Already in two months, the child happily responds to the appearance of an adult – smiling, walking, actively moving the arms and legs. By this reaction (it is called the “revitalization complex”) one can judge the birth of the first truly human need – the need for communication.
Studies conducted on babies have shown that babies enjoy looking at the human face and clearly distinguish it from the mask. In a recent experiment by Yale University, children between the ages of 6 and 10 months were shown a puppet show in which there were good and evil characters.
Scientists noted that the children enjoyed watching good characters and were concerned about the evil ones. It used to be that the emotional, intuitive understanding of human relationships is inherent in older children.
But we can do a lot to help the newborn acquire communication skills.
Do not blame the child for shyness and do not make fun of him: he will withdraw into himself even more.
Good mothers and fathers tend to reproach and reproach themselves for incontinence, which any parent sometimes displays when communicating with a baby: having screamed, and even more so having slapped the child, they suffer and consider themselves to be insolvent educators. Of course, as adults, we must be able to control ourselves, otherwise how are we different from unable to control ourselves because of the age of children?
And yet, even awkward educational maneuvers will be smoothed out and forgotten if the general background of our relationship with the baby is joyful and affectionate. For the development and formation of the soul, it is extremely important to perceive changes occurring in the child, even alarming or obviously negative, with hope.
Hope that he will grow up to be a good person and all the flaws will be rectified.
Approximately at the age of 8–12 months, most children show a strong shyness towards strangers: the baby hides behind his mother, asks him to pick him up urgently or cry. Fear gradually passes after one and a half to two years.
Despite the fact that fear makes communication difficult, it can be considered a good sign – this is a signal that the child has an attachment to his mother, which is extremely important for the development of the psyche. In addition, the fact that the child distinguishes its from others, is considered one of the indicators of normal development.
Tell them that the child is embarrassed to strangers, and ask them to talk with you first, and then approach the baby. Explain that the baby should get used to them a little.
When around new people, make sure that the child has the opportunity to constantly see you or dad. If you are in the field of view of the child, he can at any time meet your gaze, take his hand and feel safe.
Ask your guest to say, “Look, this is your bear. Do you want to play with him? ”This will help the child focus on things that are familiar to him.
The kid can be frightened by any person with whom he does not see constantly; even grandparents who come infrequently, the baby can simply forget. Set a rule for yourself: first calm the baby and only then your guests.
Take the baby in your arms – it is much easier to meet a new person, having the opportunity to periodically bump into his mother’s shoulder.
Long before the child utters his first word, he already “tells” you about his desires — weeping, aguing, clenched fists, smiles and grimaces. The kid seeks to keep in touch with the mother by all means available to him, to provoke her to communicate, and when the mother answers this call for communication, she thereby supports the desire of the child to communicate further. It turns out a kind of circle, a chain of mutual initiations of communication.
Scientists described the phenomenon of “cold mother”: a mother takes all the necessary actions to take care of the child and feed her, but for various psychological reasons she does not engage in emotional communication with him – she doesn’t lisp, smile, take less hands and play. As a result, the child rather quickly stops trying to interact with an adult, he may lie motionless in the crib for hours, reacts weakly to the speech addressed to him.
If you smile at the baby in response to his smile, talk to him, he will feel that the world around him is a good, happy place.
At this early age, a basic trust is built up or, on the contrary, distrust of the world, of people, and is laid very deeply, because it passes not through verbal channels, not through thought, but through emotional channels, through feelings and sensations. Emotional memories are one of the most powerful and lasting. An older child may be afraid of doctors – he no longer remembers that he once was in the hospital and experienced a number of unpleasant procedures, but he remembers the emotion associated with people in white coats.
The more the feelings and interests of parents and their children are the same, the faster their children develop communication and cognitive skills. Start small: if your baby is smiling, try to understand what made him happy, bring the little one closer to the subject of interest, or repeat the actions he likes. If the child is turned away, find out what he is looking at.
So the child will feel that you understand his reactions.
Your child is still too young to make playmates, but the presence of a number of other children will bring him great benefit. The little ones still play together, not together, but they react to each other and learn from each other. When a baby learns to crawl or walk, learning will go much faster if he sees how other children do.
It is also good to encourage your child to communicate with adults, but do not be too zealous, especially in the first months of a baby’s life. First, invite one or two friends of the family, then gradually expand the circle of communication of the child.
You must have noticed with what enthusiasm and adoration the little ones watch the older children. Often the child first begins to smile and laugh precisely at the sight of an older brother or sister. Older children in the family are a constant source of inspiration for conquering new heights of development, when the baby learns to walk, eat, talk independently.
The ingenuous childish sense of humor is also very popular with kids. At the same time, try less often to tell the elder that he “should” in relation to the little one, and more often pay his attention to those wonderful skills that the kid has learned from him. If your child is the firstborn, invite friends or relatives to visit the child.
Do not be afraid that your baby can be offended, because, firstly, you will be there, and, secondly, older children, especially girls, love to play with babies and teach them – this way they feel the same adults as their mother .
Show the child an example of a friendly attitude to people need every day.
When introducing a child to other people, take into account the peculiarities of his personality. Some children calmly think that strangers take them in their arms, others are even cautious with their grandparents.
If your child is shy, do not let anyone take him in your arms, at least in the first minutes after the meeting. If you push the child too eagerly to talk, the next time he can offer even more resistance.
Invite your friends to look at the baby in those hours when he is usually in a good mood, quite energetic and friendly.
Set an example: “Let’s go say hello to dad!”, “Hello, dad! How are you? ”Smile and speak in a friendly voice when you are talking on the phone, tell the child:“ We were called by our grandmother. Soon she will come to visit us.
How good, yes? ”Play a puppet show. Let the toy characters greet each other in turn and visit each other.
The child will not soon be able to repeat what he sees, but it is necessary to show a good example.
teacher NATALIA CHUDINA.
The child takes the main steps in the formation of communication skills in the first year of life.
The kid distinguishes objects from people – and almost always prefers people.
The crumb meets eyes with an adult and fixes a look on his face, especially when an adult is smiling. He listens to the voices and sometimes can even stop crying when he heard the voice of his mother.
The child responds to your appeal to him “smile communication.” A “revitalization complex” appears – this is the most important milestone and indicator of the development of babies, it shows that the baby is becoming a social being.
The little one confidently looks for his mother, responds to the speech addressed to him with sounds – touching “agu”, “gee”, “ha”.
Responds well to his name, in every way he tries to attract the attention of an adult to himself. A kid can take part in a joint game with an adult – this period is called the stage of situational-business communication.
If earlier the child communicated with adults only emotionally, now the communication is built around the objects of interest to him.
The baby begins to fear others, very strongly attached to mom, dad and other relatives. It is to them that he turns for support, if he fell, for empathy, when he rejoices. The kid already understands speech well and can even follow simple, short instructions.
Gradually, he begins to repeat those actions that are approved by adults.
Crumbs have a sense of humor. He also begins to show preference for some people over others.