Dear Olga, do not worry so much. The situation is not as dramatic as you think. Everything is explained very simply – the baby perceives you as an extension of yourself, part of your body.
After all, you do not agukaet, do not kiss and do not rejoice in your hand or leg, so the baby does not. Of course, you are overwhelmed with love, and you want to receive strong, bright emotions in response.
For this you need patience and wait.
But remember – you are still necessary for your baby, you are an integral part of her life. The fact is that the child and the mother, even after birth, are an inseparable whole, these threads are especially strong in the first few months. It has even been scientifically proven that children left without maternity care are sick more, develop worse, harder adapt to the changing environment.
Undoubtedly, gradually the distance between you will increase, especially if you decide to go to work. Then your daughter will be happy and you will be bored without you.
But, nevertheless, these binding threads will never break.
Why children are selective in their predilections for strangers is a great mystery. There is an assumption that at the genetic level, children are more afraid of men, because from them comes increased danger.
In addition, the fear of others is clearly manifested at the age of 6 months, because it is at this time that babies begin to crawl, and they have the opportunity to “run away”. However, one stage of development stimulates the next.
As for parental jealousy, this is a natural manifestation of maternal (or paternal) feelings. Instead of getting upset, learn to benefit from the situation.
First, remember that the child is very sensitive to the mood of the mother. If he feels that something is wrong, he may begin to be capricious, be anxious, so for the common good you better not be nervous once again.
Secondly, learn to benefit from even the behavior of the baby. Use these pauses to take a break, for example, or while your relatives entertain her, enjoy your favorite activity.