In Soviet times, the life of the baby was painted by the minute. The slightest deviation from the norm was actively criticized by the pediatrician, relatives, and neighbors.
Modern doctors give parents much more freedom and even recommend to take into account their own biorhythms, but they still do not recommend completely abandoning the regime. First of all, because it allows us to solve two vital tasks at once: to lay the foundation for the harmonious development of the baby and ease the fate of adults.
The main role of the regime is adaptive: a clear schedule gives important guidelines for the whole organism. There is a direct relationship between the digestive and nervous systems, and if both are taught to live according to a schedule, it will become easier for them to work.
When a baby eats according to a strict scheme, digestive enzymes, gastric juices and bile are produced by the right moment, due to which the stool also regularly departs. If the crumb goes to bed at one time, the brain at the usual hour itself gives the body a wake-up signal.
Thus, both sleep and hunger are regulated automatically, without external stimuli and unnecessary efforts on the part of parents. Walking also does a good deed: they teach the baby to distinguish day from night thanks to special receptors on the skin that catch the light. Established habits are important for psychological comfort.
Every little child is a conservative at heart, so it is important for him to feel safe. And this basic need will again help satisfy the regime.
Does this mean that mom needs to feed, bathe, walk, pack and awaken the crumbs with a stopwatch in their hands, neglecting their own desires and needs? Modern pediatricians do not approve of this approach. The baby will grow up happy and contented only if his mother is happy and happy.
This axiom became the main incentive to revise the old rules. If the “owl” from the sense of parental duty will wake up at dawn, nothing good will come of it. Fatigue will accumulate, and one day the nerves of a young mom will pass.
Then both the child, and the father, and people around will suffer morally, therefore such a scenario is obviously hopeless.
Despite the fact that the family structure will still change, the mode of the baby should be comfortable for everyone. Parents also have the right to defend their interests, especially since the crumb is perfectly able to adapt to the given circumstances. Mom’s biorhythms, he learns to distinguish between the period of intrauterine development.
When she is awake, he hears the sound of her voice, the noise of the TV, the music, and when she sleeps or rests, only the heartbeat and the bowels work. Many children get used to the mother’s regime so much that after birth they begin to copy it.
Accordingly, if during pregnancy you went to bed at 2 am, then you should not be surprised that at 8 pm the child does not think to close his eyes.
It is just as easy for a baby to adapt to family-wide leisure. Provided that the baby is healthy, nothing prevents the parents to lead an active lifestyle, because the main role in this issue is played by my mother’s mood.
If she does not make problems from going to the store or visiting the joint, the child is more likely to tolerate “social events” calmly.
How soon to begin to form useful reflexes, parents decide too. In the first year of life, the regime does not play a crucial role, especially if the mother has the opportunity to stay at home with the baby.
The question arises when she decides to go to work or give a crumb to kindergarten. And, of course, you need to prepare a child for such changes in advance.
The optimal daily routine will help to write a pediatrician, taking into account the pace of development and the health of the baby. All the norms that are given in pediatric reference books are conditional: they only set the amplitude allowed for a particular age, so you only need to focus on its lower and upper bounds.
Small “larks” can get up at 6.00 and go to bed at 19.00, and “owls” – wake up at 8.00 (at the latest at 12.00) and fall asleep at 21.00. The chart below is just one of the recommended options.
10.00 – 12.00 – walk
12.30 – 13.00 – lunch
13.00 – 15.00 or 16.00 – day sleep
15.30 – 16.00 – afternoon tea
17.00 – 19.00 – walk
19.00 – 19.30 – dinner
20.30 – 21.00 – evening fairy tale
Finding that each child has its own nutritional rhythm, scientists have recently approved a free feeding schedule in the first months after birth. Nevertheless, resorting to it without consulting a pediatrician is not worth it.
For example, premature and low birthweight babies feed on a very special pattern. With colic, constipation, frequent regurgitation, adjustments are also required.
Only a doctor is able to take into account all the nuances and offer the best option.
It is only reasonable to take the average rate as a reference point: up to 3 months, children usually eat at intervals of 3 hours, from 3 to 6 months – at 3.5–4 hours, from 6 months to 1 year – at 4–5 hours. At the same time, universal recommendations are as follows: if the baby is breastfed, the pause between meals should be at least 1.5–2 hours, because mother’s milk is digested in just 72 minutes.
The assimilation of the mixture takes twice as long as time, so the interval between meals on artificial feeding, as a rule, is not less than 3–3.5 hours. On the “adult” schedule and 4 meals (breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner), children usually move after a year.
Although this may happen sooner or later, everything is purely individual.
Like adults, some children sleep more, others less, but the general patterns still exist, although the figures are different in different countries and in different pediatric schools. Thus, according to the observations of Soviet specialists, children up to 3 months a day sleep about 19 hours, from 3 to 5 months – 17, from 6 to 8 months – 15, from 9 months to 2 years – 13, from 4 to 5 years – 11 , 5, from 6 to 9 years old – 10.
At the same time, it takes about 30–40 minutes for children to fall asleep at any age.
However, modern pediatricians are forced to make allowances for the frantic pace of social life. Current children, by definition, sleep less because their nervous system is more excitable. And often the fault of the parents.
A typical scenario: dad chronically lingers in the office or gets stuck in traffic jams, as a result, he comes home late. But mom doesn’t put a baby to sleep, because the spouse likes to take part in the evening bathing. As a result, at best, the baby is strongly overworked and cannot sleep for a long time, and at worst, due to constant lack of sleep, his immunity decreases and he begins to get sick often.
The situation is aggravated by the fact that in modern sapiens (large and small), mental activity prevails over physical activity. When the latter does not find a way out, sleep is disturbed and becomes shorter.
Quiet time is also very important for the child: it should certainly be included in the daily regimen of at least 4 years. Up to 6 months, children sleep 2–2.5 hours 3 times a day, by the end of the first year of life – 1–2 times, by 1.5–2 years – one.
The transition from a double to a single siesta may take some time. To make the right decision, in such an intermediate period, you must take into account the emotional state of the baby, the weather outside the window, the time of year and the saturation of the daily program.
Sometimes it is worth insisting on your own, and sometimes trusting a child.
The same should be done when it comes time to give up siesta. If the baby decides to abolish this habit before the age of 4, it is better to compromise and, instead of taking a nap, make a day rest: lie down on the bed and read a fairy tale.
So the crumb will get the necessary respite for the still not strong nervous system and will be able to relax properly. However, with a child who goes to kindergarten, such a maneuver will not be possible.
There are two ways out: either to wake him up earlier in the morning so that he can get tired by dinner, or to take him home before a quiet hour. It is possible to insist on daytime sleep only if the baby is strongly overexcited in the early evening, is capricious, rolls up tantrums. This is a sure sign that the nervous system does not withstand the load and needs additional hours of rest.
If the baby, on the contrary, sleeps during the day for a long time and with pleasure, and falls asleep well in the evening, it is not necessary to wake him up.
On weekends, during holidays or holidays, the rhythm of life changes in almost every family. Pediatricians treat this situation with understanding, but do not recommend shifting the usual schedule for more than 1-1.5 hours.
In reality, it is quite difficult to meet such a framework. A small child is focused on active knowledge of the world around him, therefore his arousal, especially when resting, is more than natural.
The task of the parents is to intelligently dispense fresh impressions and not to do tragedy due to forced indulgences.