This is the most obvious answer. That is why the problem of cleanliness worries parents.
With a child stained, they themselves do not look very good. Apparently, they did not show an example. Apparently, not patiently explained why.
And maybe they themselves at home, while no one sees, use not napkins, but their own bathrobe. And you can’t argue – the proof is close by. From head to toe in chocolate and varnish with sparkles.
The question “Why are you doing this?” Most likely will not answer. Therefore, watch a little and draw your own conclusions.
Everything has its time. The child had long to study all the dirt that comes his way. All touch, pour, pour and spread on yourself.
This is not just normal, but necessary. Children just like that, through tactile sensations, study the world around them. Of course, this method of research does not end immediately, as soon as everything that is in its immediate environment has been studied.
If a five-year-old child sees, for example, building mastic or some unusual glue, he will also want to thoroughly investigate it. True, it will not be necessary to touch it all with bare hands – perhaps, simply poke it with a wand or touch it through the paper. But dust, dirt from a puddle, small pebbles are no longer of great interest for a child of this age.
Take it, rub or sprinkle it on himself, he will not. However, there are children who missed the dirty stage. They were sitting in wheelchairs, tied up in beautiful suits, hand and foot, playing in their cleanest arena and did not even know that there were so many interesting things around.
Most often these are children who are brought up by nannies or grandmothers. But not because nannies and grandmothers do not know how important activity is for a child.
Simply, they are more worried about providing security, and for this they agree to donate interesting pastime. Parents who, upon arriving home, will see a mountain of dirty clothes and traces of what is not clear in the hands of the baby, will certainly doubt the ability of the nurse to choose the right place for a walk.
And with the grandmother can and absolutely quarrel. A child who gets dirty for this reason, after he has succeeded in this, is usually very happy.
He behaves not according to age directly. And we have nothing left but to let it get dirty.
Interests and inclinations manifest themselves very early, but they are still difficult to consider. For example, a child who does not enter into common games, but sits on the sidelines and looks at everyone, seems to us to be detached. “I am not at all interested in communication, other people, he sits and disassembles his toy.” In fact, everything can be quite the opposite.
Children who stay aside like to observe communication very much, understand people’s relations better than others and perfectly recognize emotions. For them to stay away is also a kind of game. Watch, guess, learn, suggest developments.
The same thing with the study of the world. It may look like property damage or inadequate behavior. “If you rub your hands with nail polish and apply them to your T-shirt, they stick longer than they do to your feet.
And if you sprinkle powder on top, they may not stick at all. ” There are few mothers who are really interested in the results of the experiment and who will want to sponsor this event further (“Really? And for how much they stick if you add tone cream?”).
Most likely, the study will be forced to roll on the same day. However, after six months, in some unexpected place, you will still find pants, socks and bows spoiled with varnish (or maybe not with varnish).
If the child is so interested in the world around, then it is for a long time. To prevent this is to deprive the child of the opportunity to realize his interest.
And if you hinder hard, you can cause anxiety and frustration. Organize the process yourself, contribute to it.
Then, by the way, there will be less fears for possible harm to health.
“Here is a handkerchief for you, it is in this pocket, and here is another napkin – if you need to wipe your hands.” Both the handkerchief and the napkin are found every evening in the same places where they were put, but on the sleeve – all that they had to wipe.
Why? Either forgot, or just happened.
Character traits are manifested very early. There are pedantic children for whom to put toys in their places – how to wash in the morning. And there are scattered, which both can easily forget.
In everyday affairs, they also miss a lot and do it as if unconsciously. Having become soiled, they will not clean the stain or change the clothes, after seeing the stain, they begin to smear it on the table. Such muddy carelessness even outwardly differ: face, hands, clothes are rarely clean and tidy.
And here, of course, parents need to approach the problem more seriously. After all, the inability to take care of yourself is only one of the problems of inattention. First of all, do not scold the child for such spaces.
Negative judgments (“such a slob”, “dirty”, “you can not give normal things”) further disorganize inattentive children, add anxiety. Set simple, executable rules, explain what caused them.
Involve your child in measures to bring clothes in order, fix it on how it looks. Children are much less likely adults to look in the mirror, less demanding on their appearance. So you must become the mirror from which the child receives information about himself.
And this should tell him what to look for. It is useless to say: “Go and put yourself in order, we cannot walk outside like this,” I must say what exactly needs to be done. Otherwise, he will brush his hair, but he will remain with his face dirty from paint.
Of course, these rules apply to all children. This is how (and, of course, by example) the skill of purity and neatness is formed.
But a child who is not very attentive needs more time to master it.
Grown-up people, under stress, like to lie in the bath, beat the suds, rub with cream. Or, for example, walk along the warm sand, pour it with your hands. Or dig in the beds in your garden.
All these activities soothe, relieve stress. We seem to be returning at a time when contact with nature was immediate.
The desire to get dirty in children is almost the same. If an adult (of preschool age) a child suddenly began to play in the sandbox, enthusiastically digging holes, pouring water and stirring this porridge-child, then it is quite possible that this is his way to achieve harmony.
If suddenly she does not part with pieces of clay, constantly twists them in her hands, puts them in her pocket, then maybe she doesn’t know another suitable way to get rid of negative emotions. There is no desire to get dirty as such.
Dirt is just a side effect of “therapy.” It is difficult, after all, to remain clean if you knead clay every day. Parents need to look for the root cause of such hobbies.
Especially since there are usually other signs of tension (biting nails, it is difficult to fall asleep, asks to read the same book). But to strive to save the child from his favorite activities, it is not necessary.
On the contrary – assist them as much as possible. Paints, modeling, building figures from the sand – this is art therapy!
Allows you to tinker with the material and express emotions through artistic images.
Often this problem – the child tends to get dirty – appears at the time when the youngest is born. Not immediately, but after about six months.
Everyone calmed down, the life of the family went back to normal, the elder seemed to be used to the younger one. And now – please!
They just wiped off the little one from the puree, as if the elder were walking with the same slaps on the face. The motive is simple – the desire to stop separation from mother.
The child wants to prove that he, too, still needs attention, direct contact. And the more parents say “You are big,” the more pronounced the protest becomes. How big am I?
Do not go so far, and in a puddle I climbed, and I’ll cut all the cookies on my clothes. And maybe even worse – in wet pants I will walk around the house. No, sooner you stopped paying attention to me.
Such a reaction is not always associated with the birth of a younger one. It can be in any case, if the child is missing something.
Getting dirty is one of the easiest ways for a child to achieve communication. If all the way from the kindergarten they say “Shut up while the adults are talking.
Go calmly, do not interrupt, ”then they certainly will at least see if they get dirty with a candy or spray with water from a puddle. The most unpleasant thing in this case is that the way of manipulating your problems is fixed.
The child learns that interest in himself can attract only if there is something wrong with him. And it continues to create this disorder. This can be corrected only by what it initially demands – by attention.
But this does not always mean that attention should be more in time. A child of five or six does not really need the constant presence of parents. But he always wants to know what is important, loved and interesting for them.
That he is always interested in them, and not only when he is worn from head to toe.