Главная 7 Child development 7 How to cultivate a child’s tolerance?

How to cultivate a child’s tolerance?

How to cultivate a child's tolerance?

There are no internal prerequisites for the development of tolerance, this quality is not inherent in man initially. As biological beings, we, on the contrary, are characterized by wariness and even some hostility towards those who are different from us and our immediate environment.

Just out of desire for self-preservation. Tolerance is an exclusively social quality and requires education.

And the sooner the better.

In adulthood, this quality may not work out. Yes, a person will recognize that it is necessary to be tolerant, that without this it is difficult to build qualitative relations of individuals, groups and entire nations, but this will be a conscious attitude, and not a true feeling.

Pseudo-tolerance, not real. Outwardly and in manifestations, they are similar, but in terms of subjective sensations they are completely different qualities. As a learned goodwill and a real good attitude towards someone.

In either case, there will be a smile and polite treatment, but internally in the first case there will be a state of indifference (and maybe irritation, dislike), and in the second – to a greater or lesser extent, pronounced joy. Pseudo-tolerance from the point of view of social relations is also good – in any case, better than its complete absence. But internally, it does not give a person what the true tolerance could give – a feeling of freedom, confidence and significance.

People possessing this quality are quieter with regard to changes in life, they are easier to experience difficulties. They have much less emotional problems, the mood is usually stable. Among them are more than those who consider themselves lucky, successful and happy.

They are stress-resistant and less sick. In general, besides the needs of society, there are a lot of personal reasons to pay attention to this quality.

And this is not as difficult as it seems.

For the differences of another person to be perceived naturally, one must first of all allow the child himself to be different. To recognize him as such a right and to demonstrate confidence that others perceive it positively.

Admission of adults “no one does that they will say about you” is effective, and therefore it is often used, but it has a negative impact on the perception of oneself, others and the world as a whole. It is important from early childhood to allow children to feel comfortable about what they think about them, speak as they look. This will first of all appreciate the peculiarity, diversity of the world and people, individuality in any of its manifestations.

And this is the basis of tolerance.

Our views on other people, our example of attitude towards them is the second most important factor in the development of tolerance. Its impact also begins very early. After all, the child learns parental norms, when they themselves do not touch him directly.

It is not necessary to be a participant in communication, moreover, you can even avoid it, but nevertheless evaluate it positively. We do not always pay attention to our reactions, specific words.

However, they become familiar and already by themselves have an impact on our attitude to something. And they convey this attitude to the children, forming now their respective reaction and way of thinking. In order for a positive attitude, acceptance of oneself and others to become the norm, it is advisable to hear: “Yes, it happens in people” instead of: “How is it possible?”, “Just he (they, she) is”, “What kind of …”

Questions of tolerance interest not only psychologists and sociologists. This is an important topic for society as a whole, which means that both teachers, law enforcement officers, and artists are engaged in it. More and more films – both adults and children, whose main idea is the recognition of the rights and freedoms of people, regardless of whether it is its own or not.

And – yes, there are already many books, performances where intolerant situations are slightly corrected. Whether it is necessary or not is a moot point. And he will remain so, at least until the generation of children who read these books and watched these performances grows up.

One has only to remember that in fairy tales there is usually not one narrow topic, not one main thought, but several. Another thing is that no fairy tale contains such information: a positive hero kills a negative just because he thinks differently and acts differently. And from this point of view it is useful to know the original options.

To feel the differences in tolerance and connivance. After all, this is also very important. It is one thing – when the Wolf lives according to its customs, acts in accordance with its settings, it is quite another – that it eats its neighbors or a foreign girl in general.

Here anger is fair, tolerance must end here. In situations when it is only about dissimilarity, it is possible and necessary to speak about the reasons.

Only so that it is understandable to the child, very tactfully and competently.

О admin

x

Check Also

Baby skin: problems and solutions

By the time of birth, the baby’s skin is fully formed, that is, it has ...

Code of courtesy: teach your baby good manners

According to the deep conviction of most parents, the child should behave decently not only ...

How to increase lip volume

Spring is the best time for kissing, and in order to attract them as often ...

We sculpt and pour: modern materials for the development of fine motor skills

Plain or kinetic, cosmic sand, mass for modeling, dough – all these materials are malleable, ...

There is a difference: the most comfortable posture in labor

There are several variants of positions during childbirth: on the back, squatting, on the knees, ...

Regress in development: where it comes from and whether it is necessary to fight it

The first 3-4 years of life the baby is actively developing and acquiring the knowledge ...

Season mono-diets: late fruits and berries for weight loss

Summer is nearing the finish line, but for those who are not indifferent to what ...

New baby porridge

Until the year, many mothers feed their babies with ready-made baby cereals – and they ...

Quartet of special importance

For children, four elements are very important: iron, iodine, calcium and phosphorus. Their deficiency can ...

What medications can I take for pregnant women?

The truth is that any medicine that enters the body, in varying degrees, has an ...

Dad can?

Moms are by nature closer to children, especially in the first years of life. But ...

How to teach kids to play together?

Even three-month-old babies can “communicate” with each other: a chorus of chorus and agukka, grimace, ...

How to cope with the “fog” in my head

“Adrenal fatigue” (adrenal fatigue) is not a completely medical term, but is actively used by ...

How to make milk mixture?

First of all, wash your hands and dishes thoroughly: bottle, pacifier, cap. It is best ...

New Year’s royal

Sturgeon black caviar, or Caviar, as it is called all over the world, is a ...

Concert for rattles with orchestra

Caring mothers and fathers even before the birth of a baby are interested in methods ...

How to make milk formula for babies

First of all, you need to correctly calculate a single portion. It directly depends on ...

Fluffy plasticine: children play, mothers relax

Before the start of classes fluffy clay need to knead. The material is molded not ...

Opening of the exhibition “Michelangelo

How to reduce family expenses in a crisis

That’s what, according to experts, we can do right now to start saving. Buying products ...

How to joke with children?

Mishin’s dad is a cheerful person. Joker, humorist – otherwise he is not called. “Come ...

Doll – the key to the door to adulthood

It all starts with a baby doll that your very tiny daughter is nursing: putting ...

Irreplaceable helpers (hormones)

Nature finely balanced hormone levels in a woman’s body, and the level of concentration of ...

Leather: the main patron

The skin is one of the largest and most complex organs that has many functions ...