Even in three or four years of a hyperactive baby one cannot be left alone in a room — it will turn everything upside down. In kindergarten, hyperactive children find it difficult to live by clear rules, get used to the strict routine of the kindergarten, make friends with the children and obey the teacher. It is difficult to deal with such a child – he cannot concentrate for more than a minute, turns on a chair, gets distracted, then jumps up and laughs out of place.
Parents can not keep up with their little hurricane, and he himself is not able to manage. Sometimes it begins to seem that this endless race will have no end … And yet it is quite possible to help hyperactive kids, it is important not to lose time.
Why is this happening?
This is a typical portrait of a hyperactive child. In infancy, these little ones can hardly stand swaddling, turn out, get angry if they are constrained in movement.
And even while eating, a hyperactive child spins and fusses, because, unlike ordinary children, he does not experience the so-called “state of autarky” – half-asleep pleasure. When the hyperactive pea grows up, he cannot concentrate on anything for a long time, instead of playing, he breaks objects. Mom and dad often believe that their baby is just very agile and occupations that require perseverance are boring and uninteresting to him.
Parents turn a blind eye to warning signs, and when a child goes to school, it turns out that it is very difficult for him to learn, although he is naturally endowed with high intelligence and extraordinary abilities.
“From the very birth, Mitya was a very cheerful, cheerful kid, but he was very mobile, he could not calm down even while eating. When I got older, I noticed that the child doesn’t hold attention well, will turn the toy in his hands for a few seconds – he throws up, grabs a new one, without trying to study it, play.
Now Mitya is five years old, he is completely out of control, he is breaking toys, and indeed “smashing” is his favorite activity. Something to read, to assemble a designer or a puzzle to Mita is not interesting, and after all we are two years in school. ”
First of all, it is worth contacting a neurologist: he may prescribe soothing medicines and massage. Just a little child does not need to swaddle, hamper in movements. However, such a baby requires constant monitoring, attention and communication more than other children.
When the child becomes older and he begins to show “love” to destruction, parents need to stop this chaotic, meaningless activity – it is dangerous not only for the outside world, but also for the child’s mental structure. Many moms and dads say: “Yes, we don’t feel sorry, let them break it – it will throw out excess energy out and become calmer.”
But the child will not be calmer, since the hyperactive kids have a constant “self-plant”. If a baby does not help in time, hyperactivity can turn into serious mental and behavioral problems. Therefore, the task of parents is to direct the child’s excessive physical activity to the right direction.
You can give the baby in the section of swimming, dancing, figure skating, karate, wushu. When the child grows up, he will be eager to play football, basketball and other team games.
Many children love equestrian sport. Hyperactivity does not need to be suppressed, it should be adjusted and teach the child to manage their desires.
“My children have a small age difference, but how are they not alike! The older one is calm, reads fluently at 5.5 years old, loves to design, draw. And the younger one is restless, from the early morning, as if wound up, he runs, worn, and is not capable of anything for a long time and with concentration.
The day does not pass, so that he does not break something, break it, do not hurt himself … I had to take a nanny, because my grandmother did not keep up with Vanya for a walk – he is inattentive, imprudent and disobedient. ”
Why is this happening?
Hyperactivity can be compared with a phenomenon that in psychiatry and psychology is commonly called “field behavior”: a child fixes attention only on what is currently in his field of vision, but then he forgets about the subject being studied as soon as he turns his eyes to the other side. and in his field of vision gets a new object. Hyperactive children have virtually no concentration of attention, they have no real conscious interest in the world around them.
Therefore, parents, making comments, can observe the lack of reaction to their words.
If the child does not respond to the appeals of adults, mom and dad must support verbal instructions with action. Do not just say “no,” “don’t go here,” “don’t do it,” but take the kid by the hand and lead him to another room if, for example, the child touches other people’s things or tries to break something.
It is very important to inculcate an interest in learning for purposeful work to the hyperactive kid. Such children are perfect sports, mathematics, singing, theater art. If a hyperactive child likes something, he is ready to do what he loves for hours and achieve serious results.
Of course, a person who suffered in childhood hyperactivity, and in adulthood will have its own characteristics: such people need a constant change of action, “life in motion.”
When you decide to reprimand a hyperactive baby or forbid him something, sit in front of him so that your face is at the level of the child’s face, take it above the elbow (if it breaks out, firmly hold it) and, looking the child directly in the eye, speak in a very stern voice . A person must be strict – so the child will concentrate better and understand what is wanted of him, since the hyperactive baby understands facial expressions better than words.
It must be remembered that children with hyperactivity by nature are very good-natured and cheerful, and bans are often violated unconsciously. Of course, such a child should know the word “no”, but parents should use the reward method more often.
For example, agree with the child that he will sit quietly for 5 minutes and will draw. If the baby has survived, be sure to praise him and treat him with something tasty: a nut, candy.
Promotion can be symbolic, but it is important that it be. Then the baby at the conditioned-reflex level will learn the correct patterns of behavior.
Gradually, when the child learns to lead and obey, the “sweet” rewards can be carefully canceled.
“Already at the age of three, Nastya was diagnosed with“ hyperactivity ”. The neuropathologist prescribed a course of treatment that helped us a little, Nastya became calmer.
But with concentration attention problems remained. At the school preparatory classes, the teacher says that the baby is very tired even from a little mental exertion, she is distracted, she answers questions poorly. ”
Why is this happening?
An ordinary child understands when to focus, listen to the teacher and complete the task. They are driven by various motives: the fear of getting a bad mark or comment, a desire to excel and earn praise, a desire for leadership.
Hyperactive baby, of course, also wants to be the best student and delight parents. But he is unable to “gather himself into a fist” and overcome difficulties himself; he needs help.
If a child has a weak inner will, it should be strengthened from the outside, and the parents should act as a “battery” in this case.
First of all, a hyperactive child, like no other kids, needs a regimen. And to do homework or to deal with it at a fixed time.
Classes should be planned out, each task should be clear to the child. The “speaking out loud” method works well when a child together with his mother speaks out his actions.
For any effort, the child must be praised, emotionally nourished, and for the assignment (albeit with errors) must be encouraged.
“Volodya is a kind and generous child who willingly shares toys with other children, rarely takes offense, never the first to start to clash. However, the contact with the guys neither in school nor in the yard can not find.
Children are not interested with him, because according to the rules it is difficult for him to play, he constantly imposes his own rules, which he himself also violates. ”
Why is this happening?
Friendly relations require not only external, but also internal concentration, stopping at another person. And hyperactive kids are egocentric by nature, for them participation in the fate of outsiders (even close ones) people is a certain effort that is not always easy.
However, such kids can sympathize, empathize, sympathize, they are unenviable, generous. Just do not tend to think much about the lives of other people, about their interests, which is so necessary for building normal friendships.
Explain to the child that in life, as in the game, there are certain rules that must be followed if you want to be accepted into the team. If a child wants to offer his own rules, let him do it when he makes friends with the boys, but he must follow them himself.
Try to develop attentiveness and memory in your child, for this you can play appropriate games: “Find differences”, “Remember what happened”, etc. You can play with the child various situations in the puppet theater: come up with a life story (the boy tries to make friends with guys, but they don’t take him into the game) and jointly think about why the baby goes like this, what mistakes the child makes, and then lose the positive version of the situation (when the boy was accepted into the company).
“Quiet games are not for our Grisha. His element – salochki, hide and seek, football. As soon as a free minute is issued, he shouts: “Mom, let’s go for a walk!” – and he is ready to rush down the street for hours.
I can not say that he runs idle. Grisha always comes up with some kind of games, involves other children in them, but what’s alarming me is that his energy pours over the edge. The mother-in-law tells me that Grisha is a hyperactive child, since a “normal” baby cannot spin all day without getting tired.
Indeed, with his excessive activity, he tires people at home, and everyone sighs calmly only when Gregory falls asleep. The neuropathologist says that the child is healthy and such age-related activity will gradually subside, but I hardly believe him. ”
Why is this happening?
Today it is customary to rank children who are quite healthy but overly energetic to the group of hyperactive children. The fundamental difference between a hyperactive child and an energetic one is that “ordinary” activity is not destructive. A child can quickly dress up when necessary, or clean up the room at an incredible speed — the baby performs a deliberate creative action.
Scarce will be very excited and overly active, if he came to his favorite toys, which he longed to play for a long time – there is nothing wrong with that! Some children are by nature very active, have strong leadership qualities and are able to infect or suppress their energy.
However, if the activity is meaningless and destructive (and the child is permanently in this state), we can talk about hyperactivity. Of course, age is important: in a year and a half it is completely natural for a child to break something, to break it – in this way the crumb learns the world.
But if aimless destruction is a constant occupation of a 3-4-year-old child, this is a reason to appeal to a specialist.
You do not need to write a child into hyperactive just because he loves to run or play football. From about three to seven or eight years old, the child has an increased need for physical activity, and if adults try to suppress it, the baby will have a protest: the little tot will not obey, will begin to violate the prohibitions.
However, if an active child tires parents, they should think about discipline – perhaps the crumb does not understand that it is impossible to tug at dad or mom when they are tired and want to rest. Or understands, but neglects other people’s needs, guided only by their own desires.
Hyperactive kids crave communication, it is vital that they have friends. Here parents can help by inviting home classmates of a son or daughter, neighbors’ children, toddlers of their friends – it is important to provide a child’s children’s team.
Having understood the rules of building relationships, hyperactive children often become the “soul of the company” because they are sociable, open, cheerful and cheerful.