Within 9 months, the attitude of future parents to have sex will change, and this is absolutely normal. In the first 3 months of pregnancy, expectant mothers are tormented by nausea, weakness, dizziness, others because of the unusually high level of the hormone progesterone all the time want to sleep, and someone to cry – before sex at such a time?
By the end of the 3rd month, the discomfort will pass, and interest in lovemaking will return again. Specialists-sexologists share this point of view: Americans Masters and Johnson, for example, believe that in the first 3 months of pregnancy, the sexual activity of many women decreases significantly, but after this period, the period of real flourishing begins. They explain this change by the fact that the hormonal background of future mothers in the second trimester changes, the chest and vagina become more sensitive, vaginal secretions – a kind of lubricant – are produced more, due to which the excitement is faster and stronger.
For most women, orgasm becomes brighter, and some experience it for the first time during pregnancy.
Starting from mid-pregnancy and up to the birth, an abundant belly dictates the need for future parents to develop new postures; sex life is changing, and at this point it is very important whether you are able to discuss with a partner the possibilities of experiments. Strangely enough, it was men who at that time were shackled by the changed situation more than women.
If at the very beginning of pregnancy, future fathers tend to rather ignore the fact of pregnancy, then, having noticed a rounded belly or the first “photo” of a baby – an ultrasound image, they become afraid to harm him. But there is no reason to worry, because the future baby is well protected from the outside world. It is surrounded on all sides by the amniotic fluid and membranes of the membranes of membranes, which, in turn, protects the muscles of the uterus, and the uterus – the surrounding tissues.
But that’s not all: from the bottom, the baby’s “guard” protects the cervix and cervical mucus – there are substances in its structure that “neutralize” harmful microorganisms. Try to explain to the future dad that the baby is safe.
Closer to the term of the appearance of the baby sex can provide a good service to those expectant mothers whose term of delivery has already passed. Prostaglandins – the hormones found in male sperm – prepare the cervix for childbirth and sometimes help to “start” this process.
As you can see, at different stages of pregnancy, both the expectant mother and the expectant father relate to sex differently. It is up to their parents to make a decision on whether they should be engaged in, based on their beliefs and. doctor’s recommendations.
Since mid-pregnancy, an expanding belly dictates the need to confine to certain postures. Here are a few safe, from the point of view of doctors, options.
There are situations when, due to the danger of provoking a miscarriage, premature birth or infecting a child with sex, it is better for the future parents to wait. To answer the question whether you are at risk, only a doctor can.
He will make sure that there is no threat of miscarriage or bleeding. During the first visit, it will be important for the obstetrician-gynecologist to learn about you, your history and well-being as much as possible:
1) did you have gynecological diseases (uterine fibroids, endometriosis, ovarian dysfunction, inflammation of the appendages) and how you were treated?
2) have you been diagnosed with “infertility” and, if so, with any medication or after which operations the pregnancy occurred;
3) how the previous pregnancies proceeded and how they ended;
4) whether there were ruptures of the cervix during labor;
5) are there chronic diseases;
6) Do you feel any pain in the lower abdomen, in the lower back, or if there is bloody discharge?
7) Do you feel discomfort or pain in the lower abdomen during or after having sex?
This information will help your doctor prevent such troubles as bleeding after intercourse.
Frequent sex can cause premature labor.
TRUE . Too frequent contact (more than 3 times a week) can cause irritation of the cervix, and therefore premature labor, because semen contains prostaglandin hormones.
A pregnant woman is less desirable.
NOT TRUE . The hips and breasts are “rounded” and become very sensitive to caress.
Baby knows that his parents make love.
NOT TRUE . This is perhaps one of the most extravagant fantasies, which most often appears after the 2nd or 3rd session of the ultrasound, when future parents see not just the child, but the child of a particular sex on the monitor screen. In fact, the intimate relationship of mom and dad does not affect the emotional state of the baby.
In the first months of pregnancy it is better to make love less often.
TRUE . The risk of miscarriage occurs more often in the first trimester, so you should be careful.
There is a risk to infect something baby.
TRUE . During the last 2 months of pregnancy, the mucous membrane of the expectant mother, including the vagina, is very vulnerable. As a result, the risk of infection is increased during contact with the carrier of the infection.
Therefore, the future dad should be examined, even if nothing bothers him, because some diseases do not manifest themselves.
Make love can be yes the very end of pregnancy.
TRUE . The exception is medical contraindications, which the doctor will tell you about. Keep in mind that in recent months the most convenient for the future mother will be posture on the side.
During this period, the doctor will advise you to postpone sex if:
- there was bloody discharge;
- you feel pain, heaviness, tension in the lower abdomen and lower back;
- you already had miscarriages;
- pregnancy occurred after a long period of infertility;
- you or your husband has a sexually transmitted disease (for example, gonorrhea, trichomoniasis, syphilis, acute chlamydia, herpes);
- during the ultrasound, it turned out that the chorion (the future placenta) is located very close to the cervix. Then, regardless of whether the expectant mother has any more complications during pregnancy, the doctor will most likely advise you to delay sexual intercourse, because they can trigger bleeding. It is better to wait until the placenta rises, which often happens later.
At this time, the doctor prohibits sex, if:
- you feel pain in the lower abdomen, in the lower back, in the uterus;
- there was bloody discharge;
- water began to leak;
- you had miscarriages or preterm labor at this time;
- the placenta is located very close to the cervix (according to ultrasound);
- the cervix does not perform its locking function (whether this is what the doctor will determine during the examination);
- you or your husband have been the carrier of a sexually transmitted disease pathogen;
- after sex, you feel discomfort or pain in the uterus.