The daughter will cope, her soul will grow stronger and gain experience. One fine day, the boy will be discouraged – the difficult process of the birth of a little woman will rework this experience and the next …
However, something in this – absolutely natural, even classical – picture hurts you, and strongly. It was as if you suddenly saw that a girl was not taught something. In addition, you came across an invisible wall: not recognized, not divided.
And you are embarrassed, because it seems that your child looks stupid, puts himself in a foolish position. Such a complex mixture of responsibility, shame and helplessness turns out – and as a result you suffer more than your daughter.
You are sad: this is only the beginning. Your daughter has an emotional life to which you do not have direct access. A lot will happen to her for the first time – and as touching and ridiculous as it happens with each subsequent generation.
No one can guarantee her — and no one else — “happiness in her personal life” in the future. For most mothers, it seems that it is in this area that their daughters are mistaken all the time – no matter if they are eight or thirty years old.
Hitting behind a living with your questions, jokes, comments and breaking contact is easy, and it is impossible to help anyway: rarely did anyone listen to his mother’s voice in these matters.
You can help your daughter not with advice, but only with your calm, warm attitude, and for this, it would be important to worry less. While it is more important for you, “how it looks”, and not “what it feels,” you involuntarily, with the best of intentions, will be an additional source of tension and embarrassment for her.
Judging by the letter, you do not want this at all.