If I don’t give Nastya what she demands, she shouts: “You are a bad mother! I hate it!
I want another mom! ”- in the store, in the yard. I am ashamed in front of my acquaintances, it seems that everyone thinks that I treat her badly.
How to wean her from this habit? Or am I really doing something wrong? Julia, Nastya’s mother (4 years), Samara
Children are very sensitive to the manifestation of our emotions in a given situation and very quickly learn to use it. If you are easily embarrassed in the presence of others and are ready to give in to your daughter, just to avoid a public scandal, she may unwittingly use your confusion as a lever in an attempt to achieve her own. Only firmness and composure will help you cope with the behavioral licentiousness of a girl.
All parents are confronted with disobedience, but there is nothing unusual in children’s tears and shouts. Explain your decisions once, avoid endless altercations and unnecessary explanations. Do not change the already established rules, otherwise you will only convince your daughter that you can be influenced if you try very hard.
Rough cries or a fight immediately calmly and firmly stop. The main thing is to learn to ignore in the behavior of your daughter everything that, according to her calculations, should influence you: whining, loud crying, insistent demands. The girl must believe that you are quite serious about getting decent behavior from her.
Outside of the conflict situation, when the atmosphere reigns peaceful and calm, friendly talk with her shopping list, consult, praise for help and quiet behavior as often as possible. Make sure that the behavior of the girl does not affect the behavior of your home.
The actions of all adults must be coordinated. Deal with possible problems, help to find the right strategy for behavior in difficult situations and to find the “right”, nepidnye punishment will help a family psychologist.