Many women after childbirth do not even want to think about sex, and the point here is not at all in the recommendations of the doctor. The idea of resuming intimate life with a husband raises many questions: will the sensations remain the same, will it be painful and is it possible to get pregnant again.
As a result, husbands are offended, and wives are completely immersed in the care of the newborn.
We tell about 8 important facts about sex after the birth of a child, which will help to improve the intimate life in the family.
Many women at first after childbirth experience discomfort and even pain during intimate closeness with her husband. And not only young mothers who give birth naturally complain about this.
Women who have experienced a cesarean section often experience the same problems, despite the fact that their vagina was not affected during labor.
According to obstetrician-gynecologist from Louisville (Kentucky, USA) Rebecca Booth, it’s not about injury, but about postnatal hormonal restructuring of a woman’s body. After birth, the level of estrogen in the mother’s body is greatly reduced and remains so throughout the breastfeeding period. Namely, this hormone is responsible for the elasticity of the tissues of the vagina. Low levels of estrogen, coupled with elevated levels of prolactin and oxytocin, cause symptoms in the woman’s body that resemble menopause: hot flashes, sweating, dryness and discomfort in an intimate place.
Such problems may disturb the young mother for 2-3 months after the appearance of the baby.
Usually, if the birth has passed without complications, it is possible to return to sexual life after 6 weeks (but only after consulting with a gynecologist). And in order to make the return as pleasant as possible, Dr. Booth advises to arm yourself with a glass of wine, a sense of humor and plenty of lubricant.
The first time after giving birth to many couples is not up to the joys of family life. Lack of sleep, frequent feedings, attempts to adjust the regime of the day of the baby – all these difficulties, even if temporary, do not add moods.
In addition, young mothers are often shy of their bodies: a tummy that has not yet disappeared after pregnancy, an overweight and painful breast filled with milk. Women not yet accustomed to their new body doubt that all this may seem seductive to her husband.
In fact, the very nature of the first time after the birth of the baby is not conducive to sex. The fact is that during breastfeeding a huge amount of the hormone oxytocin enters the blood. With its help, the relationship between mother and baby is established. But he also significantly reduces the sexual desire of a woman to his partner.
This is a kind of natural contraception: not wanting to make love helps you not to get pregnant again too soon.
Many women returning to sex after giving birth, are surprised to notice that the manhood of their spouse … somewhat decreased in size. However, the point here, of course, is not a man. Depending on the age of the woman and the number of births, the vagina can stretch, which affects feelings during sex.
According to Dr. Booth, women after caesarean are also at risk, as the muscles stretch under the influence of pregnancy hormones.
Sex after the birth of a child is very important for both partners, says sexologist Amy Levine from New York. If the intimate life after birth is interrupted, the spouses can quickly feel just neighbors living under the same roof.
This is the shortest path to quarrels, quarrels and even divorce. Intimate relationships remind the couple that they are still beloved, and not just mom and dad. If a woman is not yet ready for sex, a man should not rush her. Explain to your husband that tender hugs, kisses, a long prelude, after which you can gradually move further and further, are important for you.
Not bad from time to time to arrange romantic dates and spend time alone, entrusting time to care for the baby grandmother and grandfather.
Young parents are busy people. But amidst all the busyness and turmoil, it’s not difficult to devote time to each other. Sexologist Amy Levine advises taking advantage of the opportunity and doing “this”, say, in the bathroom or in the pantry.
Minutes of unexpected intimacy will help add spice to relationships and awaken forgotten feelings when the current mom and dad were young and reckless.
After a whole day alone with the baby and household chores, the young mother barely gets to bed, let alone sex. It is often necessary to deny her husband in intimacy, and this eventually weakens the bond between the spouses.
A good way out in this situation can be baby’s nap time. And on weekends, a grandmother can walk with a child, so that parents can finally take care of themselves, like in the good old days!
Despite all the difficulties that spouses may experience during the first time after childbirth, most couples admit: after the appearance of the crumbs, they enjoy sex much more than before. Having a baby has a greater effect on a woman, Levine argues. The feeling of your body is changing, and the intimate organs become more sensitive to caress.
Even if a woman does not want to think about sex immediately after the birth of a child, there will be times when she wants to do it again. Perhaps this will take more time than we would like, but the baby will no longer be tortured by colic, he will sleep all night in his crib, and the parents will again meet with friends. According to women who have passed this way, it is the most difficult after the birth of the first child.
And more children do not mean less sex. Just at some point you realize that with the advent of children, the ideal situation for intimate intimacy may never arise. Therefore, you need to give pleasure to yourself and your spouse, how, when and where it is possible.