Indeed, the problem of child immunity is relevant for all moms who have kids 1–2 years old in the family. Today, the kid painted the table with colored pencils.
You patiently explained to him that it was impossible to draw on the table, that this should be done only in the album. You even wiped the table together.
And now, after three days, everything happened again. It seems that the kids do us spite.
But it is not. The main reason for which children violate the established rules – impulsivity.
Unexpected arisen impulses and craving for knowledge do their work. At this point, the child is least interested in the consequences, because the research process is much stronger than some instructions of three days ago .. In addition, the ability to generalize in a child is not yet developed.
And this means that if mom said not to draw on the table, then this instruction concerns only the table, no one forbade drawing on the wallpaper or in my mother’s diary. Common sense as the main engine of conscious action is not acquired overnight.
It should be borne in mind that the baby’s speech is still very limited, even a passive vocabulary may be insufficient to clearly understand what his parents are demanding from him. Kids are just beginning to understand difficult phrases. And the most important thing: it is necessary to take into account that a child of 1–2 years still has insufficiently developed memory.
In order to master most everyday skills and rules, the crumbs will need to be repeated several times, adding clarifications, explanations and comments. The ability to memorize in children is directly dependent on their age.
The older the child, the more information he is able to keep in his head.
In the overwhelming majority, memorization in a crumb occurs involuntarily, in the process of some interesting activity, regardless of his will and consciousness. It is incredibly difficult for a child to learn some instructions and consciously remember any established rules or a complex sequence of actions at this age.
As the child grows up, his mental abilities develop, and with them the memory.
Home rules are contrary to the knowledge of the environment and restrict freedom. The child is not interested in their assimilation.
This is from the point of view of the baby. But they provide security and order.
So, are important.
You talk repeatedly about the same thing, and the child eventually learns it. The kid repeats the same actions, and with each new attempt he gets better and better.
This is perhaps one of the most effective methods of memorization and assimilation. When you do your usual household chores, encourage a crumb if he tries to help you.
Do not chase him and do not scold him for “spinning under your feet.” All actions, repeating time after time, will be learned. Discarding the temptation to do things quickly, try to always use the impulses of the child to copy you and engage in the same “game” as you.
Do you plant flowers at the cottage? Give spatula crumbs.
Water the garden? The baby must have its own cure. And in the end, be sure to praise him.
Telling dad about the day lived, do not forget to mention that the kid did everything with you and helped me very well. Such methods reinforce the desire of the child to participate in all household chores, develop independence, imperceptibly and without coercion they teach many skills.
1) Best of all, memorization takes place in children involuntarily, in a game or an activity that is interesting for them.
2) It is important to emotionally positive consolidation: a vivid impression, your joy and praise.
3) To master the skill you need motivation: try to arouse the interest of the child or enter a reward system.
4) For better consolidation, practice is needed. Try again and again what is not yet possible, and be sure to apply what you have already learned to do.
5) Simplicity and clarity – the main assistants in the development of complex skills. The most difficult tasks will become much easier if you break them into small and simple steps.
6) Be sure to consider reachability goals. Tasks must be age appropriate.
7) Some tasks require reflection. Sometimes you need to explain to your child why it is important to remember and follow your rules (you should not throw sand or run away from your mother).
8) Parents’ love, support and confidence in their own baby – the main engine of all achievements.
9) Action Plan saves power, eliminates mistakes and gives the necessary confidence in their own success. The demonstration materials, rhymes, songs, educational games and other tips for kids are invaluable.
It is very important to choose the right time. Comments about the earth spilled from the flowerpot should follow immediately, and not during bedtime. Otherwise, it will be like the game “guess who the mother is talking about, who the prankster is.”
The kid no longer remembers that in the morning he managed to play a young agronomist. After all, after that, he combed the cat, searched for his bear in the dirty laundry basket and caught green balls on the dinner plate.
Also, for reminders or instructions, it is necessary to choose the appropriate time from the point of view of the child’s sensitivity. Not when the child is tired or just woke up when he eats or plays with enthusiasm or when he is unwell or excited by the arrival of guests.
If you give instructions to the baby to dress for a walk or to get ready for dinner, for bed, make sure first that the baby perceives you. Do not drop phrases in passing.
Go to him, ask to escape from an interesting game. Sit down next.
You can ask what he is building, what he is doing. Share your impression of the efforts that he has made. Show your interest in the baby and simultaneously turn his attention to yourself.
Now you can tell him that in five minutes he will have lunch or it’s time to get ready for bed. Allocate enough time for all baby affairs.
If a child masters work with a spoon, then during the meal all your conversations should be about it. Do not complain about the dirty tablecloth, do not blame for bad behavior on the playground or for the torn and wrinkled book.
Enter the reward system. For example, you can buy stickers in the form of stars and glue them into a “notebook of children’s achievements”. Celebrate every success in skills and behavior.
Having accumulated a certain number of stars, ten or five (not too much), a crumb can count on a small gift.
Give your baby enough attention. Keep a close eye on his progress.
Mark them with an approving nod or comments: “Now you were able to collect all the pencils and not one lost. This is because you have order on the table. ” Not enough exclamations like “Oh, what a Masha we have clever!”.
The baby must understand what her action brought mom joy. Positive attention and praise as a bright spot are fixed in the baby’s memory, and your conclusion connects this bright emotional sensation with a specific activity.
Lack of your positive attention provokes whims, excessive negativism and disobedience.
When making demands on your baby, always consider its capabilities and age features. It happens that the mother of the same age expects from her, even a very tiny, baby, exorbitant achievements. All this happens only because he has moved from the status of “only” to the status of “older” child.
This will provoke only a protest, and the protest, in turn, – your irritation. Your dissatisfaction will have a devastating effect on your child’s self-esteem.
He will cease to believe in his own strength and in your love and will unwittingly begin to do everything more clumsily and awkwardly. Inflated demands can cause not progress, but regress, a step back.
At the time of the assimilation of any activity, do not overload the baby with instructions. Your instructions should be short and clear.
Difficult business break into easy stages. For example, the request to “clean the room”, when the room is completely collapsed, is beyond the ability of the baby to follow it without clearer instructions.
Give brief instructions and enough time to complete them: “Put the markers in a yellow cup … OK. Now put the doll in the crib … Great. Pick up these two books and put on this shelf … “
Make sure your baby has enough information to follow your instructions. He should know where the laundry box is located, in order to carry his dirty T-shirt there, or learn where the place for his shoes and hats is, in order to be able to undress neatly after a walk.
Think up or find poems on the Internet and try to use them in your fun lessons. All of them are sure to be great guides and tips in the daily life of the baby. With the help of poems, you will help your child remember important rules of behavior and even vital information, such as your street and house (you can without an apartment number) or your last name.
Do not be stopped by what the crumb still says badly: very soon the rhymes invented for the baby will bounce off his teeth.
Use demo materials. Together with your child, make a poster of the tip “what follows what” so that the baby can easily remember what to put on when going for a walk: first the panties and the tank top, then the shorts, socks, shirt, and finally the shoe and the cap.
Stick the demo material right in the hallway. Stick on the dresser pictures corresponding to the contents of the boxes: in one drawer we keep socks, in the other – tights, and in the third – underwear.
So the baby, undressing, will easily arrange his things in places and find them when he dresses.