Learning to tidiness is one of the important moments in the development of a young child associated with the birth of independence and self-regulation. The baby can learn how to use the pot only when it is prepared physiologically and psychologically for this.
This usually occurs at the age of 2-2.6 years.
Unfortunately, you did not write about the peculiarities of your daughter’s development, how the toilet training process took place, at what age. You write that “for several months we had no problems with the pot.” Whether it is connected with the fact that you, anticipating the desire of your daughter to relieve themselves, in time substituted the pot?
It is believed that the child independently learned to use the pot, if he is able to understand his desire to go to the toilet, to contain his primary impulse and reach the place where it can be done. Therefore, most likely, one of the reasons for what is happening with your baby is its immaturity.
She seems to understand why the pot is needed, brings it, but correctly calculate the time to sit on it in time until she can. That happens embarrassment.
It takes time to grow up and your patience.
Try to be detached about the occurring “failures” in order not to fix the attention of your daughter on them. Over time, she will certainly learn to control their needs. You also write that your daughter, peeing not in the pot, looks at you “guiltily and frightened.”
Whether it is connected with your excessive exactingness or severity in the process of training for a pot? After all, if a child is physiologically and psychologically immature, then the perseverance of adults is perceived by the child as violence and can cause him to protest responses.
It also happens that a child, seeing how parents emotionally and violently react to a positive result of a “trip” to the pot, seeks to please them with all their might, but due to excitement, immaturity of the body and nervous system or fear of not meeting parental expectations something is wrong. Another possible reason for abandoning the pot can be a lack of attention from the parents: by defeating the need not into the pot, the child is guaranteed to receive such attention.
The reason may be some kind of emotional shock to the child.
Your understanding, sympathy for the temporary “failures” of your daughter, cooperation with her will certainly help to overcome these and other possible difficulties in her development. Believe in yourself and. in your child!