The smaller the child’s age, the sooner and more painlessly he will accept the replacement. Most quickly get used to the stepfather, children under 3 years. At this age, they easily adapt to a new person and communicate with him if they are in a familiar environment.
After 3 years, the child becomes a pronounced owner, and a heightened sense of ownership applies not only to toys, but also to loved ones, including the mother. Everything is fixable, if both the woman and her husband will be patient and will not rush things.
Baby’s most important tender touches, communication and odors. If his dad used a certain perfume, ask his new companion to use the same one for a while.
Very often a man wants to become a caring dad, but he has no idea what needs to be done to do this. Help him.
Saying unobtrusively what you expect from him in relation to the child, what kind of help you need. The task needs to be formulated specifically: “Walk, play, feed”, and then tactfully explain, or even better, show how you play with the baby and feed him.
Relationships with a 1-2-year-old baby help to establish joint games. A new dad can work with him to build a doll house, a garage, draw, feed the birds.
Girls quickly accept my mother’s husband, if he sometimes plays with them in dolls or dances, makes them compliments.
If the separation from his father happened after the child was 2 years old, the new pope will not be so easy to gain confidence. You should not expect that the baby will feel the location from the first days.
At this age, children begin to be jealous of people close to them, and this feeling can manifest itself in relation to a stranger as yet for the crumbs of man.
In order to avoid negative relations between the child and her mother’s chosen one, it is better to start forming their relations in advance. The future stepfather should regularly come to visit, and at a time when the baby is at home and not sleeping. About his visit you need to warn the crumb in advance.
So mom will show that she respects her son or daughter.
Gradually, when the child gets used to the new person, you can organize joint “away” events – picnics, trips to the circus, the theater or to visit. Try also to leave your baby alone with his future stepfather for 10–15 minutes. So the crumb will acquire the experience of independent communication with a person still alien to him.
If all goes well, start a gradual “relocation.” Sleeping under the same roof, wishes for good night and good morning will gradually create the atmosphere of a new family, and the child will no longer be jealous of mom.
This question usually arises in children older than 3 years. Psychologists are advised to call a stepfather by name.
If the relationship between a new family member and a child is good, over time, the baby will call his mother’s husband dad. At the same time, a son or daughter must clearly understand the difference between a stepfather and a native father. They need confidence that, living and loving the stepfather, they thereby do not betray the father.
In any case, the baby should know the truth, it will help him get rid of anxiety and guilt. A woman should try to convey to her ex-husband that no one takes away a child from him.
And the little one can say that in his life there will be many friends, whom he will love equally, and there is nothing wrong with that, he will also treat his stepfather.