On the one hand, the answer lies on the surface: one must act in the interests of the child, be attentive to him, not blindly follow stereotypes. On the other hand, there are quite a lot of factors determining the maturity of a first grader: the child must be ready to become a first grader intellectually, emotionally, physically, and psychologically.
And, as it turns out, it is extremely important not to miss the moment of this readiness!
As a rule, at six and a half years (or even earlier!), Ambitious parents lead children to school, for whom the child’s success in school is a very important part of their own parental viability. “Such parents pay too much attention to the intellectual development of their children, and sometimes, by the age of six, the child is really ready for school,” says psychologist Ekaterina Dolzhenko. – What can I say, I know Mommy, who laments that her child is not good enough in two years! But this is extreme, of course. ”
The child should be ready for school not only according to the criteria of counting and writing, but also psychologically. The mistake of ambitious parents is that they often follow the intellectual path, while it is necessary to look wider: the child must be ready to learn, physically just sit through the lesson.
It often happens that preschoolers who were purposefully prepared for school at home are well developed intellectually. But it is impossible to be fixed only on the cognitive sphere, because, as a rule, such children are non-socialized.
They are not aware of the interests that other children live in; they do not know how to communicate and compete with them. And according to the laws of the collective, a child who is unable to compete with classmates will most likely become an outsider.
It is important that it is often difficult for small ones to sit in a class for even 35 minutes. But in the first grade, there are 4 lessons and 5 lessons each. A six-year-old child and even an almost seven-year-old child can sometimes withstand such a program, but at what cost!
Often in such cases, the haste of parents can turn into health problems: among first-graders, there are frequent cases of diseases of the nervous system, gastritis, and stomach ulcers.
Before school, parents should check whether the child is ready – emotionally, physically, psychologically, intellectually. Consult a psychologist. Pay attention to whether the baby is anxious (by the way, sometimes, behind anxiety, there is interest in the same school, and this is not bad).
It is important to find out if the child wants to go to school in fact: children are very susceptible to empathy and often involuntarily in their desires voiced the wishes of the parents.
In addition, rarely one of the parents is aware that a child has 11 years of school to study. And today’s first-grader-six-year-old in the sixth grade, when the loads increase dramatically, will be 11 years old, while his classmates are almost 13. The difference in psychophysiological development is very large.
Especially difficult for boys: to be the smallest in height in the class is not easy.
“Zoya went to grade 1 in six and a half,” says Tatyana. – And in my thoughts I did not leave her in the garden for an extra year. In modern school you need to study for 11 years!
Many people say that giving a child to school means breaking off his childhood, but in my opinion, this is not so: my daughter, although a third-grader, still plays both dolls and toys. And studying well. I think my zeal is connected with my own life experience: I went to school at seven and a half, although I had to go a year earlier.
I have been reading since I was five, I was good at math – in general, I was well prepared for the first grade. But my mother was dissuaded from this step, and I stayed at home for another year.
It was an absolutely empty, senselessly spent year: I did not go to kindergarten, I was sitting at home with my grandmother, and I was unbearably boring! ”“ Indeed, it was a dead year, ”recalls Tatiana’s mother,“ and I still regret that I listened then relatives and left Tanya for a year at home. ”
“If the child is fully ready for intellectual activity, is physically sufficiently developed and psychologically drawn, then he should be given to school at six and a half, and even a little earlier,” says psychologist Ekaterina Dolzhenko. “But look very carefully.” Indeed, in the same situation, you can either give him an extra year of golden childhood, or do a “disservice” by blunting an interest in learning and thus depriving you of the opportunity to harmoniously develop and learn.
After all, study, no matter how surprising it sounds, can bring both pleasure, satisfaction, and the joy of knowledge.
“I was going to give the child to the first grade at seven and a half years,” says Natalia L. “But they said in the kindergarten that my girl was ready for school, and recommended to give a year earlier, which I was not ready for: the school was not yet they chose, and before the start of the school year there was only half a year left. “Let him go in a year and be in the class of the oldest, strongest and most intelligent!” – I remember, I said then. “It’s not necessary at all,” the teachers answered, “on the contrary, if she relocates the extra year in the garden, she will not be interested in the first grade and you will not force her to study at all later!” I consulted with the teacher, with the psychologist … And I sent my daughter to school. Almost half of the children in our class turned out to be six-year-olds, and they all study well at the same time. Daughter copes with the program.
When she gets fives for control or wins in the Olympiad, for her this is an additional reason for pride. On the game of dolls, however, there is almost no time left.
But to a greater degree she is upset not because of this, but because you cannot take toys to school. But these are school rules! ”
And yet, in 6 and a half years, not everyone is ready for school. For example, a child may be able to read and count, be large and strong, but psychologically he also needs to grow up. “I gave my daughter to school at seven and a half,” says Anna Sh. “The girl is homely, timid, at six and a half has not read, and in our family there was no doubt, no discussion. Now Xenia is in the second grade, she is good at studying, she is serious about fulfilling her assignments, but among her classmates there are many children who are younger than her.
In physical development, Ksyusha is ahead of many; she is the largest girl in the class. ”
The majority of parents still prefer to not rush to school. A simple example: if you type “To school at 6 or 7” in a search engine, more than one million answers will fall out, and most of them say that you should go to school closer to eight years.
Some even regret that it is impossible to give the child at 9, “so that he must cope with the loads”.
In contrast to the “ambitious”, the parents of Mitrofanushek put at the center not the intellectual, but the psychological and emotional readiness of the child. In part, they are right: the outstanding psychologist Lev Vygotsky asserted that in children from 3 to 7 the leading activity is play, and cognitive extends from 7 to 13 years.
But experienced educators and educators know that the principle of “better late than never” does not always work. This is confirmed by Svetlana Yuryevna Kondyakova, the senior teacher of the kindergarten “Pearl”: “Indeed, there are children who, during an extra year spent at home or in kindergarten, can easily lose all their interest in studying. The saddest thing is that the motivation to learn, to learn, disappears.
In the first grade they will be bored and uninteresting, and if so, what success in school can we expect in this case? The overslept children remain for another year in kindergarten, where they continue to play, and in the future they perceive learning at the level of the game. ”
Almost to the third grade they have to go through what they have long known, and the school for them is a very boring story. As a result, by the fourth to fifth grade, it is found that they do not have a tool for learning new knowledge. Psychologists believe that for genuine interest in learning – namely, this interest is the main engine of school success and academic achievement – the process of learning should be a little complicated, be in the so-called zone of proximal development, to cause the researcher’s excitement, the discoverer’s joy.
It is very motivating!