“Daughter is 2 years old, how to teach her to order? She shows a great interest in domestic affairs, but her “help”, as a rule, adds me trouble. ” Anastasia, 32 years
A two-year-old child has no idea about the order. His interest in the household is not based on a conscious desire to bring cleanliness, but on imitating adults, and in part on the desire to make them enjoyable.
Using these two main driving forces, you can learn a lot from even a tiny one. For example, the fact that every thing has and should have its place.
Start by teaching the child not to drop the jacket anywhere, but hang it on a special hook in the hallway. Put the shoes carefully. To carry the dishes in the sink after a meal.
The two-year-old child, who has already discovered the law of the constancy of objects, will most likely be enthusiastic about the game “Arrange everything in its place”. Just do not try to explain all the rules at once.
Graduality and consistency are as important as exactingness and perseverance. Remember that all this training for the crumbs is a game, and the more exciting it is, and the rules are clearer, the more with great pleasure he will participate in it.
Some children prefer clothespins, dish sponges, brushes and sprays with water to expensive toys. The child explores the world around him, imitating adults and using the same objects as they.
Unfortunately, sometimes parents are ready to give a baby mouse rather than a shoe brush in their hands. It is easier, faster, more productive to do household chores, and it can be difficult and boring to teach a child. You may not have the patience to show again and again how to direct the garbage to the scoop, and not in the opposite direction.
But the meaning of these efforts is not only to grow a helper or assistant. While doing housework, the child learns: his motility is improved, the number of neural connections is increasing, the muscles of the body are trained, all mental functions develop – perception, attention, memory, imagination and thinking.
He becomes more self-confident and independent, gets the first organizational skills, learns to work “in a team”.
Of course, from time to time a two-year-old kid will improvise: at your request, take your socks to the laundry basket … to immediately remove them from it along with the rest of the contents. Well, the game is a game and learning is a learning! Sometimes it is difficult to restrain at the sight of a creative disorder made by a small assistant, but it is not worth scolding a child for a broken plate or an overturned dog bowl.
After all, you would not do this if your girlfriend were in the place of the baby? Better show the crumbs how to eliminate the consequences of his misstep. Or maybe he himself knows what to do with garbage?
Be sure to ask him about it. And where are the scoop and broom?
The most important thing is that the baby is not afraid to make a mistake, then in two years you will be able to teach him the mass of useful skills.
“Eve is three years old. She is happy to help me vacuum, water the flowers, load the washing machine and hang the laundry, but if you ask her to remove the toys from the nursery, there was no enthusiasm. ” Antonina, 30 years old
It’s pleasant and interesting to do something with your mother, and if you are also praised for it, a three-year-old kid is ready to do it almost all day long. It is quite another thing to perform independently a difficult task, which, moreover, is not fully understood.
The three-year-old still needs your help to plan their actions. Where to begin?
Where to put toys, and where books? Why can not you just dump everything in the closet and close the door, because it is faster, and the room looks clean. Even if the baby has seen you do the cleaning many times, he needs personal practice.
At three years old, a child is able to understand the meaning of cleaning, but let’s be realistic: his goal is not order and cleanliness in the room, but your approval, praise. Your love.
He himself can play in a perfectly clean room, and in complete chaos – after all, during the game he is in another world. To succeed in learning at this stage, try to combine the two aspirations of the baby – play with your mother and earn praise.
Turn cleaning into a game and learn to praise correctly. Once and for all, give up the notations and complaints that no one wants to help you.
Use the “Tom Sawyer method”, try to infect a baby with your enthusiasm. Many children like home appliances, they are happy to learn to use a washing machine, dishwasher, vacuum cleaner, help squeeze juice and chop vegetables … But manual work can be no less exciting!
It is useful to purchase tools, such as a scoop and a brush of the appropriate children’s size. They are more convenient to use, besides, in three years, kids already like to have something of their own. Let the child have his own little watering can for flowers, his own bright cloth for dust, a small spray with water and special clothes for cleaning.
With such an arsenal, doing household chores will be much more interesting. But the most important purchase for the nursery is a sufficient number of boxes for toys, preferably in different colors and sizes.
Sorting items – one of their main skills that the child must learn before school. Open any developmental technique – and you will find a lot of games and tasks to develop this particular skill.
But you can train it not only according to the textbook, cleaning is irreplaceable here: the kid will manipulate familiar objects, which means that theory and practice will be inseparable.
The categorization of objects is not an easy task, and here, as in the development of any complex and important skill, you will have to act in several stages. First, the baby will distribute items into groups under your leadership.
Explain to him why you put “Lego” in one box, and typewriters in another, why books have a place on the shelf, not under the bed, and why a wet towel cannot be left on the floor … Just do not forget that the child will not be able to remember more than three recommendations at once. Do not hurry! Enjoy the joint cleaning: it can be a very exciting experience.
And fun: after all, if you have time, you can dream up and come up with, on what grounds can you group the subjects, or play the game “What’s wrong with this?”. This is an excellent training for logical thinking.
At the next stage, your task is to motivate the child to independently find a place for each thing. Use bright labels on the shelves and in the boxes – these can be pictures or photos.
If the crumb loves to draw, he can picture the garage on the box for typewriters, and if he already learns to write and read, let him choose and write the word for the name of each category. Next, the child does almost everything himself, and you only if necessary provide him with instructions and tips.
A good idea is to hang a poster with pictures depicting the sequence of actions when cleaning the room. Sometimes, if the child is easily distracted, the parents use a timer.
You can record your favorite baby songs and short clear tasks on the disc: “Collect the cubes in the box while Masha sings a song about the sun” or “Try to remove the bed before the Watery song is finished”. At any stage, do not forget to praise the child, calling the important quality that he showed – accuracy, attention, organization, dedication: “Wow, you collected all the details of the puzzle without missing a single one. How attentive you are! ”Or“ Today you remember to turn off the lights in the bathroom and in your room when you went to kindergarten.
This is businesslike! ”And another important tip: continue to support and guide the child until he masters the skill perfectly.
“Petya is 4 years old and he likes to shake toys out of all the boxes on the floor, sometimes just to take one and play with her in the midst of total chaos. It annoys me.
In addition, his attention constantly switches from one subject to another, he cannot concentrate on the game, he becomes nervous and quickly gets tired. ” Elena, 27 years old
This is really annoying. After all, it takes much more time to collect toys than to scatter them.
Nevertheless, we must respect the child’s right to choose: in this case, he chooses how to play. Watch him. Not always children make a mess only to attract the attention of parents.
If a child is able to play with one toy long enough, when the others are just lying around, it means that his ability to focus attention on one subject does not suffer. Perhaps the objects at the time of the game in his field of view, stimulate his imagination and affect the changes in the script that he comes up with for his character. Or maybe he is simply inspired by the contemplation of his treasures.
The baby’s room is his personal territory, it is here that he learns to organize the space, based on his own tastes and needs, and the creation of chaos, confusion, disorder, he needs at least to appreciate the benefits of order. If the toys in your home accumulate over time, reduce the number of those that are freely available.
Designers with a large number of small parts, board games, pencils and paints can be stored high on the shelves, and some soft toys, cubes, etc. – temporarily hide. When after some time you get them from the mezzanine, the child will be delighted with it no less than new. Toys from which the baby has already “grown up” are best to be donated or taken to kindergarten, and broken ones should be discarded.
Things that you decide to leave may have to be regrouped in a new way, taking into account the changed interests of the child. Advice: it is better to hide and throw away broken toys when the child is not at home, but you shouldn’t do cleaning instead.
If you are consistent, perhaps after a while the baby will learn to be more careful without long notations and accusations on your part: first, he will remember where everything lies, and he will not have to take everything out of the box for the only transformer, secondly , most likely, will not want to spend extra time for cleaning.
It is difficult to resist the temptation to give the child a tablet or to sit him down in front of the TV and quickly remove everything himself. But is it worth to miss the opportunity to teach him responsibility?
Children need to know that they are involved in a common cause and benefit the family!
“My daughters (3 and 4 and a half years) throw their soft toys all over the house every day. Even in the toilet and in the hallway, you can stumble upon teddy bears and doggies, and recently I scooped a whole rabbit family from the dishwasher!
How to cope with this invasion? Alice, 28 years old
Almost all children unconsciously try to fill with their belongings the largest possible area – in this way they “mark” the territory or, if you wish, master the space. In some families, this is treated as an inevitable phenomenon, and the whole apartment looks like one big child.
But in fact, even a three-, four-year-old child can be taught to respect the personal space of other family members. First of all – by personal example. You can show that you are considering the desire of the baby to have on hand toys in each room, putting a box for typewriters and dolls in each of them.
But only under the condition that at the end of the day they will go to their place, that is, back to the nursery! Secondly, consistently explaining and showing the child that he is a member of a family, a group.
If someone has scattered things, there must be someone who collects them. If someone has stained the floor with paint, there must be someone who will wash it.
These are the basics of life in society! In two or three years, most children can not only collect and fold toys, but also put magazines and books on the shelf, dim the lights, leave the room, sweep the floor, lay appliances and napkins on the table, water the flowers, unload dishes from the dishwasher … The list of household chores that a four-year-old can accomplish is much longer. He can already be charged:
– set the table
– feed pets
– make the bed
– vacuum the carpet
– scrape away food debris from the plates and load the dishwasher
– make sandwiches and cook cereal with milk.
“My son Slava is 4 years old. He likes to build huge complex constructions from “Lego” and arranges a real drama, if someone besides him breaks something in them. We have a small nursery, and she is constantly overwhelmed with designer details, ready-made and unfinished buildings, and yet Slavin, a three-year-old brother, lives in this room! ”Maria, 36 years old
In the issue of placement of crafts, children’s paintings, collections and constructions from the designer will have to be flexible and find a reasonable compromise. Even in a small room, it’s really possible to find a place on the wall for a couple of extra shelves where a baby can place his best creations or especially valuable exhibits. Unfinished tower can be easily moved from the center of the room to a corner or under the bed, if you collect it on a large board or on a rug.
It is easier to agree with the child when he sees that you respect and appreciate his efforts, and insist on cleaning not in order to defeat him, but for reasons of common sense. By the way, the talents of the five-year-old architect can be used by planning the organization of space in the nursery.
The child can think of how to place the boxes and shelves, where it is better to put the bed, and where to equip the play area. Write down all the ideas of the baby and be sure to tell the guests about his ingenuity!
The ability to wield a brush and a rag is no less useful for the development of fine motor skills, than to sculpt figures of plasticine or fold pyramids! But cleaning also has an additional “bonus” – this is an “adult” skill, mastering which fills the crumbs with special pride.