How is autonomy related to sandbox games? If you think about it, every new skill that a child acquires during games is his new victory.
Scarce is aware of his growing opportunities – his self-confidence increases. And now he is beginning to take the initiative, invent his own games using different toys or materials at hand.
This is how not only independence develops, but also creative abilities, spatial thinking, fantasy and logic. You can contribute to this process.
How? Very simple!
* Avoid excessive control. Show the child how to Kulichik, will not be superfluous, but not more than a couple of times.
Then it is worth giving him more freedom and trying to reduce his participation in children’s fun. Let him observe how older kids “work”, and then try to do everything himself.
Yes, most likely, the sand will spill past the molds, and the output will not produce anything beautiful and worthy of a memory photo, but even such a result is an experience that works for the child to become independent. The kid, as it were, probes the limits of his capabilities and gradually, in the game, expands them.
* Do not put super complex tasks. You should not offer a one-year-old crumb to build a tunnel, find a “treasure”, or do something that does not correspond to his capabilities (especially if he cannot do it even with your help).
On the other hand, try to involve a child of any age in a joint game, give him the opportunity to independently discover something, explore the boundaries of a sandbox or a playground.
On the playground, the child communicates and gets experience interacting with other children. Even in spite of the fact that the activity of the child in the sandbox seems to be rather monotonous, in the process of the game there can be situations of different structure, possible action options and behavioral strategies.
The parents’ task is to help the kid get the most out of them: to teach them to share their toys, to find compromises in controversial situations, to achieve goals, to get what they want without disturbing other children’s boundaries, etc.
* Set an example. Be sure to greet children and adults who are on the playground and in the sandbox when you come there.
Show your child how to meet, how to offer a joint game and how to refuse it, if you have time to go home, how to share toys, how to ask someone else’s toy, if she is interested, how to take back your own. All these situations seem obvious to us adults, but this is not the case at all for a child.
That is why they need to be pronounced again and again.
* Watch. If the child already has any difficulties in communicating or conflicts arise on the playground, then a personal example may not be enough.
In this case, use fairy tale therapy and role-playing games: that is, at home, invent characters that will be cute for your child, use your favorite toys and play around conflict situations in which the child becomes a “victim” or “aggressor”.
* Be prudent. Sometimes it is important not only to be able to say the right phrase in time, but also to have something in store that is material.
Try not to take in the sandbox one sovochek, one mold and one machine, because this is a potentially conflict situation. Other kids will come who want to play with your child’s toys.
And if someone takes his beloved blue scoop from him, he can be very upset. Take the time to take with you a double set of the most popular toys for sand games. Well, if the toys that you take with you for a walk, suggest not only the possibility of sharing, but also allow you to organize joint games – this is an excellent reason to establish contact with other children.
For example, you have a dump truck, but there is no paddle. Offer another child to play with you: he will load the dump truck, and your child – to take and unload the sand.
For children who do not go to kindergarten or do not attend group classes, do not have brothers and sisters, the sandbox may become the only place where they can gain experience in communication with other children and learn to communicate.
The sandbox is not only a good platform for fostering personal qualities, but also a great place to hold a variety of educational games. When the construction of kulichikov a little podnadoest, try to set up experiments and experiments.
* Grab a bottle of water for a walk. Water some parts of the sandbox and see what happens. Pay attention to the crumbs on how the water goes into the sand.
Compare what kulichiki obtained from dry and wet sand. Give your child the opportunity to touch and pick sand of different consistency and temperature (dry, wet, cold, warm, hot).
Tell that it is very good to sculpt and construct from wet sand, and in the dry one, you can play a familiar game for everyone: dig up mom’s hand without touching her fingers. It is better to dig out with your hands, not with a shovel, because in this case there is not only the development of fine motor skills, but also the enrichment of the child’s sensory impressions.
* Conduct experiments on mixing sand with water, clay, earth, pebbles, spruce needles, etc. – watch and watch what happens. Conduct an interesting experiment: take a bucket, preferably transparent, put pebbles or cones into it and ask the child if there are five more scoops of sand to fit there.
Most likely, he will answer “no”, because the bucket is full. And you will tell him why he is wrong, and let him pour a lot of sand into the bucket into the “full” cones.
* Another useful and fascinating activity in the sandbox is searching for treasure in the sand. For the role of treasure will fit small pebbles, cones, toys brought from home.
Build a corner of sand, where bury treasure. The task of the baby is to find your treasure.
* Sand provides excellent opportunities for learning to count and math: kulichiki can be considered, molds, any toys, kulichiki can be compared in form and size, you can offer your child to dig holes for small and big molds, thus working through the concepts of form and size. You can build a sequence of natural materials (pebble-twig) or kulichikov of different shapes: round, square, square, round – which one will be next?
First of all, it is, of course, drawing in the sand. You can paint with a finger, stick, legs, pebbles, a stream of water from a bottle – all this will contribute to the development of the creative abilities of the crumbs. You can engage in land art – using sand and other natural materials (twigs, moss, seeds) to create interesting compositions and objects.
You can play the Magic Prints game: leave your hands and feet prints on the sand, and then finish or add them with the improvised material to make meaningful drawings – fish, cats, flowers, etc. It is useful and the design of the sand – the creation of a variety of buildings and everything that only comes to mind to you and the child. It is only important to acquaint the crumb with the technology itself: what and how to do in order for the building to be stable, durable and not collapse during the first wind blow – and then you can give him freedom of action.
Let him show his own ideas about what his construction should be: will he have a castle, a fortress or a garage? These fabulous worlds built of sand and scrap materials provide a wide field for organizing a role-playing game.
Mom only needs to offer the child to invent a story about the sandy city he built, or to play the story using toys, sticks, flowers. In the process of such a game, it is important to stimulate the baby to pronounce words and phrases about what he built in the sandbox, thereby contributing to the development of speech and imagination.
Sandbox games are not only exciting, but also useful for a child: according to psychologists, they have a beneficial effect on overall development, stimulate finger motility, learn to achieve a goal, develop creative abilities, imagination, imagination and, of course, perseverance.
You have just started to master the sandbox space, and you already hear the demanding “Mine!” Or the flood of baby crying. So, what to do when your child …
1. … takes the toys from other children. Do not panic and do not scream.
By this you will show an example of unconstructive behavior in a conflict situation, and at best the kid will simply drop the toy out of fear. A child up to 3-4 years old is not yet able to understand the feelings of another child, and even your explanations will not solve the problem. Watch it.
If the owner of the toy does not actively protest, do not interfere. But if the conflict is gaining momentum, distract your child with another toy or a change of activity and quietly take it to the side.
This recommendation is relevant even if you are unable to organize a fair exchange of toys.
2. … throws sand. It is almost useless to explain that this is bad. Scarce plays, he is fun and interesting, he is passionate about the process.
But in such situations, you need to act without delay, because your child creates a safety hazard for other children. It is best to say that the game will have to stop, and it will be possible to play it only when the other kids leave.
If the kid does not listen to your words, try to distract him or lead him to another area.
3. … became a victim (someone broke his kuliki, selected toys, etc.). Keep calm and appreciate the reaction of the child. If the tears come to their eyes, and the sponges are gathered in the fold, you should hurry to help and take the situation into your own hands.
For example, go together to the abuser and calmly ask him to return the toy. If the “invader” does not want to give it away to anybody and does not agree to change, you can call on his parents for help. When the situation is not so critical, and the reaction of the crumbs to injustice is calm, then you should not fix attention on what happened.
Perhaps he did not even realize that someone had offended him. Maybe it was a part of his idea: now these kulichiki will break the elephants – and then someone really ran up and broke.
The child calmly continues the game, since what happened logically well integrated into his game scenario.
4. … does not want to share. When a crumb does not want to share, the first reaction of almost any mother is to say something like this: “Let Petya play, he will give it away”. It turns out that we force the child to share, although he insistently and quite unequivocally declared his unwillingness to do so.
Ask yourself if you really believe that the child should share always, everywhere and everything. If you yourself adhere to such a concept and follow it through life (for example, giving your mobile phone to call everyone who asks), then set an example for your child and instill in him this strategy of behavior. But if you do not do this, and you also have favorite things, try to stand in the position of your precious child.
Doesn’t want to share now? No need to force.
You can explain this to another child: this truck is the favorite toy of your son or daughter, and now he wants to play with her. Suggest a replacement – something else from your toys – if there is such an opportunity. Try to shift the attention of someone else’s baby to another object without increasing the conflict component of the situation.
And always stay on the side of your crumbs – he will definitely feel it.