Without sleep, no man can do anything, and someday a kid, struck by fatigue, will surely fall asleep.
However, apart from the minuses, neither the baby nor the parent can take anything out of this position. How, then, to plan your household chores? And when to walk, eat lunch and dinner?
This approach will bring chaos into the evening dressing procedure and make the child himself irritable, inhibited or hyperactive.
Small children are eagerly awaiting every next day. After all, they need to learn so much and do so much! If the question of daytime sleep depended on the little ones, they probably would not have gone to bed at all – either during the day or in the evening, until they simply fell off their feet.
You do not give your child the opportunity to make a choice between vegetables and ice cream during lunch. The decision in this matter remains entirely for adults.
Your task is to choose the optimal time and duration of sleep for your child, and then strictly adhere to the schedule.
Vacationers during the day, kids have better attention and less naughty. In addition, the duration and quality of daytime sleep significantly affect the subsequent night’s sleep.
And, conversely, night sleep affects daytime sleep.
There is no consensus about how old a child needs daytime sleep. Some refuse to sleep by 3 years, while others up to 7 years can not do without a “quiet hour.”
But you should not refuse to rest if the child is under 5 years old.
Set a “quiet time” in the afternoon, at least for 15 minutes, when it is not necessary to sleep, just lie quietly in bed. This small vacation will give the child the opportunity to recover his strength.
Most babies who miss daytime sleep do not make up for those lost hours at night. In addition, daytime sleep is a necessary component of the normal development of a child’s body.
Maybe the baby refuses to sleep because of some event that violated the schedule of his day (the weekend with his grandmother, the disease, your entry to work)?
Watch him for two to three days. If your child becomes whiny and moody during the day, by the evening his coordination is disturbed and there is a sharp drop in activity, he yawns and rubs his eyes, and wakes up in the morning with great difficulty – the baby still has a need for daytime sleep.
Daytime sleep helps the baby to take off the morning stresses and start the second half of the day with new forces. Such a rest, which is necessary for the child, plays a positive role in teaching the child, helping him to assimilate the information obtained during the day and use it to solve specific problems.
Properly chosen time for daytime sleep is very important, since daytime sleep, organized too late, leads to the fact that the baby does not feel tired by the evening. Consequently, both he and you will need more effort to fall asleep on time, which will lead to disruption of the subsequent sleep schedule: the next day, the time of the lunch break, and then the evening shift will shift. In general, the best intervals for daytime sleep are:
If your baby sleeps twice during the day, place him in the middle of the morning (in the range from 9.00 to 11.00) and in the first half of the daytime (in the range from 12.00 to 14.30).
If the baby sleeps in the afternoon once, then lay him in the first half of the daytime (in the range from 12.00 to 14.00), that is, immediately after lunch.
Tired babies fall asleep easily, and your baby probably gives you signals that he is ready for daytime sleep. If he is not tired, he will surely resist your efforts to put him to bed. But if you miss the moment of the appearance of signs of fatigue, the baby can easily fall into a state of overwork and then will not be able to fall asleep when you begin to stack it.
If you observe the behavior of your baby for a week or two, you can make a daily sleep schedule for him based on his individual biological rhythm. Put him to bed at the same hour every day and wake him at the same time every day if he does not wake up.
◗ The level of activity decreases.
The baby behaves significantly quieter.
◗ Loses interest in games.
◗ Rubbing his eyes, yawning, his eyes glaze.
◗ It becomes moody, whiny.
◗ Building a tower or collecting a pyramid, quickly loses patience and gets angry.
◗ Requires dummy or bottle.
◗ Watching a cartoon with a missing look.
If you clearly record similar signals, do not start a too long procedure of laying (reading a fairy tale, washing or planting on the pot).
The goal of daytime sleep is to provide the child with the opportunity to relax and thereby replenish energy for the rest of the day. Indeed, there are periods (and not only in children) when we feel particularly tired. The cause can be stress, sleepless night, indisposition, or cloudy weather.
These are exceptions. In all other cases, you can quite successfully calculate the optimal duration of daytime sleep, using the table below.
It depends on the age of your baby and his individual characteristics. For example, from birth to 2 months, newborns rarely sleep during the day on a schedule. This is usually a chaotic alternation of sleep and wakefulness.
This baby sleep enough 30 minutes every 2−3 hours, regardless of the time of day. But a child of 3–5 years old can completely abandon daytime sleep or be content with 1–2 hours.
On average, full daytime sleep lasts 1–3 hours. Take as a basis the total amount of bedtime recommended in the table (for a full day) and subtract from it the number of hours it takes for your baby to spend the night.
The remaining hours will serve as a guide as the most optimal time to relax during the day.
|Age||How many times is recommended to sleep during the day||Total duration of daytime sleep (hour)||The total duration of a night’s sleep (hour)||The total duration of day and night sleep (h.)|
If a child has a tendency to short periods of sleep, do not get carried away with standard numbers and proceed from the assumption that this is the duration of daytime sleep that your child needs. And to clarify (and to increase) the duration of his afternoon rest, try using the following techniques:
◗ Provide your child with a good active load in the 1st half of the day.
◗ Reduce the child’s time in front of the TV screen.
◗ Give your baby a good lunch about half an hour before the expected laying time.
Avoid drinking heavily during the last hour before the onset of daytime sleep. Before going to bed, land the baby on the pot.
◗ In the kid’s bedroom, hang thick curtains so that daylight does not wake him up ahead of time.
◗ Turn on soothing music or a radio at a low volume so that no other sounds from the street would disturb the baby.
◗ If necessary, turn on the air conditioner, heater, fan or humidifier. After waking the child do not rush to approach him. Let him lie quietly in bed for about 15 minutes before getting up.
If you do not disturb him immediately after waking up, he may fall asleep for a while.
If the baby gets up as soon as he wakes up and does not want to lie in the crib, try the next time 5–10 minutes before the expected moment of waking up to come quietly to his bedroom. The minute you hear any sounds or movements, use any method to bring the still sleepy child back to the realm of dreams. For example, breastfeed, massage, caress or just lie down next to it.
If you managed to catch the moment in time, and the baby does not feel rested yet, he will fall asleep. If such interventions are repeated daily during the week, then your lover of short nap will eventually sleep much longer without your intervention.
It is possible that your child simply lets you know that it’s time to stop sleeping before lunch. By this age, many children can already get by with one sleep after dinner.
Naturally, moving to a new sleep mode, the child at first can be drowsy and capricious in those hours when he usually slept. Once the body gets used to the new regime, it will pass. To facilitate the transition, move the lunch time from 12.00 to 11.00 or 11.30.
Then the afternoon nap of the child will shift to an earlier date. The duration of daytime sleep is likely to increase slightly.
You will have to create a new day regimen for your child taking into account the changes that have occurred: see how much time your baby will now have a single nap during the day and, accordingly, how this will affect the overall behavior and quantity and quality of his night rest.
She may not want to fall asleep in her crib, but she will like the idea of sleeping during the day in the cozy parent’s bedroom. But do not forget to remind the baby that the parental bed is free only during the day, and at night all people sleep in their beds, otherwise the dream fairy will not be able to deliver people the dreams intended for them. In daytime sleep, it is not scary to introduce exceptions, it should attract the kid with its peculiarity.
You can go to sleep in a special children’s hammock, in a sleeping bag under the table or with your older brother in the second tier of the bed.
If you are annoyed by the need to “guard” the sleeping child, you are nervous because you are wasting time, the situation will only get worse. Your irritation will be passed on to the child, which is why it will fall asleep even longer.
Be patient. Move back the chair or the chair in which you are sitting, every two or three days farther and farther from the crib, closer to leaving the bedroom.
After some time, your chair will be behind the door. If the baby calls you, respond to her call, let her know that you are near, although she does not see you.
In 1-2 weeks you can completely relieve your child from the need to be near her.
The first advice is inflexibility and consistency in their actions. If it is time to sleep, you can not deviate from the rules. If one song is included in the established ritual, then the second one will not sound under any persuasion.
You can not ask a child aged 1.5-2 years to be prudent. Parents themselves must show firmness and patience, discard all doubts and fears.
If a child reads insecurity in the eyes of parents whenever it comes time to sleep, he will use all his reserves and strength to prevent unwanted sleep. It is necessary to show perseverance.
First, you will have to say “no” fifteen times to requests to read another fairy tale, the next day fourteen times, and at the end of the second week one of your words will be enough.
Make a pass card, giving the right exit from the bedroom into the corridor. Enough will be two “passes.” The kid can leave the room (go to the toilet or drink), only by presenting you the appropriate permit ticket.
If the kid, taking advantage of the pass both times, wanted to go out into the corridor for some other need, he loses one ticket for the next dinner dream. For too small kids who are not able to understand the complicated rules with tickets, think up some kind of encouragement – sticking stars shining at night, or planets, or stickers in a photo album on the ceiling.
This happens often, because before everyone only mom put to bed. It is important that the sleep mode coincides with the mode of the preschool institution. The kid did not sleep before day?
If he gets up at 7.30 or 8.00, by the middle of the day he will probably start yawning. Gradually teach him to lie quietly alone, without your constant presence beside him.
Training can take a lot of time, but it is very important. And even if the baby does not sleep at first during the day, but simply lies there, he will gradually learn that after a quiet time comes, you need to stay in bed and keep quiet.
If for the tutor the most difficult moment is putting your child in bed, give the baby a soft toy that is dear to him, or his old baby blanket, in which he can wrap himself up at any time when he is sad and lonely.