When a single woman thinks about giving birth (or taking a child from an orphanage) to a child, she usually dreams of a girl. There is a perception that the absence of a man in the house will have almost no effect on the upbringing of the girl — not that the boy for whom the father is the first example to follow.
There is a common stereotype that it is not easy to raise daughters without a father — but it is all the same as with him, because the girl sticks to her mother and is open primarily to her influence. Is this really the case and is the father able to teach the daughter something special?
1. Trust in the world
The most important thing that a father gives to his daughter is a feeling of trust in the world, a sense of the security of this world and its own security in it. Subconsciously, the father acts for the girl as that big and strong person who will always stand up and come to the rescue. If mother as a woman gives first of all affection and tenderness, then the father gives a strong feeling that you have someone to stand up for.
The guardian function of the father is enshrined in many rites and traditions. For example, among Catholics and Protestants, the father leads the daughter to the crown in order to give her hand to another man – her spouse, which symbolically means: “Before that, I protected her, she was under my care and attention, and now you will protect and protect her.”
Feeling safe, the girl feels calm and tranquility, a desire to learn about the world and be initiative in it.
2. Image and the like
Father – the first man in the life of a girl. It is in communication with him that she understands how a man should behave in a family, how relationships between a man and a woman are built, what is the difference between male and female behavior. A father is a model, an example of a male role for a girl.
And it is precisely on this example that she will later rely (often subconsciously) when she chooses her future spouse and prefer those men who, by their behavior, very much resemble her father – strict or indulgent, domineering or indulgent, cold or warm in a relationship.
3. Attitude towards yourself
In addition, the father as a man first evaluates the girl: her appearance, manner of behavior, style of communication. Assessment by a man greatly influences the formation of femininity, self-attractiveness and confidence in a girl. It is good when dad often supports his daughter with his own remarks: “You are the most beautiful with me”, “You have a very elegant dress, it suits you”, “Your hair is unusually removed today – that is cute!”.
Perceiving these compliments, the daughter gains confidence in her beauty, femininity and the possibility of being exceptional for her future elect. But all these moments are traditionally important for every woman as the fair sex.
And this gives a good start for the formation of future prosperous and happy marital relations.
4. Male model
Receiving support and encouragement from her father, the girl has a lot of trust and affection for him, which allows her to understand and later easily master one of the strategies of behavior in adult life – the male. This is the strategy in which the own activity leads to success, the willingness to easily overcome difficulties, resilience.
And the daughter, brought up by the attentive and involved father, is more adaptive in adulthood, as it flexibly combines the ability to be fragile and weak in accordance with the female nature, and the ability, where necessary, to show confidence and perseverance following the example of the father.