What prevents young mothers from singing lullabies for babies? Here are the main excuses.
The first is the lack of voice, they say, I do not want to spoil his hearing with fake notes. The second is awkwardness.
You feel a little silly when you sing for the first time: “Bai-baiushki-bai, do not lie down on the edge, a gray top will come and bite the barrel”, and then so protractedly “a-aaaaa”. Why “do not lie down”, why “aaaaaa”, doubts start to get into my head. Maybe lullabies with gadgets are the best way out?
And women’s voices are perfect, and the music is beautiful. From this option, the baby will not be harmed.
And it’s mother’s voice that will bring him more benefit – and happiness.
Lullabies are a special genre of folklore, a “sleepy song”. The name of the author of the song about the gray top is forgotten, but she still lives to this day. Why?
Because it continues to successfully perform its function – to calm the child and help him fall asleep due to the characteristics of the rhythm and manner of performance.
A lullaby is a ritual associated with sleep. Mom does not sing lullabies during the day, preparing dinner for the baby or putting things in order.
In the evening she sings. And even the baby gradually realizes that this action is followed by a dream.
And finally, the lullaby gives the child the experience of parental attention, love and care. She creates a special connection between mother and baby (dad, by the way, is also not forbidden to sing if he wants). At the moment of going to bed the child feels that he is not alone.
After all, immersion in sleep is separation from the parent. Many children, especially anxious, do not want to let him go.
A familiar ritual soothes the baby.
From the 26th to the 27th week of pregnancy, the unborn child will react to sounds. He gets used to a certain rhythm of speech and begins to distinguish exactly my mother’s voice among other noises.
So after the baby is born, the baby quickly recognizes the beloved voice and listens to it, calms down better when mom addresses him and comforts. He literally absorbs everything that mom says, even without understanding the meaning of the words. And finally, the little one is indifferent to your level of vocal skill.
He loves everything in you, including your unique voice.
- Choose a lullaby that you prefer. You can easily find suitable text on the Internet. There are enough websites with texts of lullabies and an audio version of performance. You can choose a repertoire of several lullabies – “Sleep, my joy, sleep”, “Weary toys are sleeping”, etc. And then alternate them in order not to bother to sing the same thing.
- Rehearse alone. Sing a lullaby when no one is home. Record it on a dictaphone (for example, on a smartphone). Rehear. First, you realize that everything is not as scary as you thought before. And you have a pleasant voice, and you almost correctly captured the motive. You can, of course, work on the performance if you are a perfectionist. But to delay the debut is not worth it.
- Tune in to a wave of peace. Children, especially small ones, are sensitive to the emotional state of the mother. If you are nervous, it will be passed on to the child. Therefore, you need to move away from anxiety. Make sure that nothing distracts you – close the door to the room, turn off the phone.
- Take the child by the handle, kiss him. Your touch and caress will be pleasant to the baby. He will feel completely safe and relax. And it will be easier for you to discard extraneous thoughts. After all, next to someone who loves you now more than anyone in the world.
- Start singing softly. Say the words in a singing tone, lingering, monotonous. Remember that a drama of performance is contraindicated in a lullaby. And if you are singing the line “a gray top will come and bite at the flank” – do not emphasize the “horror” of the situation with a voice accent. And most importantly, you should like what you do. Lullabies often bring us to childhood, for example, when we ourselves were small and watched the program “Good night, kids!” And the memories of carefree days of the past are a wonderful internal resource that replenishes our strengths and strengthens us in the present.
- Do not leave immediately after the lullaby. After you sing a child, sit silently for a while. Perhaps the crumb has already dozed off. If not, just kiss him and quietly say good night.
You yourself will not notice how lullabies will eventually become part of your life with your baby.