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Children’s friendship: not so easy!

Children's friendship: not so easy!

Children of this type have leadership qualities, but they are not true leaders. This leader is independent, independent, but at the same time has a number of positive features that contribute to the consolidation of the group. But the little dictators dominate the group solely through intimidation, threats and suppression of others.

The little dictator drowns out the peer initiative in the game, insisting on his own strength. Friends will have to play those games that he wants to play, and give toys, whether they like it or not.

Often with the problem faced by the only children in the family. Being accustomed to general attention at home, the kid in a new team tends to occupy a central place.

It happens that a child with leadership skills becomes an “anti-leader” just because he is not accustomed to taking care of others. On the contrary, overprotecting crumbs of parents, as well as overly soft and liberal, are often willing to limit their desires for the sake of his whims.

The art of living in society is not innate, it is comprehended over time, through trial and error, as well as repeated teachings. Teach children not only to defend their rights, but also to take into account, to respect the feelings and rights of others.

In the first place here, of course, is your positive example. Encourage your child to do good deeds.

Let him see the result and get joy from it.

All children quarrel, fight and call names, these unpleasant moments can be corrected by teaching them to resolve disputes in other, more civilized ways. But if the child’s aggression is not aimed at achieving a certain goal and the only goal for the child is to cause harm to a comrade when the mockery of other children brings satisfaction to him – this should already cause serious concern.

Children's friendship: not so easy!

This child is afraid to meet, come first and offer to play, say the first word. And to perform at the matinee or take part in the play for such a toddler is a real meal.

The reason for this behavior may be the appropriate temperament or type of nervous system. Often in families with such babies, parents exercise increased control over the life of the child.

Kids grow up in an atmosphere of excessive severity and constant bans, in a lack of affection and praise. Fearing bad influence, parents can seriously limit their child in communicating with other children.

Children, deprived of sufficient contacts at an early age, in the future simply do not know how to behave with their peers, they are constrained, they hardly express their opinion, they are uncomfortable in the company of strangers. All this prevents the full communication of the baby in the team.

Frequently walk with your child on the playground, stimulate his communication with peers, go with him, invite friends who have children to him. Show your child an example of establishing first contacts with strangers.

Teach your child to share their toys, always take to the playground those toys that the kid would be willing to share with others. If he is embarrassed to speak, never insist and do not press on him, give him time to get comfortable, carry on a conversation until it is clear that the child is ready to engage in conversation. And do not imagine your crumb to other people as shy and shy, he should not think that he has something wrong with communication, he just needs more time to adapt.

Children's friendship: not so easy!

He constantly shares toys, makes compliments to others, willingly takes part in games, obeying the rules that other kids dictate, he tries not to clash, taking a neutral position, following the lead of friends.

Such a child is likely to be strongly subordinate to the parents. “Slave” only wants to meet the requirements of the group and be included in the game. Unfortunately, this zeal makes it an easy bait for his determined buddies.

More active children begin to prevail over such a child, sometimes suggesting to him not always fair rules of the game or a role that they themselves would not have assumed. Subsequently, any initiative or idea emanating from this child is ignored, his wishes and opinions are not taken into account.

As a result, such a child often has to agree with the general opinion and do what he doesn’t like, or play the wrong role. The desire to get peer approval can force a child to follow a group not only in a harmless game.

Resisting peer pressure is always not easy, but especially to inspired children.

Take up the development of leadership qualities of your son or daughter, it will in any case equalize his self-esteem and character. Encourage your baby to be the first to offer activities, games, or ideas.

Teach him to say no, it will help him in the future to react correctly to various situations, save him from the negative influence of his peers, alcoholism, drug addiction and other dangerous moments. Learn also to defend their position.

In a dispute, listen to the child and sometimes give in or acknowledge his case. In order to combat child uncertainty and indecision, come up with a number of situations, the exit from which will require a certain firmness and courage, lose these situations with your child repeatedly.

Children's friendship: not so easy!

A little daredevil takes away a toy he likes, destroys someone else’s fortress, calls his name, fights, bites and pushes.

Young children are not taught the laws of diplomacy, so when kids are angry, excited or annoyed, the position of power is often the only correct one. Another reason is still childish egocentrism. The baby is not yet able to love his neighbor as he loves himself.

His needs are paramount, the needs of others do not concern him yet. There is a lack of vocabulary.

The actions of the little man always “speak” louder than his words. The child is still learning how to play and share properly with others.

It is difficult for him to understand that if another kid plays with his toy, he will definitely get it back.

Help your child understand that others can also feel. To do this, first of all respect the rights of your child. Many parents, filled with good intentions to raise a generous baby, put the rights of his playmates above the rights of their own children.

Without asking permission, they offer children his favorite toys. Despite the fact that their baby may be right in a dispute over the scoop, they automatically take the side of another child.

Try not to interfere in children’s disputes. But if someone starts to bite or throw sand, here, of course, it is necessary to intervene. It doesn’t matter who started the battle, the main thing is to put an end to it.

Take the bully aside.

Forced isolation needs to be accompanied by a short admonition: “It is painful to bite, this is very bad. Now we have to sit and think about why you can’t bite. ”

If the child already knows how to speak, teach him to say: “Excuse me.” The kid must learn to link what he bit or hit someone with immediate exclusion from the game.

Also try to protect the child from the negative. Show an example of non-aggressive behavior. Even when you are angry or angry, do not use physical force in raising a child.

To curb the little bully, have patience. Constantly explain to your child how words can express the emotions that he expresses with aggression towards others.

Children's friendship: not so easy!

Most of the time your baby spends in tears due to the fact that his friend does not want to play with him in the typewriter or someone from the children selected his toy.

This is typical of children who start to go to kindergarten and get upset when they feel a lack of attention from their peers or take abusive actions of playmates too close to their hearts. The kid still does not know how to assert his rights and stop the ruffian impulses of little friends.

Increased sensitivity can be caused by lack of attention and sympathy in the family, domestic problems and conflicts, and in this connection – feelings of guilt, fear and loneliness. And if no one helps him to cope with them, get answers to questions, refuses to listen to the child, then touchiness and whining will become a sustainable form of protection against fear and anxiety.

When a child is deprived of praise and warmth, he can take root for a long time in the infant form of behavior, expressing any dissatisfaction with his tears. But it happens that the increased sensitivity and vulnerability is a property of the nervous system of the child.

Strengthening confidence in yourself and in your love will return to your baby emotional stability. If the baby is upset, hug him, explain that he can express his frustration in words, not tears. As soon as he stops crying, always cheer.

Plan games for a time when the baby is not tired, not hungry and in a good mood. Pay more attention to the crumbs – then the need to get him crying will disappear. If the child is looking for your warmth, do not react evil and intolerant.

Do not refuse simple requests by constantly saying “no”. Show sympathy more often (if it is not a whim and not a manipulation, but a real childish experience).

Praise your baby more often, especially if he overcame himself at a difficult time and did not cry.

Do not offer baby toys to other children without his permission. After all, you yourself do not give outsiders vilify his purse, right?

Children's friendship: not so easy!

Some kids love to stand out among others, showing off their skills, showing off their toys.

The main goal of such a child is a positive assessment of the people around them. The kid lacks positive, positive attention and desperately needs self-esteem and recognition.

The only way he chooses is a “profitable” comparison of himself with others.

Give your child more attention, do not miss the praise when he deserves it, and not wins. Think about the field in which your child can be successful, where he can realize himself.

As for comparisons, it is good if the kid can successfully compete not with others, but with himself. Today, he didn’t really succeed, but tomorrow he coped with the task, and this is a real reason for praise. Teach him to rejoice over his friends when they have learned something or done something good.

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