How many read Christmas poems, made paper snowflakes, bought Christmas tree toys? How many prepared gifts, wrote cards? Santa Claus is a wizard attentive, pedantic, he has accounting and control in everything.
And those who are engaged in the process of preparation long before, with appropriate emotions, with the involvement of children, he creates an unusually festive and magical mood. After all, the preparation process allows you to tune in to a holiday, anticipate pleasant events and pastime. This is important right now, when there are no marked differences between work and rest, there are no weekdays or holidays.
We organize our lives in such a way that everyday life becomes more and more interesting, rich and vibrant – both in adults and in children. It’s good.
But at the same time, the role and emotional significance of holidays is lost. As a result, the mood also becomes smooth, without positive bursts.
And since the addiction becomes good, it is increasingly subjective that people assess their condition with the words “so-so”. This is not a mood disorder, but a status in which it is increasingly difficult to enjoy life and find pleasant moments in it. “Everything is good, but something is wrong, too common.” Proper attitude to the holidays returns the ability to rejoice.
And in children, it forms it. A list of specific cases, of course, no.
The main thing – the mood, creating an atmosphere of joyful anticipation. And, of course, a little more restraint in entertainment, shopping, while the process of preparation.
The joy of gifts and celebrations will be much more. Already on these holidays.
Santa Claus knows better than others how difficult it is to encourage parents to participate in a holiday with their children, so they often just exclude such moments from the script. Parents come to come, but dad takes a video, mom on a social network photo “matinee child” lays out. “What are the dances?
We brought you – go and have fun. ” This trend does not exist only in relation to holidays.
Parents gradually withdraw from the process of education, upbringing, and the sphere of leisure. Home birthdays are rare now (“I don’t want such trouble, besides, it’s still fun, like in a club, it’s not going to work out”).
So that parents themselves are taught to write, read, draw, is also not often (“there are experts who know what to do”). As a result, adults become more observers of the processes of education, growth, and not its active participants. A child in such conditions is anxious, and sometimes the real stress of responsibility.
If parents do not show sincere interest in his affairs, then there is no sense of support, confidence. Such children are more tired, they are anxious, suspicious. If adults are also strict on top of everything, then social fears develop from kindergarten.
It is important for a child to feel a biased and positive attitude of parents towards their affairs. And this is possible only in one case – if mom and dad are involved in these matters, too. Good moms and dads can dance round dances, draw from life and on a free theme, act out scenes from a play by roles.
They make it clear to the child that his activity is very important, and thereby form a desire for creativity and activity. On holidays, they will not have to listen to the whims and whining of “What should I do?”. Children who are engaged in a lot, become independent before others.
They perfectly organize their time and themselves find affordable ways of entertainment.
Vita has been sick since she went to kindergarten. Week walks – two sick. That cold, then sick, something else.
She just doesn’t like to be in a group of children, she knows that mother is at home with her younger brother, therefore she subconsciously seeks to get sick and be at home too. Psychologists and parents are well aware of this “disease at will” phenomenon. But Masha is sick exclusively before the holidays.
Skips all matinees, concerts, trips to relatives. “Wow, the same thing again. So many weekends, and we all stay at home for two weeks.
It’s strange to be sick at the holidays, ”says the mother. Masha sighs, agrees, but in fact this is exactly what she wants. To all sat at home, next to her, bezvylazno.
Two weeks! The causes of the propensity for diseases are exactly the same as those of Vita, only the conditions are different. Masha’s parents are busy people, and if Masha is sick on ordinary days, then she is simply called a nanny.
On holidays, parents are free, and Masha tries to get their attention to the maximum. So that is enough for the year ahead. Children “spoil” the holidays are not always that way.
It happens just a very intrusive and capricious behavior (“hang on me, do not give up”). At the very young there is a failure of the rhythm of sleep and wakefulness.
Those who are already five – seven, tend to behave badly (spoil things, behave aggressively), or tell something negative about their surroundings in the garden, school. There is one reason – children do not have enough affection and love, they are striving to get it now. The child cannot know, understand, realize that he is loved, he needs to feel it.
Through hugs, kisses, strokes, kind words, readiness to put to bed and read “until I fall asleep”. Children who get it all are calm, balanced, positive.
They easily release their parents for their adult holidays, without suffering at all, finding lessons for themselves. Those who lack sensation of love, request it in various ways.
The faster an adult finds a connection between a child’s behavior and his attitude toward him, the better. The sooner they will get on the list of good parents and on holidays they will enjoy the pleasure of communicating with a calm, agreeable child and the whole family.
A huge number of people are under stress from such objectively pleasant things as weekends and holidays. Every time they think that expectations will not be justified, real rest will not work, and relations with loved ones will only worsen.
In most cases, these people already in childhood experienced mixed feelings for the holidays. Even then, for some reason, free time was more a source of tension for them than joy. For example, parents perceived holidays as an opportunity to relax in the full sense of the word – that is, not to make any efforts at all. “We have a weekend, can you at least now not create any problems?” They said to the children, instilling a sense of confusion.
Or, for example, being in a situation of constant contact with relatives, relatives, they were irritated more than usual, they said: “But when will this weekend be over?” Or half in jest stated: “We had a good rest, we were very tired”. By the way, according to statistics, on New Year’s holidays each couple quarrels at least once, and the total number of quarrels is several times more than in any other two weeks of the year. The reasons – close and long communication, material costs, changes in the mode of life, worsening the general condition of the body.
The reason becomes any little thing. And children do not understand what and why, do not get acquainted with the statistics, they just see how parents spend their weekends, and begin to behave in about the same way.
Tense, irritable, and at the same time sluggish and displeased. Parents who are concerned about the mood of the family should first understand themselves.
Why are these days such a stress that prevents you from having pleasure, which moments are the most problematic? And then engage in positive planning – think through what you would like to do these days, so that, as they say, then it would not be insulting. There should be several options for cases in case of unforeseen situations (bad weather, flight delay, change of social circle).
But they must all be good.