years, the sleep cycle lasts 70 minutes and consists of three phases: slow superficial sleep, slow deep sleep and paradoxical sleep. Sleeping precedes the phase of slow sleep, as in adults.