Crying is a normal emotional reaction, the first and most important way a child communicates with you, the only way to report that something is necessary for him now or, conversely, brings discomfort. For example, the reason for crying can be a simple desire to feel the touch of a mother.
It is important for a child to instinctively feel that mom is near and he is safe. Having received this feeling, he will calm down and stop crying.
First try to understand the cause of crying, then it will be easier for you to make the right decision and deal with the problem.
At the age of three months, each child cries quite often – on average, up to three hours a day! This especially applies to the newborn of the first month of life: he has no positive emotions yet, and you can only observe negative ones.
An infant who does not yet possess any other means of communication except voice can express her feelings with the help of crying. Loud, in full voice, demanding crying signals that it is time to eat.
A whine means something is stopping him (heat, light, smell, wet diaper …). The pain is expressed mournful, sometimes monotonous, or even with a moan, crying, which does not subside, no matter what you do, even if you take the baby in your arms.
A jerky cry, characteristic of children after 2 months, may mean that the pussy simply seeks to attract attention. Sobs, meaning anger, appear later – by about 8 months.
A very important reason for crying is illness or feeling sick. A crumb can complain in this way, for example, in abdominal pain (colic).
Usually such crying is incessant, often aggravated after feeding.
Some of these shades of crying require the most simple actions: feed, touch, stroke, pick up, change a diaper, cover it warmer or vice versa … But how to react if it does not help?
Perhaps the child cannot fall asleep because something has prevented him. And it also happens: when night falls he suddenly experiences an attack of inexplicable sadness, which is quite natural for such an unprotected age and is not at all dangerous. Wait a little, about 10 minutes, give the crumb a chance to calm down on your own.
Your excessive care can sometimes only stir up his irritation.
If the child is too often taken into his arms, he may become moody. Up to four months, the baby is able to feel the emotions of his parents well, but he does not connect his crying and other reactions with them.
Therefore, he does not use crying to achieve his goals. But in the future, if you run up to the kid every time at the slightest cry, he will notice and remember without fail. Therefore, do not respond to crying too often – you risk your “freedom.”
In order to gain strength, sleep peacefully, learn independence (even at such an early age!), A child needs a certain dose of solitude. Yes, and you need a personal life!
The child masters the speech, imitating it. That is why it is so important that the information that you convey to him using a word (that is, verbally) is accurate.
Even with a newborn one should speak correctly, not distorting words, and also use the correct syntax.
But to help your child understand the sounds first and then the words, try to modulate your speech: speak articulately, with short phrases, dividing them with clear pauses, articulate more clearly, intonate more than usual, emphasize important words, accompany your speech facial expressions. To such a manner of speaking you will come instinctively, as it has been happening from time immemorial, with almost all parents all over the world.
You will see how your baby likes it! He will see and feel, and then understand that you are referring to him. Such a manner of speaking is said: “the language of the mother” or “the language of the nurse”, but nothing prevents the practitioner from doing so.
A little later, from about 7−8 months, when the child begins to learn, and then understand certain words, double your efforts. Articulate more actively, because the baby learns pronunciation, also watching the movement of your lips.
Finally, when you offer him to repeat something behind you, make a phrase – for him it is more interesting than just single isolated words.
A newborn reacts to intonation and all its nuances, because thanks to her he perceives the feelings and mood of the person who turns to him, despite the fact that the meaning of the statement is still completely hidden from him. Only by 8 months does the child begin to distinguish individual words, and so far they are only perceived by him as signals to his usual actions. So, the word “bottle” means food, “stroller” – a walk.
He does not respond to these words out of context. Only a few weeks later, having made a discovery: it turns out, the words contain meaning! – baby will understand the phrase depending on the situation. By 11 months, a familiar word, spoken out of context, will be able to attract his attention and lead to a certain thought.
After another 1-2 months, he will be able to establish a connection between the word and the object out of his field of vision. At this point, understanding of the true meaning of the words begins, and the process will progress rapidly.
Talk to your baby more often, at first, not worrying too much about whether he understands you.
To develop thinking, it needs to be stimulated. But will too early development lead to something good? Children progress in development individually – each in its own rhythm.
The child needs time not only for vigorous activity, but also for peace of mind in order to adapt and get used to the newly acquired knowledge and skills. But do not overdo it! Excessive stimulation of thought processes through educational games and toys can cause aversion to learning.
Offer your baby only what is appropriate for his age. Do not put in front of the crumb obstacles that he is not able to overcome physiologically.
Do not forget that new human research is prompted by victories, not defeats.
You can encourage research activity of the baby or treat it with disapproval. As a result, the baby begins to take risks and learn the world more actively or avoids risk.
And it largely depends on the feedback it receives.
The baby receives information about the world through sensations, gradually organizing it. By 8 months, coordination of eye and hand movements occurs: finally, he can grab what he sees, first with the whole brush, then with the so-called “tweezers” grip, and then with the more perfect “finger”.
The crumb begins to understand the meaning of his movements and try them, repeating endlessly (such reactions are called autoecholalics). Then he tries to achieve the same goal by different means. He begins to walk, and this greatly expands the field of his activity and makes him unusually active.
Touching everything is not only natural for a child, but also necessary. Movement and cognition of everything new thanks to sensations contribute to psychomotor development, and the constant inhibitions to touch everything and to climb everywhere will slow it down. Hide dangerous objects and those that are especially dear to you.
Leave the rest to the baby, but do not lose sight of it for a second – the child can make experiments that will not occur to an adult!
The term “development” refers to changes that over time occur in the structure of the body, thinking, human behavior in three areas: physical (size and shape of the body and organs, changes in brain structures, sensory and motor skills), cognitive (covers all mental abilities and mental processes) and psychosocial (personality traits and social skills) are both interrelated. First, the newborn explores the world around him visually – with his eyes.
He examines the room where he is, staying at the individual items that attract attention. Then, with the development of muscles and the emergence of new motor skills, the child strikes the subject in the vicinity with a cam and aroused his interest, and a little later he grabs and pulls into his mouth. Some more time passes, the crumb already crawls to the object of interest to him, touches it, picks it up, knocks, shakes, inspects, tries to bite; in every way trying to determine what he is good at.
Soon the baby makes a discovery that the objects exist by themselves, even if he does not see them and does not play. He starts looking for toys, calling out to his parents.