1. As often as possible, use the routine and rituals to ensure the normal behavior of the child.
The point is not to tell the children what to do. For example, if you have a tradition for the whole family to gather at the dinner table on weekends, the child will not be able to protest this in any way, because this is a ritual.
As for the use of structures, lists, this can also be very useful. For example, you do not speak in the ultimatum form – today we have soup for lunch.
And you offer – today we have soup for dinner or baked potatoes. The child has a thought: “They do not order me what they are, but give me a choice.”
2. Acknowledge your responsibility to save the child from trouble, act in his interests.
3. All the time, communicate with the child as if it is assumed that he WANTS to be good for you.
Encourage good intentions in children. If you think your child is bad, angry, and naughty, he will specifically do unpleasant things.
It ruins the relationship.
4. Override problematic behavior and disciplinary measures to which it leads.
Build a bridge over problems and concentrate on the following link. For example, before going to bed, tell the baby: “Today we had a great day, I think you dream of me!
And tomorrow morning, I will bake you pancakes. ”
5. Always try to get hold, before giving instructions.
6. Direct the behavior of an immature baby.
Teach your child how and what to do; direct it. It can even be ordinary phrases like “That’s how we stroke a cat”, “So we ski”, etc.
7. Do not disassemble incidents more than necessary.
What to do in an incident? Instead of achieving some goals, try to just do no harm.
Indicate that a violation occurred (if necessary), block the problematic behavior (“build a bridge”), mark for yourself when you talk to the child about the incident (if the situation is tense at the moment) and get out of it than before all the better.
8. For children incapable of mixed feelings, present your will as part of their play and lose problem impulses and impulses.
9. When confronted with futility, help the child come to a feeling of sadness.
As a rule, we try to console a child with something tasty or buying a new toy, but this is the wrong approach. So the child will not take any lesson from the situation that led him to this feeling.
10. Cultivate good intentions to instill values, instill a sense of responsibility and sow the seeds of self-control.