Street, beach, shop. One moment – his little pen slips out of yours, and the kid disappears from sight. Every mother at least once fell into a panic, not finding next to her child.
Some children confine themselves to a single experience with “extinction”, others do this trick regularly, forcing adults to run and worry. “Every time I get to the beach, I feel real fear,” says the mother of two-year-old Nastya. “She’s a pretty calm girl, but as soon as her legs sink into the sand, all restrictions and exhortations cease to operate.” She just can’t stay close to me.
It is worth being distracted only for a minute to spread a rug or to set up an umbrella as it disappears! Going to the beach from pleasure turned into a torment! ”Some things so fascinate the kids that they really forget about everything, including your warnings.
Before your baby is an important task – to explore the world around us. So much attractive around!
It is not surprising that he is trying to sneak off on a meeting with the unknown. So how do you teach him prudence?
Is it possible to limit the freedom of a child without restricting his initiative and curiosity? Of course, it is important at the age of 2–3 years, when the child needs to feel his independence, to allow him to perform some experiments, for example, to roll down from a high hill. Of course, under your supervision.
However, to teach a child the elementary safety rules must begin as early as possible, if we want to see him in the future prudent and responsible. In this case, it is not necessary to constantly repeat to him: “Caution!
You will fall! You will hit! ”This may lead to the fact that he will become too circumspect, constrained and fearful.
If he is up to something “risky” (he is going to see if the fish live in the fountain, for example), stay by his side, back him up and explain that he can do it, but there are rules that must be followed.
Encourage him, congratulate each time with a new small victory. It will be easier for him to take the safety rules if you show that you are taking his initiative and sense of purpose seriously. Your calm and regular support will help him withstand a temporary limitation of activity, when you need to give a hand or stay close.
At the age of 2-3 years, the baby will be able to learn the basic safety rules if you repeatedly repeat them for him. Give examples: “Bear cubs never walk in the forest without a mother-bear”.
Before you leave the house, explain to the child what you expect from him in public places. Choose a moment when he is calm, and explain that there will be a lot of cars and people on the street, and therefore you need to be close and hold your hand so as not to get lost and not get into a dangerous situation.
Tell him that at home, on the playground or in the park, he can run and indulge (of course, within reasonable limits), but on the street, in shops, in public places he should behave well – first of all for his own safety.
Out on the street, remind him of this again. If he takes a toy for a walk, ask the child to explain to her the rules so that his little rabbit or truck will not get lost. This will make it easier for him to remember your explanations.
Regularly draw his attention to more adult children holding mom’s hand.
Despite all your admonition and vigilance, small incidents do occur sometimes. When Ilyusha ran across the road without waiting for his mother, she slapped him and then squeezed tightly in her arms, which astonished passersby. “I certainly regret my violent reaction, but I was so angry and scared!
Ilyusha burst into tears and could not calm down for a long time, probably, this form of punishment seemed to him very strange: slapping in half with hugs ”. Of course, we know that slapping is not an option, however, in a stressful situation, we often react impulsively and unpredictably.
And if this happens, it is important to explain to the baby what he “got” for. Tell the child how scared you are for him, because he put himself in danger.
Try to calm down yourself and calm the baby, because it often happens that the child is not less afraid than an adult. And only when the panic attack passes, talk seriously with him about what happened. Explain to the baby that even if the road is empty, he still should not try to cross it by himself.
It would be nice if other family members explained the same thing to him: dad or grandmother.
Quite often it happens that one adult calmly reacts to the fact that the baby runs away for a walk away, and the other begins to worry if the crumb retires literally five meters away. As long as the baby is small and impulsiveness prevails over common sense, it is advisable for all family members to work out clear and reasonable rules that all adults will adhere to.
Even if the baby is familiar with safety rules, in a crowded place he may become confused and lose sight of you. Therefore, it will be useful to get an identification bracelet that you can wear to your child, going to the beach or the market. Of course, this additional measure will not be able to save you from constant supervision over your child.