It cannot be said that sex is obligatory and even necessary for a person. As you know, without sex, it is quite possible to do.
Here, for example, monks or Catholic priests who voluntarily take a vow of abstinence … Or people, for some reason, have never found a partner for themselves, ready to share a bed with them.
However, an ordinary person with normal physical and mental health without sex will probably not be completely comfortable. But also not deadly.
And even without harm to physical health, because first of all, sex is necessary for a person to psychological health.
It is well known that sex is not only our basic instinct, but also pleasure. For someone more, for someone less, for someone a fetish, for others – labor service.
What does it depend on?
Established for centuries, attitudes and beliefs rule the world of people much more than we suppose, and modern man needs to feel, truly happy, sex, including, as an obligatory, traditional, stereotypical component of the concept of “happiness”. The conviction that having sex, you do everything right and close to the ideal, of course, will contribute to the satisfaction of this process.
But! For a long time, thus, having sex, in fact, just for the sake of a tick in the social standard, you will not be fooled.
Otherwise, we would not have met so many refusals of sex from wives who refer to a headache or men’s dissatisfaction with their sexual life.
How often do men and women, in order to fulfill their marital duty, pretend to want to make love with a partner? Often. Especially if a couple is not taken to be frank with each other; the words “no” and refusal are perceived as an insult.
We are afraid to offend other people, not realizing that others will often be much more interesting to others, remaining “alive” and real. And only in this case, our partner will be able to understand what we really need, in what quantity and in what form.
What does the number of sexual acts at a time for a man depend on? There is a special term – maximum kurtosis – the largest number of sexual acts completed by ejaculation, per day.
It depends on the level of the sexual constitution, which is different. Weak sexual constitution – up to 3 sexual acts per day, medium – 4-6 and strong – 7 or more sexual acts in men. A strong sexual constitution can be defined literally at first sight.
Its owners usually have short legs in relation to the body, the pubic hairiness character is thick, with a transition to the stomach, and sometimes to the whole body. Conditionally physiological rhythm per week is the frequency of sexual acts 2-3 times, both in men and women.
Libido is a fragile concept. With prolonged stress, high physical and intellectual stress, sexual function often fades into the background. In the case of well-being in the professional field, a friendly atmosphere in the family, psychological comfort – sex life, as a rule, by its regularity becomes optimal for a particular individual and a couple.
That is, in an adult with a partner and the absence of obstructive situations on the part of health, social factors, physical exertion, sex life must be present. If it does not exist under these conditions, it means that there are some problems that may require the intervention of a specialist.
These can be: endocrine diseases, neurological pathology, mental abnormalities, accompanied by a delay in psychosexual development with a reduction (decrease) in sexual and sometimes erotic components of craving, sexual preference disorders for an object (for example, sexual attraction to children, old people, inanimate objects) and / or form (sado-masochism, voyeurism (peeping)).
The statement that a man is not satisfied with family life and one wife, by nature, that he is polygamous, is not so straightforward. However, as with all that relates to sexual function in general.
Evolutionarily, biologically, yes, it is believed that we, the people, react with greater sexual arousal and desire for a new potential partner than for a well-known old one — by releasing a new portion of dopamine — the hormone of motivation, anticipation (Coolidge effect). But there are still social and psychological aspects.
If the boy grew up in a family where there were warm family relationships, the father wanted to go home, spent a lot of time with the child, and he was well and comfortable in such an environment, then the scenario of the life of the descendant will most likely be the same. If, for example, dad abused alcohol, he was hardly at home, and his mother did not show tenderness and warmth to his son, while the topic was constantly changing in the air, then when he grows up, it will be difficult for the boy to create a stable relationship with his partner.
He will constantly look for the very “mother” in order to finally feel the warmth and intimacy that he lacked. But he does not know how to feel them, and according to the “law of meanness” he will choose women, most likely those who are aloof and the proximity of those who are afraid.
And the lack of a “monogamous” behavior pattern in the father can also interfere with deep interpersonal contacts with women.