Baby VS borsch and cleaning: what’s more important for a good mom
Mum of two children, blogger Olga Savelieva on her Facebook page talks about who is such a good mom. On the example of her personal story, she reflects on what is more important for children’s well-being: borscht and cleanliness in the house, or mother’s attention and love.
For two years I worked as a mom without a break.
It’s a good word, it’s just right. I canceled myself as a person, put the option of Olya Saveliev for a pause. I had a son and his interests blocked mine by one hundred percent. My card with hobbies, friends and works was a bit of a powerful trump card for his son.
I myself invented the rules of a good mother. More precisely not so. It turned out that they already exist inside me, they just became actual with the birth of the child.
Good mothers do everything. And poteshki, and walks, and cleaning, and borscht. Good mothers can support a conversation on any pediatric topic: from colic to choosing a school. Good mothers are always in a good mood and talk with the child jokes: This is who we have, cockerel? Cockerel golden scallop?
To my 11 months my mother ran out of patience. Mom realized that it is impossible to be a good mother with a child. Also has given me on education in other city. To the grandmother and the grandfather. Who had seen this before at a wedding. To another city two hours fly by plane or day by train.
Attention, it is important: she did it in order to remain a good mother. So that no one interferes with cooking and cleaning. But it turned out that when no one moistens the diaper, then there is nothing to erase. And the pediatrician does not go anymore.
Mom changed the settings. I edited my mother's manifesto. Now a good mother is one who works and regularly sends the child the right amount. And the house is still clean and smells of pies.
I learned to think about it without conviction. Mom sincerely believed that what she does is about a good mother. What to prioritize in the direction of cleanliness and food is about a good mother. She had the right to think so. Her manifesto of a good mother was just like that, and she was good at it.