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Choosing a name for a child: fashionable, rare, strange

Choosing a name for a child: fashionable, rare, strange

Today, we can conditionally identify three trends in the choice of the name of the baby: the traditional, in the European manner, the princely-pagan version. Parents from the first group give names that are mentioned in the church calendar (Peter, Xenia, Luke, Carp, and so on). “Westerners” prefer international or foreign options (Nikos, Mia, Dominica, Anna-Victoria).

Fans of “pagan” names will call the child Rostislav, Yaropolk, Sladislava or Kupava.

The choice of a foreign name is influenced by several reasons: globalization and unwillingness to tie the child to the “roots”; a landmark on a popular person (singer, actor, politician); an attempt to play with the name “bring together” the parent and the child (father Nikolay, daughter Nicole). In addition, many foreign names seem to be more sonorous; and, finally, the simplest reason: one of the parents is a foreigner.

For example, little Lukas has a Russian mom, a dad a dutch.

Today there are not uncommon double names: Anna-Victoria, Maria-Margarita. But now Ivan Kolovrat, Dmitry Amethyst, Luke-Happiness, Summerset Ocean – while exotic.

Such rare names as Peresvet, Svetloyar, Yaroslav-Zotik, Titomir, Roland, Gaydar are found on the websites of the Registry of Records of Civil Status Acts of Moscow and St. Petersburg … Examples of the rare names of girls: Patricia, Assol, Zlatoflora, Fevronia, Ruzanna.

The list of the most unusual children’s names that Muscovites called children in 2013 included Cosmos, Maxim-Moscow, Legend, Ogneslav, Mir, Lelya and Chelsea. The most popular names for girls are Sophia, Maria and Anastasia.

Among male names were leading Artem, Alexander, Maxim.

These same names remain the most popular among children born in 2014. But the most unusual were the names of the boys: Jazz, Dawn, Sevastopol, Strength, and girls: Byzantium and the Moon.

In 2015, the girls most often received the names Sofia or Sofia, with the first option more often, as well as Mary, Anna, Anastasia and Victoria. Alexander, Maxim, Artem, Mikhail and Daniil (Danila, Danil) were in the top 5 male names of 2015.

– When 30 years ago my wife and I called our son Ivan in honor of my father, it sounded strange and almost ridiculous. One of his contemporaries once said: “I don’t understand how you could call a man Ivan!” When she gave birth to a boy a couple of years ago, she called it that way. Now it is the same popular name as in the first half of the twentieth century.

It seems to me that the fashion mechanism in this area includes: (a) escaping from the common (erased) names of his generation; (b) search for sources of originality in the names of grandparents; (c) looking at how they call their children now. Everywhere Ivan could be called simply by name, without specifying the names: there was no other Ivan in the kindergarten or in another Ivan’s school.

The name as a result of fashion pressure loses its main function – to be a marker of individuality!

The daughter was called Polina. That was the name of her great-grandmother, although officially – Apollinaria. We did not dare to repeat, therefore we registered as Polina, and dubbed Apollinaria.

Any fashionable object (clothing, car, book, name, and so on) is a symbol of modernity. Who does not use, falls into the category of non-modern, backward.

Not everyone is happy.

For parents, a child is also a way to identify one’s identity. You can look into the past, you can in the present.

The race for modernity pushes to escape from the names of their generation.

Choosing a name for a child: fashionable, rare, strange

– Fashion names, as well as fashion in general, is a social phenomenon related to the life of a certain community. The life events of this community, both global and small, as well as vibrant personalities can influence naming tendencies. The global event is the revolution of 1917, which abolished the traditional system of calendar names in Russia and gave rise to artificial names with a political meaning – from Ninel (Lenin, on the contrary) to Lagshmivary (Schmidt Camp in the Arctic).

The personalities setting the fashion for the names did not necessarily have to be heroic. Thus, the popularity of the name Angelica in the USSR was promoted by a movie released in the 1960s.

But besides the names, the carriers of which for some reason left an indelible mark on the hearts of future fathers and mothers, fashionable names also include those which, probably, are better named after favorites. These are the names that occupy top positions in the lists of children born annually compiled by the registry offices, that is, the most frequent.

And here it is actually difficult to say why one or another name wins. Why is now the name of the favorite for the girl – Sonya?

And 15 years ago were Nastya and Polina?

In life, the name of a favorite, if you do not refer to statistics registry offices, reveals itself only when the child is in the peer community. Parents can rejoice that they have named their son Alexander in honor of his grandfather, and then they will be sad when it turns out that there are five more Sash in the class.

Here, the frequency of the name conflicts with the main functions of the name – identifying and individualizing. And in the presence of a large number of matches of names in a small team, you have to change the address (for example, call by name) or add a nickname.

When a name becomes massive, its frequency decreases, and another name is put forward as a favorite. Therefore, Nastya gradually goes into the shadows.

On some site I met a phrase that was addressed to a young mother: “Do you have a boy or Nastya?” But there are also regular favorites – this is the name Alexander. The high position over the past 25 years remains in the name of Maria.

Zlata-Silver, Willow, Luchezar, Milava, are examples of exotic names given to girls last year. The parents, apparently, tried very hard to make the daughter’s name beautifully sounded and associated with light, joy, something sweet, sweet and at the same time Slavic. But did the parents think about the combination of the name with the patronymic?

The middle name has begun to play a smaller role than before, but still Luchezara Ivanovna or Iva Denisovna sound not so poetic anymore … In addition, nouns are too clearly seen through these names. And for the Russian language and our onomastic culture this is not typical (although we have Faith, Hope, Love, Lyudmila and Vladimir).

Will a woman feel good all her life carrying a load of the objective meaning of her name?

Choosing a name for a child: fashionable, rare, strange

– Remember the story from the forums: 3-year-old Emelyu was sent to kindergarten, and after some time, the mother is interested in the teacher, will not his children tease me for an unusual name? The teacher answers: “And who will tease him? Frol, Epifan, or Kalistrat? ”Our ancestors with an irresponsible name tried to distract evil forces from a child (Nekhorosh, Nekras, Nevzglyad, Poor).

Today, on the contrary, many parents strive, like a fairy from a fairy tale, to bestow the qualities of an euphonious name rather than protect them, this is especially noticeable by female names. In the kindergarten, which is visited by my daughter Julia, there are few girls with common names, but there is Eka, Milena, Martha, Nick … However, some names exist only in documents, and the surrounding people call the child in some other way. My grandfather and his sister were named after the Revolution – Rev and Lucius.

Aunt Lucy was in a better position. Grandfather’s name always had to be spelled.

My father, Sergei Revovich, is called Sergei Revolverovich because he became a professional soldier, following in his father’s footsteps.

In regional cultures and subcultures, names are a marker of ethnic heritage. Several times I met girls who did not like being called Masha: as a rule, this happened to young ladies who are in the process of becoming and self-affirmation. They urged them to be called Maries.

Masha is confused, “Masha and the Three Bears”. But Mary – yes, it sounds!

However, the rejection of one’s own name passes, as a rule, after overcoming the first adult crisis in 18-22 years.

I would like to appeal to parents: take care of the child, think about how he will live, where and in what conditions he may be. In order for a new name to become familiar, like, for example, Jaures, years must pass in order for its carrier to assert itself, and this is a long and not always easy way. Children at certain age periods are very cruel.

I am sure that a compromise can be found in the selection of a national name that would not contradict both its own and local traditions.

Denmark has a law on proper names. Such onomastic fantasies, as we have, the Danes do not allow. If suddenly the parents decide to name the child by a name not provided for by the law, they will have to go through a difficult procedure of approvals.

The Danish National Church registers a new name, the registrar of the state church is informed about it. This must be done before the baby is 6 months old. Only then will he receive a birth certificate.

In Denmark, it is not allowed to give names that are suitable for both sexes, and artificial abbreviations (Vilhenor – V.I. Lenin is the father of the revolution) are also prohibited.

And in this country the match of the name with the name (Peter Peter) is unacceptable – they are simply not registered).

For me, as for my mother, a psychologist and a specialist in the field of voice and speech, there are two simple criteria in choosing a name. First: the name and patronymic should sound harmonious, especially by the number of vowels-consonants. Second, think about how the children will be called at school.

Children very cleverly shorten and simplify phrases.

– In my practice there were cases when the child did not like his name. Each person chooses the comfortable form of his name and asks him to contact him so when communicating.

Unusual name indicates the desire of parents to highlight their children. But is this the manifestation of individuality?

Working with a large number of children, I am convinced that the artsy name today is not uncommon. As a rule, complex names are simplified to convenient in everyday communication.

Again, in schools, gardens, you may experience problems with pronunciation, spelling of such names, which can be a traumatic factor for a child.

Choosing a name, evaluate what the name means to you in a psychological, characteristical sense. Your attitude to the baby and his personal development depend on it.

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