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51 Principles of Early Development by Cecile Lupan, author of the best-selling book Believe in Your Child

51 Principles of Early Development by Cecile Lupan, author of the best-selling book Believe in Your Child

In her book “Believe in Your Child”, published in 1987, Lupan described her method of early development, which is based on the sincere interest of the child and the parent in any activities. Only mutual enjoyment of classes, in her opinion, is able to bear fruit in early development, not to discourage the child’s interest in learning, to raise an intellectually and physically developed child.

The book became popular because, being a simple mom, Lupan described in detail her classes with her daughters, not making them as a textbook, but as a diary, sharing her thoughts with readers, thus inspiring a great number of parents.

We present you the 51 principles of education and early development from Cecile Lupan:

  1. A child is not a vessel that needs to be filled, but a fire that needs to be lit.
  2. The best teachers for the baby are his parents.
  3. Learning is a game that should be stopped before the child gets tired.
  4. It is impossible not to notice the difference between a happy child and a child who is forced to do something by force.
  5. The absence of coercion is the principle by which we are guided, this is our strength.
  6. A great many of us are fraught with tremendous energy, creative forces, and a store of patience that can move mountains if disaster strikes one of our children. Why not try to use these treasures for our “normal” children?
  7. Instead of looking at babbling toddler as a human larva, see him as a student preparing his doctoral dissertation.
  8. Everyone knows that the child will speak as they say around him. Depending on the environment, it will be expressed in a language refined and honed, or figurative, interspersed slang words, or, finally, in a primitive and coarse language.
  9. Speech begins to develop at birth, and not at the moment when the child utters the first word.
  10. For the development of the child’s speech, it is very important to read it out loud, better daily. To instill in your child a love of reading books is your main task.
  11. Expanding the child’s vocabulary should be your daily task. Therefore, watch your speech, talking to the baby, avoid slang, vulgar words.
  12. Learning to read at school starts at six, it is too late. By the age of six, fabulous abilities to perceive knowledge are quickly depleted.
  13. If a child’s brain has not been trained by intellectual activity during the first years of life, it will be very difficult for him to achieve a high level of understanding, especially with often simply repulsive schooling methods.
  14. It is believed that the optimal age to start learning a baby is 3-6 months. Starting in a year is not bad either. After two years, the child will be taught every year more difficult.
  15. Why not start with the alphabet? Because the basis of each teaching is the principle: from the known and the concrete to the unknown and the abstract. The letters of the alphabet are a complete abstraction. The elements of the language are words, not letters.
  16. Humanity needs geniuses. There are no evil geniuses – this is absurd. There are no ineffective geniuses, then it is nothing more than “walking encyclopedias”. Genuine genius is measured by the results of its activities. Most of the geniuses in the school were mediocre students (Einstein, Edison, etc.), they missed them, like most children; but unlike the others, they managed to get out unscathed!
  17. Mind is the ability to own knowledge.
  18. All human knowledge is divided into ten branches: Biology, History, Geography, Music, Art, Mathematics, Human Physiology, Applied Sciences, Languages, Literature.
  19. If you are not sure that to lead your child with dear knowledge is a great happiness, do not do it. It will be better for you and for him. Stay always cheerful and do not strain.
  20. Watch yourself, sleep well and eat.
  21. Be sure to trust your child. If he was wrong, maybe he just wanted to tease you, or it was necessary that you repeat something again.
  22. Never fool a kid. Follow all the promises given to him.
  23. Support his endeavors.
  24. Correcting mistakes, never admit unpleasant comments, and with each correct answer do not forget to praise.
  25. Stop classes before he gets tired.
  26. Always answer the child’s questions. If you do not know something, do not be afraid to admit it and show the child where you will look for the answer.
  27. Express your opinion, always try to justify it.
  28. Do not forget that you are educating the future parents of your grandchildren.
  29. Make the acquisition of new knowledge a deserved reward for your baby.
  30. A child is not a counting machine! He should have an emotional and individual attitude to everything he learns.
  31. It is impossible to make a walking encyclopedia out of a child, he must have his own culture.
  32. What is this family life when the mother is constantly obsessed with care, how to invest the next portion of knowledge in her child?
  33. Each individual is at the same time a product of the effects of genetic heredity and the environment in which it grows. The only difference for us, the parents, is that we cannot change anything in the genes, but the influence of the environment is a factor that, in any case, in the first years of a child’s life, almost completely depends on us!
  34. If a child loses interest, then you annoy him with what he already knows.
  35. Children’s enthusiasm is very deceptive, and adults often wishful thinking.
  36. Examining the reproductions of paintings and sculptures is so popular with children that these activities become for them the most desired reward.
  37. Children love to learn much more than they eat sweets!
  38. If the child is not so easily interested in reading or math, then the opposite is observed when practicing various areas of art – the child becomes interested in it instantly. Moreover, this is characteristic of those children who seem, at first glance, unable to concentrate their attention.
  39. During the first year of life, the process of education focuses on four main tasks: 1. to help the child gain a positive awareness of himself and his environment; 2. to stimulate, as far as possible, all his five senses; 3. encourage the child to develop their motor activity; 4. to lay the foundations of the language.
  40. Parents should learn to feel the difference between the crying of a child who wants to sleep and other times when a child is crying for help with the help of crying.
  41. Interest in the graphic form of a word in a child can arise only if this word is somewhat close to him.
  42. Never say: “This is not a child’s business, you will understand everything when you grow up.”
  43. The child is surrounded by windows covered with black paper. It is not necessary to immediately tear off all the paper and dazzle it with a bright and unexpectedly glimmering light, but every time he notices such a window, help him find the unstuck corner of the paper, starting with which, in his own rhythm, he gradually removes it all. If you tell the kid that for him these windows simply do not exist, he risks spending his life in the dusk!
  44. Do not be afraid to show that you do not know something, however, as well as your joy at the fact that you have learned something new.
  45. Leave your child free time so that he can reflect on and put his new knowledge in order.
  46. Many people are afraid to give very small children in their hands paints, brushes, pencils: they will paint everything around, spoil it, tear it apart. But the kids, who at one time were allowed to chew on cardboard books, tear up old magazines and paint with pencils anywhere, and as much as they like, do less damage than those who were not allowed to do this.
  47. Never tell a child that he sings out of tune! The correctness of playing musical sounds is closely connected with faith in oneself.
  48. Never say that he has no hearing, even when the child cannot hear you. Someone from the “well-wishers” will give him your words. And besides, if you are able to think something like that, the child will immediately feel it.
  49. It is impossible as a reward to offer the child something edible. This is bad not only in terms of health, but also psychologically. Your respect and a good opinion are the best rewards for your child.
  50. At the same time, the desire to do without sweets at all is to eat utopia of pure water: since, you cannot prevent a child from eating sweets, he will do it and
    feel guilty. And since when he eats candy, the sky does not fall on his head, he begins to think that disobedience is not such a terrible thing.
  51. Nothing is transmitted to a child like fear.

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