According to a study in which 2,200 mothers from the United States, Canada, Japan, Australia and 5 European countries participated, girls and boys from 2 to 5 years old show more agility sitting in front of the computer than pedaling a bicycle. 63% of young children were able to turn the computer on and off, 69% knew how to handle a mouse, 58% played simple computer games, and only 52% knew how to ride a bicycle, only 37% could write their name, 20% knew how to swim and only 11% managed to tie their own shoelaces.
Nowadays, specialists – scientists, psychologists, specialists in child development – do not have a common opinion on this issue. Just a decade ago, most educators were convinced that video games were harmful, and today experimental results have been published, during which it became clear that video games help develop visual attention, memory, imagination and strategic thinking, instill planning skills.
It has been proven that computer games, in which both hands and eyes are involved, improve coordination, helping children to quickly understand what is happening around them, and to respond to it faster. But doctors and parents are still afraid of the growing number of children leading almost exclusively sedentary lifestyles. Doctors warn: age from birth to school is the most important point for acquiring basic motor skills; sitting for hours in front of a TV or computer at this age can have irreversible consequences.
Maybe parents should focus on developing the strength, flexibility, dexterity of the child, his motor skills, and defining the development of a computer until elementary school? The French Pediatric Association recommends parents follow the “3-6-9-12 rule”. Its author, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Serge Tisdonon, said: “Computer technologies are designed for the adult brain.
In a child, the brain is just being formed, it is still not able to simultaneously perceive the real and virtual world. ”
Alexander, 32 years old, psychologist, father of Seva, 6 years old and Ksenia, 4 years old
It is useless and even dishonest to act like a technophobe in front of children. Whether we like it or not, our children are representatives of a new race, inborn digital people whom network technologies have surrounded since infancy.
Although the volume of the human brain has not changed in 40,000 years, its content and structure of work as a result of communication with the Internet is changing before our eyes: new functions appear, and the old, unnecessary ones, go to sleep. A five-year-old user can already play a game and listen to an audiobook at the same time, while simultaneously communicating with dad via Skype.
The Internet teaches multitasking. You can complain about the “clip consciousness”, scold, be afraid, but you still have to admit that for a modern preschooler, the cross in the corner of the window, the mouse and the cursor are the same everyday objects as pencils and cubes.
Our children learn to write, without pulling hooks, and by pressing buttons, they can make a whole text from some emoticons, but they have not turned into cyborgs! Yes, most children see an elephant and a tiger, first on the Internet, and then at the zoo. But this is not proof that the Internet is killing interest in wildlife – it can, on the contrary, stimulate it.
We need to trust children more. My son and daughter spend two hours a day in any weather in the open air, not remembering their smartphones.
Their interest in technology does not contradict the interest in real life.
Victor, teacher, Alice’s father is 4 years old and Peter is 2 years old.
Yes, there is a problem. Increasingly, I meet children who do not feel any enthusiasm when they are offered to go out of town, catch fish, and drive a ball.
Even swimming in the sea is not as interesting to them as their game console. I think dads need to spend more time with children, and not at the computer or in the cinema, but at the stadium, in the woods, in the park at the very least so that the children do not become weaned by six years of movement. Now, children are not allowed to walk alone in the yard, and their time is arranged by the hour: English, music, school preparation, speech therapist … In the classroom, in the queue at the clinic, in transport, even at home they hear: “Do not turn around!
Do not stomp! Don’t kick your feet! ”When they walk in kindergarten, they are not allowed to run very much, you have to behave“ decently ”. And if he walks with his grandmother or elderly nanny, here, as they say, comments are superfluous … There are, of course, sports sections, but they are often chosen without taking into account the inclinations of the child.
For example, a calm, slow-moving boy is given to karate or a plump girl – to rhythmic gymnastics … Only an inferiority complex develops from such exercises. There are things that still need to teach a child before school. Play ball, swim, ride a bike, scooter, jump rope, ski … In 3-5 years, the child learns quickly and he likes to learn.
And the computer will not go anywhere, up to four years, you can definitely do without it.
Tatiana Bednik, clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, author of the training “Effective Parents”
“Yes, indeed, there are studies confirming the beneficial effect of computer games on the cognitive development of a child. But let’s not forget that memory, attention, hand-eye coordination are only certain aspects of a person’s mental development. Not less significant are such aspects as speech, emotional, physical development, communication skills, etc.
Computer games do not contribute to this, in contrast to live communication with relatives and peers. In addition, for the development of creative thinking of the same fine motor skills, it is much more useful for the child to tinker, glue, sculpt, than to make something out of the given details in a computer game.
There the flight of fancy is strictly limited. Of course, all this does not mean at all that it is necessary to strictly prohibit children from using a computer. It seems to me that there is no need at all to attach any special status to the computer at home.
It should be treated like any other device that makes life easier for us. It is just a tool that we use as needed. For a child of preschool age, communication with close people is and in the first place of importance.
If a computer game is a reason for this communication (it is necessary to discuss with the child what he does, what happens in the game, etc.), then there is nothing terrible about it. If the computer replaces communication with parents (which is more often the case, the parents themselves put the child at the computer so that he does not interfere with them), then this is bad. And if parents often resort to this method of “neutralizing” a child, then this is absolutely bad.
Because addiction develops quickly, and then return the child to real life is difficult. Such a child, as a rule, does not know how to occupy himself, to play himself.
Moreover, if a child is advanced in computer technology, but he does not know how to build relationships with children and with adults, he is “doomed” to big problems at school. ”
Maxim Prokhorov, child and adolescent psychologist at the Volkhonka Psychological Center, a graduate student at the Department of Educational Psychology and Pedagogy, Faculty of Psychology, Moscow State University. Mv Lomonosov
“Nowadays, the Internet, various gadgets and video games are already an integral part of the culture, including children’s. According to modern state educational standards, an elementary school student must be able to navigate freely on the Internet, be able to find the necessary information and process it.
And no matter how much we would like to completely protect our beloved child from the dangers of the global network and the abundance of video games, this is no longer possible, and it may even harm. Surprisingly, now the 1.5-year-old children today easily handle tablet computers and touch phones.
The first time contact with such equipment should occur only under the supervision of an adult and with his participation. A complete ban on communicating with a computer and computer games will not lead to anything good, because the child will not only have a difficult learning process, he will have difficulties in communicating with his peers. It is very important for children to “be in the subject line” – to know what is fashionable to play in now, to be able to discuss it.
However, the amount of time at the computer should be strictly limited. It is important not only to prohibit, but to find other activities: clubs, sports, walking, reading. Do not forget that the most important factor here is how the parent himself spends his free time, because children primarily focus on important for them adults.
No child will read books if his parents do not. ”
Dmitry, 29 years old, designer, father of Egor and Gleb twins 4.5 years
Computer, console, cellular and other gadgets have (or will soon be) all children, and who has shoes with laces? It seemed to our parents that we watch too much video, their parents – that TV with cartoons represents a terrible threat for children. Parents are always worried, for that they are parents, and children are always children, they cannot without movement.
He will play a video game, then he will get up from the sofa and rush to drive pigeons in the park or ride down the hill. It is probably easier for me than for other parents, since each of my sons always have a company for fussing, fights, ball games. By the way, none of them can sit at the computer for a long time – they have to compete all the time.
Maybe this is the solution to the problem – there should be several children in the family, so that you do not have to look for a partner for games in the virtual world?
Anton Sorin, PhD in Psychology, Researcher at Moscow State University Mv Lomonosova, general director of the Quartet Psychological Center, a practicing child psychologist, an expert in the field of analytical work with children and adolescents
“It is difficult to imagine the life of a modern child without various technical means: game consoles, tablets, smartphones, TV and a computer. But in order that they could not harm the mental and physical health of the child, parents should be guided by simple rules. Interaction with various technical devices can harm first of all the baby’s vision, so strictly limit its interaction with them to 15-30 minutes a day.
And in general to school age you should not abuse communication with the TV and computer. In addition, the long preservation of a fixed body posture when watching a cartoon or playing a phone negatively affects the development of motor skills and the formation of brain structures. The skills necessary for the effective development of computer technology can be acquired by a child at school age, and the time for the formation of motor and cognitive functions, the main period of development of which falls on the preschool age, may be missed.
At the same time, it is not worthwhile to completely deprive the child of the technical fruits of progress, since they are an integral part of modern culture, and, depriving the child of the opportunity to interact with them, we largely hinder his socialization, turning off the child from active communication with peers. However, the more diverse the child’s leisure time, the smaller the part of his life that gadgets will take. It is important for parents to overcome their laziness and actively interact with the child, for example, to read books with him, to walk, to play role-playing and outdoor games.
The most productive for the all-round development of a baby is to include him in the most diverse forms of activity. ”
Up to 3 years – minimum TV and computer. The child needs to touch, smell, feel, that is, to actively stimulate all five senses.
Sitting in front of the TV screen (including viewing special children’s programs) should not interfere with the continuous process of active learning about the world.
Up to 6 years old – no consoles. Let the child paint, cut, sculpt, assemble a mosaic better, learn to play the piano or xylophone.
The development of fine motor skills is necessary to activate the communication between different areas of the brain.
Up to 9 years old – Internet only with adults. In elementary school, most children left to themselves do not know what to do.
Therefore, the worst thing we can do is to leave them alone with the screen.
Only after 12 years old – Internet unaccompanied.